I can t do anything well, I have low self esteem, I m lazy and pessimistic, what should I do?

First of all, you have to have a correct attitude, don't care too much about other people's opinions, a lot of what you said is caused by some sensitive emotions, because I am also sensitive, hehe! Also, everyone's birth is different, don't care what others say about the family, and have a correct attitude. Many of your hobbies are actually very promising, and besides, it doesn't mean that a person has good grades, in my opinion, ability is very important.

Friends are to be taken seriously, and if there is really that kind of exclusion of you, it is recommended that you choose to be high-profile. No matter what, you still have to complete the studies that should be completed well, and you can't skip class! In fact, there are too many psychology like yours, and I have them.

We're happy to help you. There are many reasons for low self-esteem, some because of their looks, some because they are too short, some because they are too fat, some because they are too dark, and so on. In fact, everyone has shortcomings, but many people do not have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a state of mind.

I understand your current state. Low self-esteem leads to high self-esteem, and if your self-esteem is high, you don't allow others to talk about yourself, and if it's serious, you can't do it at all, which leads to a bad temper, and you can't give up on yourself at every turn, and you don't have a good attitude towards your classmates, you don't want to study, you don't want to communicate, and you seriously feel that it's really boring to live. I don't want to go to school, I don't want to face my classmates and teachers, I'm afraid of ridicule, I'm afraid of being hurt.

However, you just need to pay attention to the fact that in fact, everyone has more or less flaws, shortcomings and troubles, and not everyone else is perfect, but everyone is very good at hiding and not wanting to show it, and they are also very good at venting this bad feeling.

To get rid of low self-esteem, you have to start with a change in your mentality. Seeing this, you will think that I am talking nonsense again, and it is useless for you. Isn't this thing very ethereal and rootless, no? Have a confident mindset, be very motivated about everything, and feel that life will be beautiful.

First of all, you go back and make a plan, start **, do a good job of studying, and show enthusiasm.

It's very tiring to play with your hands, so you can't say much, and I hope you can cheer yourself up.

Take your work to your friends, let them see your talent, don't do nothing at home, think about how hard your parents worked, help them make some household items to change your inertia, and finally, I have people around me who are 180 tall and weigh 200 or more, but she never has low self-esteem, she gets along well with us, and we never exclude her. I think they ostracize you because you don't like them very much (you say you don't like them very much), so you have to change your inferiority complex! A person must first look up to himself before others can look up to you, as for your friends, aren't they the only ones in the world, and friends want to abound...When the time comes, you will naturally find true friends, and in terms of learning, it will be good to promote your strengths and avoid your weaknesses.

Oh! Or I'm too pessimistic! And I haven't learned to be strong.

I've done this before! Building your own personality is the first thing you should do now, taking yourself out of your existing life, such as doing things that others don't dare to do and won't do. Look at a lot of what you posted above, I think you are still a person who dares to express yourself, but you lack the way to express yourself, learn to dance, you can also **, and exercise, mainly to exercise your behavior expression.

Some people say that dancing is so hard to learn! I don't think so, it's okay to watch dancing at home ** or something, try to move your body first, step by step, and slowly you will find that you will soon be hooked. I believe that when you become a dancer, you will be full of bright spots when you integrate into your own life, and there will be no negative feelings such as cowardice, timidity, and low self-esteem.

You have low self-esteem because there is nothing outstanding in your life and you are always following others! Learning is so, life is so! Plus your physical condition!

Therefore, the more you have low self-esteem, the more others will look down on you! It's an endless loop! It is recommended that you find your own strengths in your own life and study and make achievements!!

People will be impressed with you!

I have the most right to speak, and I can empathize. I feel that I work hard to learn to overcome inertia, don't make excuses for myself, insist on **, women should be cruel to themselves, create their own lives, we work together to become a perfect woman. I'm just like you, but I've changed a lot.

I'm also very emotional, I'm very bold now, I'm always trying to change, the more I'm afraid, the more I'm pushing myself to exercise my courage and seize every opportunity to perform. All say that I became.

If you have a hard time finding answers online, it is recommended that you see a psychiatrist... Not laughing at you. Earnest.

It's just about gaining more experience and making yourself stronger.

There's always something for you, it's important to discover and persevere.

It's good that it's not a pure man....Huh....

What can be changed, if you want to do a good job in interpersonal relationships, the first thing is to break through the big difficulty of changing yourself.

In fact, a girl with a boyfriend is already a more successful girl, because after all, there are highlights that men like in you, not that they have a bad personality, but that the usual girls don't have the same knowledge as you, they treat ladies as friends, not as friends.

