What to do if you can t do things, can t speak, can t communicate

First of all, we must take the matter of speaking in perspective. Whether it is at work, at school, between friends or family, the purpose of speaking is to communicate: communication at work, emotional communication, and learning communication.

And being able to talk is not a lot of words, some people talk a lot, and the whole is twittering, but everyone hates it. And some people don't talk much, and from time to time they say some classic words, and everyone will think that this person is very powerful. Therefore, the purpose of speaking is not to see how much is said, but to see whether there is effective communication.

Secondly, you must take a correct view of the fact that you are stupid and can't speak. The reason why you are stupid and can't speak does not mean that you are worse than others, because everyone has their own good side, don't completely deny yourself because you are stupid and can't speak. Stupidity and inability to speak are often caused by the growth environment, when we are children, we can't choose our own growth environment, but when we grow up and become adults, we have to be responsible for ourselves.

Before the age of 20, we are determined by our parents and the environment in which we were raised, but after the age of 30, we are determined by ourselves. Therefore, you in your 20s should start to actively change yourself from this moment.

Thirdly, it is necessary to correctly understand the real reason why the mouth is stupid and cannot speak. People who are stupid and can't speak often don't suddenly become stupid and can't speak, but have been stupid and can't speak for a long time. Those who are stupid and can't speak lose the opportunity to learn to speak because they have little communication with people since they were young and don't like to talk.

And those who can talk tend to be more talkative from an early age, the so-called practice makes perfect, so when they grow up, they can also talk. Therefore, the reason why the mouth is stupid and can't speak is because I say too little, communicate too little with people, and have less knowledge, so I feel unfamiliar with the matter of talking, and I naturally don't know what to say when I meet people.

Finally, let's take a look at what to do if you can't speak. As mentioned above, there are two reasons why the mouth is stupid and can't speak: less knowledge and less talk.

So, we need to get the right medicine. First of all, you must build self-confidence and dare to change yourself. You can read more books, cultivate some of your hobbies, participate in more activities, and experience more things to increase your knowledge, and the more you know, it is often easier to talk to people.

Moreover, in some activities and social occasions, you can also see that others are talking by themselves, the so-called once born and twice cooked, and you can also learn from others next time. Again, you need to think a little about yourself when you speak, and don't say things that hurt others, so as not to cause misunderstandings.

1.Speak human words.

Don't use too much jargon, but make the other person understand the high-level content in a way that the average person can understand. Don't make it look like an academic presentation.

If others can understand, the follow-up communication can continue, otherwise who wants to listen to you say something you don't understand. If it's really hard to say, then you can use analogies, analogies, and examples to quickly let the audience understand what you mean.

This is also called a descending tone.

2.Tell a story.

No one wants to listen to dry things, and after listening to them for a while, they feel irritated. But the story is different. Stories attract the most attention. Wrapping what you have to tell into a short story will definitely make you the brightest child in the crowd.

3.There is something new.

Everyone knows that what you say is impatient for others to listen to. So, what you say, there should be something new. For example, it is better to have a new point of view. There are no new perspectives, there are new ones. If there are no new arguments, there will be new cases.

In short, grab a new word, give something different, and you'll attract people's attention. The same goes for writing articles. You say something interesting, and people will be interested and can't wait for you to say more.

It can be learned. Communication skills can be practiced, and work skills need to learn more, think more, and practice more. Many things are not born with us, and everyone has to go through a process.

Then talk less and do more, and diligence can make up for clumsiness.

You yourself know that you can't do things, you can't speak, you can't socialize. Then learn how to do things, learn how to communicate, learn how to speak.

Summary. Slow down your speech. When you speak, it's better to speak slower than to be unproductive, try to let the other person understand what you are going to say, don't rush to say it all at once, speak slowly.

I can't speak, I can't communicate, I can't speak.

Slow down the speed at which you speak widely. When you speak, it is better than not being stuffy Qiaoyan Dayi, try to let the other party understand what you are going to say, don't be in a hurry to say it all at once, speak slowly.

Don't try to express too much at once. The communication between people is one sentence from you and one sentence from me, and if you say too much at once, the other party can't accept it.

Talk to people more. When you can't speak, then communicate with others more, when you go grocery shopping, you can talk to the aunt who sells vegetables, when you go to dinner, talk to the boss, try to give yourself a chance to speak, and talk to anyone.

Listen to others. There must be that kind of person among your friends who can speak very well, you can pay more attention to how he talks to others, you don't have to learn everything, only learn what is useful to you, some people may be more quiet or silent, that is more difficult to learn, you can learn how he talks to others, this kind of person is generally more active, can mobilize the atmosphere, and is easy to get along with people.

Don't be afraid. Can't speak, there is a very important reason, that is, I am worried that the other party does not like to listen to what I say, or that I will be ridiculed if I am wrong, which is a manifestation of no self-confidence, it is not terrible to make mistakes, but it is terrible to make mistakes and not know how to change.

Have a good mentality. Speaking is a small thing in life, don't take it too seriously, don't be too entangled, relax, normal dust hole blind to change, just learn to send empty, the more tangled, the more bad it is, it's better to relax and tremble.

Are you there. Pro, what can I do to help you.

Then there's no need to force it, just do what you like. Maybe you'll feel more and more disgusted after coming into contact with the crowd, and you'll be completely disappointed. You're still touching what you like.

In short, if you like it yourself, people are just that, what is there to be afraid of in a species that can be summed up in a noun?

In fact, this is a lack of self-confidence, you don't need to deliberately cater to anything, just be yourself, and you will be sincere when you reveal it naturally. It's okay to read more books, go online, watch movies, and talk about more. There is a saying called "belly with poetry and books", first of all, we must correct our mentality, sincerely interact with people, a good mood is half the success, and slowly we will eventually meet the right person.