What do you think about gift giving? What do you think about gift giving?

Gift-giving" seems to me to be a very common thing, and there is nothing strange about it.

You ask others to help you, and giving gifts is also a kind of reward, a kind of thanks.

For example, when children go to kindergarten, don't some parents give gifts to teachers? It's not uncommon to buy something for the teacher or invite the teacher to dinner. The purpose of parents is very simple, that is, they hope that teachers can take more care of their children, after all, children are in kindergarten, they are young, they are not sensible, and there is a high possibility of accidents.

But some people don't understand it, and think that teachers should treat every student fairly, and can't take special care of their children just because they have received gifts from some parents. It's true to say that, but people are complex animals, teachers are also people, and if parents don't do something, how can teachers take extra care of your children? If the teacher's children were in your class, would you ask the teacher to treat every child the same?

After all, everyone has selfish intentions, and everyone must understand this very well. It's also natural to give gifts.

Or maybe you've finished school and you're struggling to find a job. It just so happens that the people around you have channels that can help you introduce. So, isn't it normal for you to give a gift?

After all, others are asking about your work, and you should also express your gratitude. Or maybe some people say that isn't this unfair to those who apply through normal channels? In fact, there is no relative fairness in the world, some people are born to live the life of a rich person, and some people are born very poor, how can this be fair.

The same is true of society, in a complex society, people are also complex, what is so strange about gift-giving?

Actually, when we were young, we all experienced similar things. For example, if you ask your classmates to help you copy your homework, you will also say, "I'll treat you to dinner." The nature is the same, it's just a matter of how much money is shared.

So, don't be disgusted by the "gift-giving" thing, it's strange, it's a very common thing.

In fact, we often encounter gifts in our lives, in fact, I don't think that gift-giving is a wrong thing, but I think gift-giving is normal, most of us will give gifts to many people, we will give gifts to our families during the New Year's holidays, but sometimes when we ask for help, we will also give gifts to strangers, generally speaking, gifts, most of them are either tobacco, alcohol, tea, shopping cards or cash, in fact, I think this is normal, such as this year's Mid-Autumn Festival, In order to show my gratitude to my parents, I bought two bottles of good wine for my father, gave me two good cigarettes, and gave my mother some money, which is also a gift in life!

But sometimes gift-giving is also a bit of a headache, I remember a relative's son went to junior high school, every New Year's holiday, there is also a Teacher's Day, my relatives will give gifts to their son's teacher, from food to shopping cards and even cash, basically a festival will cost a lot of money, but some people think it's worth it, because you can take care of some children when you send you to the teacher, if the child takes a more one or two points in the high school entrance examination, the grasp of the college entrance examination will be greater, So some people see this as a disguised investment, so when my kids go to school, I guess I'll have to give gifts! Because everyone is like this, the human feelings of the Chinese can basically be reflected in the festival and the dinner table, so since they have been born in this era, the human relations they face are basically essential, although sometimes they are more disgusted or have a headache, but because of their own shortcomings, they have to send a little!

For the gift between my family, I think it is a respect, but other similar, if you ask someone else to give a gift, it can only be said that the favor has to be considered there!

The gift here should not be the kind of gift we visit when we go to the door of relatives, I think it should be the kind I understand. I feel that gift-giving is very common now, and what should be done after giving gifts can be done, but this can see that those who are officials are very greedy and corrupt. I think this is a bad atmosphere in society, giving everyone a psychological hint, that is, only the gift of their own things can be done quickly and well, then many people choose to give gifts to please others.

I still remember that time I saw a sitcom that a child was not admitted to a good school because of junior high school, and his parents had hope for his future, so they could only come forward to help him find a good school, and they found the director of a senior high school in their key high school through a relationship, at that time they went directly to the master's house, carrying a large bag of gifts, and the packaging was very expensive at a glance. Then I received them with a smile, and in the middle was that the parents and teachers discussed the child's study and promotion, and when I finally left, I saw the child's mother stuffing a big red envelope into the director's hand, and said: Director Our child will be handed over to you, thank you, thank you. At the beginning of the school year, that child successfully entered the key high school.

This sitcom is a very objective show that gift-giving is easy to do, but we can see from it that many people will become snobbish and greedy if they have a little real power, even if these teachers are engaged in education. Gift-giving actually adds a lot of invisible competition to us ordinary people, and a few people don't need their own efforts, relying on the strength of their parents will have no worries about food and clothing. From this point of view, the problem is quite serious.