Hehe, it's okay, change it slowly.

I used to be the same introvert, but it was better to study, but the people around me had not read, but they were all big bosses, so I dropped out, left the closed fantasy world of the school, entered the society, and understood the operation of this society, only to find out that our education is really a failure, whether it is family education or school education, the whole society has instilled knowledge in us, but does not let us take the initiative to understand the world, we have not learned to be aggressive, just passively accept the rules, Because at school at home, we are not free to do anything at all, we can only do it according to the rules, otherwise we will be abandoned by the school, and no one will hire us to work, relatives and friends only think that we are a useless person, we will be abandoned by this society, marginalized, and become poor, all this is too rigid, now even a plasterer, bricklayer needs a diploma, but these jobs do not need college students at all, our education does not match the actual needs of our society, the whole society has gone crazy, Our study is entirely for the industrial development of our country, our future has long been planned by a small number of elites, the great designers of this country have planned our next 100 years, they assign these jobs to the state departments to deal with, and finally assign to everyone, we only need to do fixed work, the rest do not have to think too much, they call this the division of labor, so we always have a specialty, but the others are not developed, you study well, You don't have time to deal with your other things, you can do things, you can't speak, we have become deformed, we seem to be very smart, but we are actually imbecile knowledge robots, we can't integrate into this society, society needs you to be more comprehensive, not specialized in academics, since this kind of life is so unrealistic, you should escape from that life by yourself, to integrate into the real society, everyone knows that our education has failed, but few people dare to drop out, if you don't have the courage, That nothing will change, the school can't give us what we want, you want you to fight for it yourself, in fact, you learn more on the Internet, in the future you will know when you go out to the society, most of the knowledge you actually need, you will learn on the Internet, no one is the first to learn and then work, we are all working and learning, then, when you really integrate into this society, your problems will be solved, your introversion will not exist, in ancient times people asked where the boundary of the earth was, but now, people will not ask, Because now people know that the earth is round, there is no boundary question, and there is no answer to the boundary question

Depressed patients have symptoms of low self-esteem, depression **:

1. If the depression is severe, it is necessary to take medication under the guidance of a doctor, and there are psychological counseling for depression such as cognition and Morita. Medications** should be administered under the guidance of a doctor. It is recommended to take paroxetine hydrochloride tablets (Leyou), Prozac or Reibila for a period of time.

2. Eat more foods rich in vitamin B and amino acids, such as cereals, fish, green vegetables, eggs, etc.

3. Self-psychological counseling for depression:

1. Listen to ** more often, and let beautiful music dissolve mental fatigue. Brisk and comfortable** can make people's spirits be effectively relaxed. Laughing out loud is the best way to get rid of mental stress.

Consciously slow down the pace of life, deal with all kinds of complicated things calmly and calmly, and don't blame yourself even if you do something wrong, which is conducive to people's psychological balance and also helps to relieve people's mental pressure. Be brave and face the reality, and don't be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited and you can't handle things properly.

2. Make friends, often chat with friends, and heart-to-heart communication or confiding can not only enhance people's friendship and trust, but also make you feel comfortable and eliminate your troubles.

3. Believe that you will be able to reduce pressure, cheer up, feel comfortable, and be healthy, so that you can enhance friendship with a good attitude, work smoothly, and live a happy life.

When the time comes, there will always be, and this kind of thing cannot be rushed.

I'm also being said, all kinds of scolding, but I'm not inferior, think about it in another way, people who are familiar with you will treat you like this, be good for you, face you like this, and those who are not good to you will not bird you, but will only say that you are stupid behind your back.

Fate has not yet arrived! Don't think too much about that.

There are shortcomings in personality that is too strong and too weak, and there are two sides to everything.

Being yourself is the most important thing. Do as you want.

It's like an eggplant, no matter how you change it, it can't turn into a pumpkin, it's a truth.

Do not seek perfection, but seek to be worthy of the heart. No matter what kind of character, as long as the heart is good, there is no right or wrong, no suitable or inappropriate.

I always couldn't help but be sad, so I slowly learned to hide it. Because I didn't want to be stabbed again, I gradually learned to disguise. There are always a lot of memories on the road of life, some are happy and some are painful, but isn't it when we are depressed that we should think more about happy people and happy things?

In this year's college entrance examination, because of the fever a week before the exam, I failed the exam, and I scored more than 100 points less than usual, but this is not an excuse, it can only be that I am in a bad mood, and now I choose to repeat, very hard, very tired, ......But what can be done? You can only go on like this, keep it up! Friends, let's do it together!

