I m very conflicted right now, what is the contradiction that you re facing?

Your husband is a paranoid personality, narrow-minded, not easy to communicate, and will be obsessed with some small things, endlessly, and even for his own wife, he will not have the temperament of a big husband. To some extent, this is also a kind of domestic violence - soft violence, which is even more uncomfortable than beating you.

The old man thinks that if you want to solve it, you have to talk to your husband on your knees, open your mind to him, you can tell him the "idea" of divorce, see how he replies, if he expresses repentance, forget it, if you don't want to change, then make the next step, and prepare for the worst.

First of all, you have to think about whether you are still in love with each other!

Things are two-sided, he is actually nervous about you like this, no matter how his expression affects you, first of all, he is out of love for you!

It's not easy for two people to come together, superstition says that it is a blessing from several generations to know how to cherish, the two should communicate often, and then he is not a light worker, if both of them have a good social network, they are very busy, it will not be like this!

Anyway, if you think about it, if you still love each other, don't always think about divorce now, this is not a good idea in itself, you should think about how to solve the problem!

It's because of personality discord and lack of common language, he cares about you because he loves you, but he loves in a different way, so he cares about every little thing. Husband and wife are not a battlefield or a business world, since you know his character, you can understand him from a different angle, maybe you can change his personality, try it, it's better than divorce.

Let me say a word: If a woman marries a man who is rich, idle, tolerant, affectionate and loyal, she will definitely not regret it if she has such a man. It's a pity that there is no such man in this world, so a woman will regret marrying anyone she marries.

Hello dear, it is a contradiction between ideal and reality. People are born with a beautiful ideal, and they all hope that they will be happy in everything, happy, and prosperous, and be protected by the gods and Buddhas, and be cared for by their ancestors, so that they can have a successful career and make great achievements; Or the business world is dominant, and the family is rich. When it comes to envy, everyone's ideal state can vary greatly.

Zhang Zai's ideal in the Northern Song Dynasty is: to establish a heart for heaven and earth, to establish a life for the people, to continue to learn for the saints, and to open peace for all generations! This ideal of his is beyond the reach of the vast majority of people.

However, even ordinary people will have a simple ideal, that is, they hope to have a peaceful life, hope that the wind and rain will be smooth, the grains will be abundant, the children and grandchildren will be prosperous, and the ancestors will be glorified. However, this is just a beautiful ideal for people, and the real world is full of challenges and uncertainties. As the saying goes:

There are unpredictable circumstances. Sometimes there are floods, sometimes there are droughts for several years. Yes, the reality we face is sometimes at odds with our aspirations.

Society is complex, competition is fierce, and reality is sometimes brutal. For example, if we want to enter a first-class prestigious university, but the results of the college entrance examination do not meet the standards for entering such a university, so we cannot enter the ideal university. We don't live in a vacuum, we have to live in reality.

Ideals are just a beautiful vision of ours, and this vision is sometimes very different from reality. This creates contradictions in our hearts. In a person's life, he will often encounter contradictions between ideals and reality.

In such a situation, we must adjust our mentality in time and absolutely not be swayed by contradictions.