How children should face their parents education

There used to be a saying that goes like this: don't let your child lose at the starting line. It seems that some education expert said it.

It sounds like a lot of sarcasm now. Gourmets and chefs are natural enemies. Some education experts may also have the honor of being the natural enemy of education.

There is no class in teaching, and it is misinterpreted, thinking that as long as the teacher pays, his child will be able to get ahead and get good results. But I forgot that Master Confucius once said something like this: Those who are wise do not teach;Although it is useless to teach foolish people, the wise people are the ontology of education.

Isn't it because there are always people who become blue-collar workers, and people who are wise are always selected for society?Life is less than 100, and I often have a thousand years of worries. The child's path is not to solve the equation, through the existing conditions, set an unknown, can be deduced.

All the paths of genius can be learned but cannot be imitated. There was a great painter who once said: Those who learn from me live, and those who resemble me die.

Why do people want to take the single-plank bridge wholeheartedly, and even wishfully think that things are man-made. Why do parents have to impose on their children what they can't achieve?

It is true that education is always the best investment. The house is full of gold and jade, and it cannot be kept for a long time, rich and proud, and it is self-inflicted. In a large sense, the mountains of gold and silver are not as good as the thousands of books at home!

The process of education can never be achieved quickly, and it is unlikely that it will be one step ahead. Maintaining good study habits may make every step of your child's journey more stable and steady!

The big things in the world must be done in detail, and the difficult things in the world must be done in the easy. The wood of the hug is born at the end of the millennium. The nine-story platform starts from the soil.

Great oaks from little acorns grow.. Start with small habits, practice and set an example for your children, which is a role model for children at this stage, and will become the foundation for children to take off in the future!

Encourage your child to experiment

The child's sense of independence germinates very early, about 1 year old, the child has a strong sense of independence, which is mainly manifested in his desire to do some things by himself and refuse to be at the mercy of others, such as eating, dressing, these common skills. Parents should understand that this is the germination of their sense of independence, and should respect their sense of independence, although they have not yet been able to do these things well, but encourage them to do it, teach them the right way to help them complete, instead of directly hitting them and not letting them try at all.

For exercising children. Independence provides conditions and opportunities

When parents educate their children, they should cultivate their children's independence, not to do everything, but to free their children's hands and feet. Habitually pointing fingers, looking at the child with worried eyes, and always being afraid that the child will fall and reminding the way to help the child is not welcome in the world where the child is growing up. Parents who remove obstacles and pave the way for their children have actually tied their children's hands and feet and hindered their children's good habits of independence.

Teach children the knowledge and skills to do things independently

Independence is the key and first step in cultivating children's independence, and to truly develop independence, parents also need to teach their children the knowledge and skills to do things independently. For example, how to wash hands and face, how to wash vegetables and choose vegetables, how to sweep the floor and wipe the table, how to take off clothes, these small things in life, children will show the awareness of wanting to actively participate, but the correct skills still need to be taught by parents. Therefore, the cultivation of independence is actually a process that not only requires children to be willing to do things themselves, but also teaches children to do things on their own.

Of course, independence also manifests itself in learning and communication, and parents should have the heart to teach their children to complete games and learning tasks one by one, so that children can actively participate in the interaction with peers and their own life and learning. When children have doubts in their learning and have disputes with their partners, we should also teach them various effective ways to deal with them and guide them to solve problems on their own.

Leave the decision in the hands of your child

Allowing children to decide things on their own is a sign of true independent development. There are countless things that need to be decided in a person's life, and this is a ability that people must have. Your child's decision-making skills should be cultivated at an early age.

First of all, let the child think about his own things, use his brain, and use all the factors that can be used to solve the problem. Parents can only help and guide their children appropriately, and must not arbitrarily interrupt their children's thinking, interfere with their children's thoughts, or arrange their children's affairs. As a parent, you should always remember:

It is important to cultivate children's independence, and people who do not have independence will feel helpless when they enter society. Because there was no one for them to rely on, and no one could take care of them with all their heart.

1. Parents must be good role models for their children. For example, when you want your child to be able to read books for half an hour every day, first of all, you must form a book that you read for half an hour every day, even if you dislike reading books, but you must insist on it and be a good example for your children.

2. Don't just pay attention to your child's performance. Chinese parents generally focus on their children's scores and rankings, and take everything their children can do in order for their children to focus on learning, thus stifling their children's hands-on ability and hindering their children's right to explore nature.

3. Don't spoil your children too much. Nowadays, most families are one child, and the Chinese-style next-generation relatives are really worthy of the name, and grandparents always unconditionally meet all the requirements of the child (even if this request is excessive), so excessive pampering will make the child form a self-centered idea.

