What should I do if I am scolded by a colleague in the workplace?

I was scolded by a colleague in the workplace, and I probably won't go back.

First of all, I think that as a qualified professional, it is very naïve, cheap, and unprofessional.

If I am provoked, and he scares around, or quarrels, and there is a contradiction, then it must not look good in front of the leader, and the leader is too lazy to deal with the contradiction between the two of us, and will only play fifty boards each, then I may not have anything to do, but I will also cause a commotion, be watched lively, and leave a bad impression on the leader.

As for my colleagues' scolding, I have to see why. If it's a personal issue, or it's simply that the other party doesn't like some of my behavior, then I will not hear it, and when I don't hear it, I don't react to it, which is the best reaction. When it comes to work communication, then I will ignore the emotional part of the other person and actively solve the problem.

After all, a mature adult must have the ability to deal with his emotions, not to be led by the nose by the other party, he will not lose anything to me, and the rest, if he deliberately provokes trouble, I think it is okay to take a policy of ignoring it. Because I'm here to work, not to fight with people, and I have time to scold him, so it's better to finish the work at hand and go home early from work to sleep.

1] The fault lies with oneself and stabilizes the emotions.

When you are scolded, you don't want to use emotions to emotion, but use reason to analyze the other person's emotions, no matter whether the accusations of others are correct or not, you must listen patiently. Especially, when someone is in a bad mood, don't rush to talk to him, otherwise it will only provoke a bigger dispute.

First listen to whether the other party's accusation is reasonable, it is your own fault and boldly admit it, it is not your own fault, and go back directly, who is still used to making money.

2] The fault lies with the other party, not to make soft persimmons.

Know that most of the time, you are scolded and that's because you're strong! Your presence is a threat to others, who are trying to gain a sense of superiority from words and create the illusion that they have defeated you.

If the fault lies with the other party, deliberately find fault, then don't be a soft persimmon, be tough when the attitude is tough, you can coordinate the work when you work, but if you are scolded for no reason, just because of personal likes and dislikes to prejudice you to scold you, you must not forgive, to give a strong response. However, we must be careful not to make personal attacks, but to talk about the facts and reason.

1.In the workplace, it is not recommended that you go back directly when you are a new recruit, as it is easy to leave a very bad initial impression.

2. Bear with it, take a step back, objectively observe your opponent, her interpersonal relationships (especially with her direct leader), work ability, thickness of her skin, etc., find out her weaknesses, and try to hit it with one blow.

3. Bullying must be flattering. Pay more attention to your work, and leave evidence if you can, and you will definitely be able to use it in the future. Generally, people who bully people have the habit of flattering, and they use the power of their bosses to suppress her, which gets twice the result with half the effort.

The point is that you have to have something tangible for your boss, as I mentioned above.

4, not to go back does not mean that you will be bullied, the first thing to do is that you have to tell everyone (including her) your attitude, such as you are not a soft persimmon, you don't cause trouble, but you are not afraid of things. If she speaks disrespectfully to you in public, you don't have to talk to her, you have to argue, just follow the central person at the scene and explain what happened. For example, when she is in front of the leader, saying that you are not doing your job well, your performance is not good, etc., skip her, you will be calm, seek truth from facts and tell the leader directly, what is going on.

Few leaders are fools, and they know what's going on as soon as they say it.

Hello, I think it's to go back, but it depends on the specific situation.

This question instantly reminded me of countless scenes in the past ten years of work, some of which were scolded by my colleagues, and some of which were watched by others scolding each other.

When I first entered the workplace, I was scolded by my colleagues, and I often had a lot of scruples, so I basically chose to swallow my anger, value harmony, and then get angry with myself when I got home. Later, I experienced a lot, and the skin became thicker, and I began to have contacts. Combined with my own experience, I summarized the twelve-word policy for the response to being scolded:

On-the-spot response, fact-based speaking, and controllable conflicts.

First, on-site response.

First of all, why do you want to respond on the spot?

No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you.

In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided. The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract.

Second, the facts speak.

Next, let's talk about how to fight back.