Now the state has also recognized this problem, the introduction of the "fight tiger" policy, that is, to fight corruption and promote clean government, to crack down on those greedy, unorthodox **, I think under the correct leadership of the party, our society can be less "gift-giving" phenomenon, people who serve the country should be honest, honest, and truly do things for the people.

I think it's good, every time I have a birthday and receive a gift from my friend, I am very happy, and the feeling of surprise is exciting.

In fact, it is not a bad thing to give gifts, two people have a very good relationship, and they will give each other some gifts during the New Year and holidays to express their friendship with each other, which can enhance their feelings.

There are always people who want to take shortcuts and do things that don't follow the rules.

I used to be a student, but now I am a teacher. I guess I know it best!

When I was a student, to be precise, a graduate student, I didn't know how to give gifts to my tutor at the beginning, even if I brought some hometown specialties or something, I didn't know what to say, and when I saw the students around me giving the teacher something during the New Year's holidays, I gave some special products (in fact, it was only a few hundred dollars, compared to others' thousands, it was not a problem). In fact, I didn't think much about it at the time, but I didn't expect that there were many things that needed to trouble the tutor later, such as the reimbursement of scientific research funds, the problem of publishing expenses, and a series of times when the tutor needed to sign or the tutor needed strong support. Finally, the graduate level is considered to be a successful graduation.

Now after graduation, there are many people who need troublesome mentors, and mentors are also very helpful. So when I feel appropriate, I still need to give some gifts or something.

Now that I am a university teacher, I often face the situation of parents giving gifts. To be honest, for new teachers who have just entered the teaching profession, they were very reluctant at first in the face of parents' gifts, but later after seeing other people around them and seeing the nature of China's humane society. The heart gradually began to accept, and the gifts received were also some local specialties of the students or the parents of the students invited the teachers to have a meal or something, all of which were about a few hundred yuan.

But there is a rule that you should never take money. After receiving the gift from the parents, the students will indeed take extra care of the students' life and learning, such as the evaluation of excellence, under the same conditions, these students who have given gifts to the teacher will undoubtedly be given priority, as well as a series of things such as students asking for leave, being late or sick, etc., the teacher will be extra attentive. Of course, these students who have given me gifts are generally more obedient students in the class, and they are motivated students.

As for those students who are naughty and mischievous, disobedient, and even against you, even if it is a mountain of gold and silver, I don't think I will give it away, let alone accept it.

There is an old Chinese saying that "come and don't be rude".

Gift-giving is a traditional custom. Since ancient times, China is a humane society, the first time to meet with gifts, every New Year's holiday to relatives and friends to bring gifts, gifts on behalf of good wishes, in order to show respect for relatives and friends.

Gift-giving is the practice of expressing people's hearts in mutual interactions, and it is impossible to go empty-handed to relatives and friends during the New Year's holidays, and it is inevitable to give gifts when invited to participate in the opening celebration or wedding and funeral ceremonies of relatives and friends. Gifts represent mutual respect, and gifts can be used as a carrier to convey feelings. In ancient times, there was a rule of etiquette, and this etiquette highlighted the concept of etiquette, but it must not be said that the toiling masses seemed to represent the barbarism, and there was a great meaning of "what do you pay attention to".

Now, each of us must feel something, the rhythm of gift-giving and receiving has been accelerating, and dozens of trips are not too many in a year. When it comes to gift-giving, there is also a difference between what should and shouldn't. If it is a traditional custom, such as the elders who must be visited, the birthday of a loved one, the happy event of a special good friend, etc., then it is necessary to take a gift, which is the normal feeling of people and the common sense of the world.

Gift-giving is a noble and serious thing, the ancient rites originated from the worship of God, there are rules and gifts when sacrificing, we should also pay attention to gifts, this is not to say that it must be valuable, but to say that it should be appropriate, the choice of gifts should be based on the object, there is a lot of knowledge, as far as sending flowers is concerned, each has its own meaning.

Gifts cannot be compared, the rich give their children cars, houses, deposits and even shares, and ordinary people give ordinary gifts, as long as they express their hearts. Generally speaking, etiquette is to express respect or love, and the geometry of the value is not the most important.

It must be said that in the past, more attention was paid to "etiquette", but now it seems to prefer "things".

In social life, due to the moral concepts and customs and habits of the formation of gifts, such as money, New Year's money and other gifts, to show respect and closeness to the recipient, the country of traditional Chinese etiquette, to give each other courtesy, is an important way to express feelings, as long as both parties feel natural and within the scope of the ability to do.