Forget about these worries! When we succeed, we will be grateful for these ups and downs in life! They are the ones who make us strong!

We can all do it, let's set a short-term goal, mine is: do well in the college entrance examination next year! What's yours?

Let's go through the confused time together and move towards success! So we have to have goals! Start small and plan your life!

Life should be colorful, there will be happiness and sadness, joy and sadness. Each personality has its own strengths and weaknesses, so there is no conflict! Thank you!

TV series are mostly derived from life and higher than life, mixed with a lot of personal wishes and ideals in it, it turns out that when I went to school, I always thought about something very beautiful and dreamy, but now when I enter the society, I find out how realistic the society is, no one will really sympathize with who pities whom, and after entering the society, people only look at the results and do not look at the process, you succeed, people will sing loudly about how tortuous you are on the road to success, but who struggles without encountering twists and turns, once you fail, people just see your failureNo matter how difficult you are, failure is failure, you explain the reason for the failure to others, they are very sympathetic to you and understand you very well, but what can you do after sympathy and understanding? It doesn't affect others at all, you still have to eat, you should drink, and you're still sad. Really, if you can say today's words, it means that you are very happy, and when you are working hard for your livelihood and career, and when you are worried about your work, you will not have the time and opportunity to express today's feelings.

Pessimism can only be slowly adjusted by thinking about it, while low self-esteem needs to be changed through hard work and success. Be sure to plan more for your future, set a plan for yourself for a few years, set goals, once the ideal is determined, there is always a chance to succeed through hard work, I hope you will get better and better.

Inferiority complex, I think, everyone has this kind of psychology. Some people feel inferior because of a certain aspect, and some are because they have an inferiority complex in their character, the former has an inferiority complex that is more ordinary, while the latter is a bad inferiority complex, so that the psychology often has sadness and depression, autism and pessimism in everything.

Maybe because there are no achievements, self-confidence is not up, or because of the high standards for oneself, but the reality does not get what is expected, or maybe too much emphasis on one's own shortcomings, but thus affects the positive evaluation of other aspects, {cover all with points}, for example, people are poor, but they regard other aspects as useless. Wait a minute. These are all problems of psychological mentality, as well as problems of understanding and outlook on life.

Inferiority complex usually has a habit and a wrong logical thinking, there are always rhetoric to explain or exaggerate the worries of others, and there is always a reason to blame oneself for some shortcomings. There are also some deviations in the mentality, anyway, other people's are good, and your own is poor, but you don't know, others see you as good, and others feel that they are also poor.

Therefore, in order to overcome one's own psychology, not only oneself must be self-improving, but more importantly, it is necessary to correct or improve one's own mentality, ideology, and understanding, so that oneself can return to one that is not to compare, to be content and happy, that is, to be confident in what you have, and not to pursue better conditions.

First, in terms of mentality, understand that you are who you are, do not measure yourself by other people's standards, and you can carry out positive self-imagination, {imagine that you will be better and stronger}.

Second, in terms of thinking, don't optimize others, just a side that others are showing.

Third, in terms of understanding, it is necessary to strengthen one's own worries or one aspect in terms of self-confidence or emotion, and objectively recognize one's own shortcomings.

Fourth, do something with confidence or do something that is easy to succeed, and gradually restore the original confidence. Having said so much, I hope you understand and learn well.

Laziness, laziness and laziness are the nature of character. Some are temporary laziness and laziness for some reason, such as when the body and mind are exhausted, when the will is depressed and sad, when there is no goal and no control, and so on.

The manifestation of laziness and laziness in psychology and thought is a habitual excuse, excuse, and dispositional looseness, that is, the inability to self-discipline. There is always a tomorrow, and there will be countless tomorrows after tomorrow, and in such a heart, nothing matters, disdain and so on.

How to restrain or change, first of all, we must clearly recognize our own shortcomings, and then prescribe the right medicine. If you don't admit it, it's nothing.

Second, we must have a time and urgency, and we can't always make excuses and reasons for ourselves, and we will finish today.

Third, we must have a sense of responsibility, a sense of purpose, set our own guidelines or rules, and we must do what we say, and we must do what we say.

Four. We must have the courage, determination, and confidence to constantly check ourselves, supervise ourselves, and have the spirit of overcoming difficulties and challenging ourselves.

Fifth, recognize that in the face of difficulties or affairs, do not try to escape, be diligent, and be diligent to imply yourself. I hope I can help you.