What can I say to someone at any time to break their guard?

If you want the other party not to be so wary of you, then you need to have a very close ability to the other party, when your affinity with the other party is very high, then the other party will naturally not be wary of you, so it takes time.

(4) One of the greatest functions of mind reading is to see through the other person's lies. People who are lying, or trying to lie, will be mentally armed before they start lying. The key to debunking this lie is how to remove his psychological armament.

Many people have experienced that if they have a head-on confrontation with someone when they expose their lies, they will definitely fight back with strong words. Therefore, when exposing a person's lies, it is even possible to ignore the truth of what he says, and instead focus on disarming his heart. Just like a mussel that is tightly closed, the more you rush to open it, the tighter it will close.

If you ignore it for a while, it will naturally let its guard down and turn on automatically after a while. So how can we disarm the other side? The FBI has summed up several specific steps based on years of experience in handling cases.

First of all, it is to make the other person feel safe. If you feel that the other person is lying to protect you, the FBI agent will most often say: "You tell the truth, otherwise the consequences will be more serious, and if you say it, there will be no worse results."

Under such advice, many criminal suspects will let their guard down, believing that their situation will not be worse anymore, and will not care about the adverse consequences of telling the truth. So in this case, it's easier to get him to tell the truth. Of course, to make the other person feel safe, you must first make him trust you, so that he will spit out the truth to you.

Generally speaking, if you want to extract the truth from the other party, it is easier to achieve the goal by using a good method of seduction than by forceful means of coercing a confession. But the premise is that we have to make the other person feel that "I really shouldn't lie to this kind of person". To put it simply, it takes skill to make the other person tell the truth completely because of your influence.

Another technique is the complete opposite, which is to dress up as easily gullible, so that the other person will let down their guard and think that they will not be suspected of saying anything. In this case, it is easy for people to unintentionally say what is in their hearts. In other words, it is to make the other party have a sense of psychological superiority, so that he gets carried away when he is proud, and at this time ask some questions, and the other party is likely to inadvertently show his feet.

This approach is usually implemented by people who are extremely arrogant and unself-effaceted.

When getting back together, a trick quickly dispels the other person's guard.