There's a way to go back. The basic logic is to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions".

Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts".

Here's an example of what happened this morning:

I went to a company for an interview, and HR saw that my latest work experience was naked, and he asked me, "Are you very willful?" If you don't like it, just say it naked? ”

I replied to him: "The naked resignation is because the transformation of the department is inconsistent with the demands of personal development, which is a rational and analytical choice, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not." ”

"willful" is a negative evaluation, "if you don't like it, you will resign naked" is a point of view, to put it bluntly, it is called buttoning a hat. If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness and immaturity, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me. At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are.

In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it.

Third, conflicts can be controlled.

When responding to the other person, you should be careful about your words and actions, "personal attacks", "discrimination", and "name-calling" are unacceptable, and they will also put yourself in a disadvantageous position, and there is no room for change. So don't say anything as soon as the emotion comes up, be grabbed by the other party, and kill with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you. In short, "Control your emotions and don't get up." ”

Good luck in your work.

1. Due to work mistakes, he was scolded by the leaderDon't talk back to the leader when you are scoldedMake excuses, listen carefully, and then be sure to learn the lesson and not make the same mistake next time.

2. If you make mistakes when working with colleagues, as long as you really have mistakes, then you must humbly accept the criticism of your colleagues and take it as a tempering. Don't go back, to take active remedial measures to treat the work.

was scolded by a colleague for no reason. Then don't be a soft persimmon, and be tough when it's time to be toughWhen you work, you can coordinate your work, but if you are scolded for no reason, just because of personal likes and dislikes that prejudice you, you must not forgive, and you must give a strong response. If they are complaining about you, we can respond in a more rational language, and we must be careful not to make personal attacks, but to talk about things and reason.

Be sure to avoid vexatious talk.

4. There will be a type of people who are disgusting at work, that is, hob meat type. It doesn't make sense to be reasonable, and I'm stalking you and polishing my mouth. Then forget it.

In the face of hob meat, there is no need to waste physical strength, because your thoughts, intelligence, abilities, and personality are not on the same side, do not belong to one dimension, and it is best to keep silent with this kind of person and ignore him.

Let's see why.

It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, just laugh it off, and don't pick it up.

However, the stakes are very high, and self-interest is involved, especially when there are many colleagues or leaders present, so we cannot let it go unchecked, and we should resolutely go back.

When you go back, you must be reasonable, have a clear level, have facts, talk about things, and be fearless. If it causes a conflict, even if it moves, it cannot take a step back and resolutely retreat.

The contradictions and conflicts between people are like two people walking opposite each other in a narrow alley, if you don't retreat, the other party retreats, retreats to the original way, retreats to the end. It's the same in the workplace, when you encounter a conflict, you blindly back down, which makes people feel like a bully, soft persimmon, everyone wants to pinch and pinch casually, you really have no way out.

Treat people in the workplace, don't cause trouble, don't be afraid of things, and resolutely fight to the end when there is something, and never back down.

To be a man, you must have backbone, not arrogance. Backbone qi is from the inside out, and it is the qi in the bone marrow.

Low-key life, low-key, not low-key, not insignificant, dispensable, but quiet, down-to-earth, not limelight, not flashy.

Low-key, not to be slaughtered, cats and dogs can also shout five and six, low-key is deterrence, not angry and self-threatening, or endure, unbearable, then no need to endure.

1.Resolutely go back, no matter whether it is reasonable or not, go back first, and you can't lose in your aura. To go back is to show others your attitude.

2.When encountering backlash, first calm down and compose, don't be in a hurry to speak. Stabilize your emotions first, and don't be led away by other people's emotions. By the time your emotions are being carried away, you've already lost.

3.In the face of such uncivilized behavior, employees need to understand the intentions of the other party and control their emotional reactions, which will cause a certain amount of loss to employees.

I think I still have to go back, otherwise he will become more and more indulgent, more and more bullying you, go back and let him know how powerful you are, and he will not dare to bully you again next time, and he will not be able to bear it. 1.Fight back calmly, many times, someone humiliates you in public, in fact, it is to provoke you, make you lose your temper, make people around you laugh at you, and even let the leader know that you are not very able to be used and can't control your emotions.