4. Encourage and praise your child in a timely manner. When the child is hesitating to do something that he is not sure about, the mother may wish to say to him from the bottom of her heart: I believe you can do it. Timely encouragement will increase your child's confidence.

5. Let children gain self-confidence from success. The way to cultivate children's self-confidence is to let children continue to have successful experiences, because too many experiences of failure often make children doubt their own abilities, and then parents need to affirm their children's efforts to motivate children to continue to explore.

Respect the child's "quibble" – the feedback effect.

Whenever parents point out their child's mistakes, the child will always find many reasons to prove his innocence. At this time, parents will generally angrily call their children's behavior "quibble", in fact, this is not a quibble, but a kind of feedback from the child's parental education.

Education is a two-way street, parents not only have to teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this, they only "teach" by Pei Feng, and do not care about the information fed back by their children, such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.

Analyze and respect your child's feedback.

When a child gives feedback on our education, we must first analyze the child's feedback, of course, this analysis is not only based on the child's language, but also on the child's movements and expressions.

However, it is worth noting that regardless of whether the child's feedback is "quibble" or not, it is important to respect the child's feedback. In the above educational example, when the child said the reason for "the children in our class searched for this", the mother yelled at the child without analyzing the child's feedback, which is not a sign of disrespect for the child's feedback. Therefore, this mother also knows that the child's feedback is really --- and does not think that "you are so stupid" is a dirty word.

It is conceivable that parents misunderstand their children's feedback and suppress their children's feedback, and in the long run, the children will never give positive feedback to their mother's education again. Without the cooperation of children, parents will inevitably have no way to educate their children.

The first is to train children to be good people and good citizens. Children become good people and good citizens, so that parents do not have to worry about their children. For society, it is even better.

If the child does not become a good person and a good citizen, it will cause harm to others and society, and it will also harm himself. That is not only a matter of worrying about parents again, but this kind of worry and worry is more worrying than worrying about raising children, and it will make parents lose face;

The second is to raise children to be non-self-centered people. Children are not self-centered people, but will make their own families happy and harmonious. Whenever there are many problems in a family, there is a lot of trouble, and there are many fights, all of which are related to the fact that one or both of the family members are self-absorbed people.

If one of the members of the family is self-indulgent, it is often the other who is angry and unreasonable. If both parties are self-centered, then the contradictions in the family are irreconcilable, and the end is the disintegration of the family. The disintegration of the child's family is also a pain for the parents.

The third is to let their children have a connotative childhood. People who have had a connotative childhood will let their children have a connotative childhood, and will not use incorrect family education to force their children. Otherwise, people who have not had a connotative childhood will either deprive their children of their children's chics and make a childhood, or they will be angry with themselves because of their children's anger.

Look at the reality, because several generations have not had a connotative childhood, and they do not let their children have a real childhood, which is not only hurting children, but also making themselves angry enough because they will not educate their children correctly.

Parents are a child's first teacher and are very important for a child's development throughout life. Below I have compiled the details of the methods that parents should educate their children, I hope it will be helpful to you!

1. Teaching by example is more important than teaching.

Parents should first pay attention to their own self-cultivation and establish their own prestige. A parent who doesn't like to study and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who doesn't know everything, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness, and no filial piety to the elderly will not raise a good child.

2. Pay attention to parent-child education.

Children care a lot about whether their parents are fully committed to their development, and some parents may not communicate with their children all year round. Most parents ignore parenting on the grounds that they are busy. Parents' parent-child education should be ahead of their children's physical and psychological development, so parents should devote themselves to their children's education, continue to learn, and improve their ability to teach their children, so as to win the respect and love of their children.

3. Create a good knowledge environment.

Children should have a good environment for learning, not high-end, but for the atmosphere, students should avoid unnecessary family chat, friends and so on to tolerate shortcomings as much as possible, look at children with a magnifying glass, to know that there is no perfect child in the world, no matter how perfect the child has its own shortcomings. Parents' unconditional trust in their children is an important foundation for communication with their children.

4. Praise more and criticize less.

Just the right amount of praise is a stimulant, a lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents' understanding, appreciation, praise and encouragement of their children at all times will enhance their children's self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember:

Praise and encouragement make children improve, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind. When correcting your child's critical shortcomings, it is important to consider maturity and choose the best place and timing. Parents are asked to keep the following words in mind:

The premise of educating a child is to understand the child. Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. Criticism and punishment are both negations of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is a means of education for serious bad thoughts and behaviors.

Give your child more love and don't be too harsh! Give your child a relaxed and happy environment to grow up!