How to go back to look like you re witty!

For the lack of remarks can still maintain elegance and wit, learning and ability to be superb and powerful to this realm, first of all, you must be very self-loving, the first move, is to be calm and free, smile back. He makes fun of you in public, just to provoke you, make you ugly and lose your temper, so that the people around you can see you laugh. So, at this time, the more energetic he speaks, the more you have to put on a calm demeanor and look at him with a smile.

When he's done talking, you're calm.

's appearance will only make him angry, but in the end, he will become a joke in everyone's eyes, and your elegance and calmness, smiling calmly, can show your bearing and pattern more, and make the people around you look at you higher, right?

Calm and easy. The second trick is called the recognition counterattack method, which is to first recognize his statement, and then fight back against him. In fact, when others bully you, you don't necessarily have to go back directly every time, and then fight with the other party.

You can also follow the other party first, and when the other party relaxes their vigilance and thinks that they are about to succeed, you can find the right time to take advantage of the situation, so that the other party will bring humiliation on himself. For example, if the other party says that you are fat, fat like that, you can say, Zhu Bajie.

Okay, the sun is shining Zhu Bajie, the lucky stars are shining on the sunny day, unlike some people, who always eat ignorant food, and say something cool behind your back. When you shoot back like this, the other party will be speechless, which is called agreeing with the counterattack method, that is, first agreeing with the other party's point of view, and then using the other party's strength to reply to the other party.

The sun is shining.

The third trick is called borrowing strength to fight the force, which is like playing Tai Chi, taking the opponent's words and then counterattacking the opponent. For example, the other party hurts you, what's the matter with you, is there something wrong? You can do this, I was fine before, but when I saw you, I was infected by you, and I got this disease, it seems that you are the pathogen.

Ah, I'll have to stay away from you in the future. As soon as you say that, don't you just let the other party's words go back, and let others sound that your level is very high, and there are definitely two hits, right?

Learn to do Tai Chi.

The fourth trick is humorous metaphors. For example, if the other party says that you look old and look like an old aunt, you say, I just look a little anxious, not like you are really old, which not only effectively replies to the other party, but also makes the people around you think you are very humorous.

When I first entered the workplace, I was scolded by my colleagues, and I often had a lot of scruples, so I basically chose to swallow my anger, value harmony, and then get angry with myself when I got home. Later, I experienced a lot, and the skin became thicker, and I began to have contacts. Combined with my own experience, I summarized the twelve-word policy for the response to being scolded:

On-the-spot response, fact-based speaking, and controllable conflicts. (Exclude the situation where the relationship is good and the jokes come and go.) ）

01.On-site response: Let's talk about why on-site response? No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you.

In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided. The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract.

02.The facts speak and then let's talk about how to fight back. There's a way to go back.

The basic logic is to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions". Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts". Here's an example of what happened this morning:

I went to a company for an interview, and HR saw that my latest work experience was naked, and he asked me, "Are you very willful?" If you don't like it, just say it naked?

I replied to him: "The naked resignation is because the transformation of the department is inconsistent with the demands of personal development, which is a rational and analytical choice, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not." "Capricious" is a negative evaluation, "if you don't like it, you will resign naked" is a point of view, to put it bluntly, it is called buttoning a hat.

If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness and immaturity, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me. At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are. In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it.

03.Conflict controllabilityWhen responding to the other party, you should pay attention to your words and deeds, "personal attacks", "discrimination", "insults" are unacceptable, and will also put yourself in a disadvantageous situation, and there is no room for turnaround. So don't say anything as soon as the emotion comes up, be grabbed by the other party, and kill with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you.