So, at this time, the less anxious you are, the more anxious he will be. To humiliate you, you just need to ask questions calmly and fight back calmly. In the end, he will be the one who will be the laughing stock.

This will also make you look dignified and organized, impress other colleagues around you, and make your boss value you more.

2.Stabilize your emotions, in the unit, if you are blamed by colleagues, don't use your emotions to fight back, and control your emotions first. In any case, listen first, and think carefully about whether your colleague's accusation is right or wrong with a rational mind.

Especially when your colleague is emotionally unstable, don't rush to argue with him, otherwise it will only lead to bigger disputes and even conflicts. So, keep your emotions under control, listen to what the other person is saying, and don't let your emotions get carried away. If your colleague's accusations are justified, you need to be bold enough to admit your mistakes and take responsibility.

If it's not your own fault, fight back as soon as possible, and don't be afraid of the other party.

3.Start the debate on the spot. If you don't explain, you will be easily bullied as soon as you sit down, and others are likely to pick you as a soft persimmon in the future.

Once you have a problem with your ability to do things and are known by the leader, you lose the opportunity to do high-profile things. If you want to explain well, you must leave traces in the process of work, and you must prove it yourself, otherwise it cannot be refuted. The leader has been wronged, and it is recommended that you strike carefully.

Two solutions, either endure or roll. If you feel that you can still learn something in this leadership team, you can endure it and quickly get what you want, such as the growth of skills and the accumulation of experience. If you feel that you don't have anything of value to offer you in this leadership team, then you can choose to transfer internally or look for opportunities externally.

However, there is another case. Don't take the lead in public, but you can restore the facts with the leader in private. Your leader has a lot of face.

Know that he has wronged you and will make it up to you if necessary. For example, if there is a good project, you will be arranged, or you will be more inclined when the performance is assigned at the end of the year.

First: Find out why the other party is angry. Some people may be born unable to control their temper, no matter whose fault it is, when they encounter something wrong, they must vent their anger first.

In the face of such a situation of disregard, sometimes we can respond to it. Because we are in a reciprocal relationship in the workplace, there is no need to pay for the other party's bad temper, if we tolerate it for a long time, it may make the other party have a feeling that the other party is very good, and when you want to lose your temper in the future, you may be the first to become the first choice of the other party's resentment. In order to avoid this from happening, we can selectively reply to the other party and let the other party know that we are also temperamental and not easy to mess with.

Second: You can be generous to people, but there must be a dividing line between right and wrong for things. If a colleague loses his temper, he may ignore what he says, and if we keep holding back, it is very likely that the colleague who was willing to be reasonable will end up being unreasonable.

It's better for us to be directly to the thing and not the person from the beginning, and to break it down in detail in the face of a colleague's anger, and explain it face-to-face together, so that it is not easy to leave trouble. Otherwise, if you don't fight back, the other party may feel that anything can be pushed on you in the future, after all, you are the kind of person who will only avoid forbearance. It's too bad for yourself.

Third: If you can have less contact with the other person, try not to deal with the other person. Since the colleague of the other party often loses his temper, we can avoid each other as much as possible if we don't have contact with each other on weekdays.

After all, although we have the ability to protect ourselves, we still try to avoid people who can make us uncomfortable, mainly to be able to maintain our beautiful mood. And we also need to know that if you don't have disputes with colleagues at work, then try not to have disputes, because even if you have a reason, if the interests and reputation of the company are affected because of the quarrel, then you may not get a good outcome in the end.

Therefore, in my personal opinion, if you meet a colleague who loves to lose your temper in the workplace, you have to fight back when necessary, and if it is unnecessary, you can occasionally choose to tolerate it. Whatever it is, the point is to see if it's in the company's interest first, and then to see if it's harming your own interests. When neither the company's interests nor its own interests are harmed, it can be directly the other party's air; When it harms the interests of the company or individuals, please remember to fight back to the other party in order to protect the interests, which is the most basic workplace practice.