There is also a purposeful exchange of courtesy, this kind of this, I think that people's giving and gaining in the process of doing things is also in line with the laws of society, can be green rain moisturizing things can trickle down to a trickle, but must not be mercenary, eager to profit and courteous, that is very likely to violate the law, then both sides will lose, the taste is too rich, not to be talked about in detail, the strength and angle need to be grasped by personal experience, in short, the words of others do not need to ask, the eyes of others do not need to see, all autonomous.

Have you ever considered who has the power at stake, who determines your future, whether it is your boss or performance, if your boss decides your promotion, and you will only bury your head in work, you will not look up at the road, and you will inevitably hit your head and bleed. If your performance determines your future, you will only slap the horse, and the leader will not reuse you.

Sunshine thinking. Some people misinterpret the promotion of positions as the only way to give gifts to leaders, and generalize all gifts as unseemly, which is one-sided. If you ask for something improper, you will inevitably be unpopular, and when you give gifts, you will inevitably be weak and negative, and the leader will generally not accept you, and there will be problems when you accept it.

Think differently and think about things with sunshine. If you usually encounter difficulties in your work, you should learn from the leader with the attitude of asking the elders for advice, improve your work, enhance your ability in all aspects of work and morality, and let the leader guide and discover your ability, most of the elders will be willing to teach you experience, and you have not violated the rules to give gifts to yourself to cause trouble to the leader, why not.

When you give gifts with a certain purpose, you naturally have to do it, just like when you go to visit your relatives during the Spring Festival, you will not tremble, there is only one situation where you will be weak-hearted, that is, borrowing money from relatives, and relatives will not welcome you at this time.

Gift-giving is normal, and people are sophisticated.

I think it's okay to give a gift, but you don't have to give a gift. I am both a teacher and a parent. As a teacher, I look forward to receiving heartfelt thanks from my students, but I refuse to accept gifts from parents for any purpose.

As a parent, I have actually given gifts to my children's teachers. What have you sent? At the end of the summer vacation, I went back to my hometown to bring the specialty toffee, two packs, and the child carried it to the class by himself, handed it to the teacher, and sent a message to the teacher the day before:

Teacher, please help me send the souvenir to the children, and there is a pack for you and the teachers to taste. When I was shopping during the winter vacation, I saw a few handmade leather coin purses in the store, more than 50 yuan, and the children liked it very much, so they bought one for each of the teachers (a total of five ethnic groups and a teacher), and later ......regretted it a littleI regret not leaving one for myself. When I had a sports meeting, I bought a few packs of hawthorn lollipops for the baby to take and asked the teacher to make prizes for the children.

The last time I got vaccinated, the teacher rewarded the children who didn't cry, using the candy I gave. The teacher's response was also normal, my child did not receive special care in the class, and he was not treated differently because the child himself was very obedient. There were also a few times when I was not very satisfied with the teacher's approach, and I sent a private message to ** to communicate directly with the teacher, and there was no aftermath after that.

As an adult, it's not that I don't understand what "gift-giving" is, and I'm a victim of "gift-giving" myself. When I was a child, the parents of my classmates bought things for the teacher and gave me clothes and red envelopes, but my parents were honest, one was not, and the other was that they had no money, so they went to school in a daze. Fortunately, I have always done well in my studies, and I don't get into trouble with my teachers by being naughty, so they rarely care about me.

When I was in elementary school, there was a teacher who took care of me who was injured, and my mother thanked me a lot, and she wrote several pages of thank-you letters to the school, and it was said that the school radio station broadcast it, and the teacher was happy for several days. When I was in middle school, a teacher met me in the hallway for a final exam and criticized me very seriously, saying that I was too impetuous and my grades were unstable. Since then, I've been very attentive in his classes.

When I was a class cadre, I offended the thorns in the class, they used correction fluid to write scolding words on the table, and the head teacher saw it and sentenced me to the chain, scolded them, and stared at them to clean up the desk. The other teachers were very cold to me, and even if I got the first place in the subject I was good at, I was not praised. The best result in the third year of high school was to break into the top ten of the grade, but no one cared about it.

I always thought it was because I was very well-behaved and the teacher believed in me. Later, I slowly understood something. At that time, we didn't dare to go to the office to find a teacher, because the teacher's smile was for those students who liked it.

My table mates regularly give gifts to all the teachers, so he can do whatever he wants in the class, and he really does whatever he wants......Luckily, he's not a bad boy, he just doesn't like to study.