What kind of person is gentle and cold, what kind of person is gentle and cold?

Have your own principles and bottom line, be gentle when you should be gentle, and be indifferent when you should refuse.

What kind of people are gentle and cold. Personally, I think that the kind of person who is very hot in his heart and very arrogant in appearance is like this.

That's how his people behaved. I think he's a kinder person.

"Gentle people are simply treasures on earth. ”

The Chinese teacher said, "When you grow up, you should be gentle, and you should be gentle with the whole world."

I once saw such a passage: Gentleness is not about saying beautiful love words and doing many touching things, but being able to resist not saying every word that may hurt the other person, and not doing things that may hurt the other party. People who have been tempered by life always have a clammy and cold breath on their bodies, and finally they are warm and delicate, and only after being tempered by themselves can they show their true tenderness.

So, what does a gentle person look like? To use more psychological language to describe, gentle people have these traits:

They have better emotional control, stronger empathy, stronger emotional regulation, higher tolerance for frustration, and a better understanding of their changing feelings, so they rarely fall into embarrassment and confrontation in the process of interpersonal communication.

Gentleness does not mean that there is no thought of one's own, but only blindly obedient, passive or powerless, which is everyone's biggest prejudice and misunderstanding of gentleness.

Mr. Lu Xun once said, "A true warrior dares to face the bleak life and dare to face the dripping blood." I understand gentleness, to be brave enough.

I think there are two kinds of true gentleness, one is innate, from the heart, because it has never been hurt, has never seen the darkness, so it has a natural kindness to everything, it is the purest and softest gentleness, whoever meets this kind of person will involuntarily want to protect her, and then she can continue to be gentle and virtuous circle without being hurt, but this gentleness is fragile, the world is not spotless, so their gentleness is easy to break, of course, good luck can be protected very well for a lifetime, a lifetime of gentleness, This is indeed the most genuine gentleness.

There is also a kind of true tenderness, brought back from despair, having seen all the darkness, experiencing the pain of skinning and breaking bones, and then only chose to carve tenderness into the bones. This kind of gentleness is backed by its own strength and tenacity, so it is indestructible, and no one or anything can destroy such gentleness, like a phoenix of nirvana, enough to protect oneself, but also enough to pass light and love to everyone around you, the most perfect and mature gentleness. Gentleness is actually an ability, an ability to digest one's own negative emotions, and gentleness is also a state of mind, an optimistic state of mind that understands the other person with the greatest kindness.

The word gentle has been used a lot lately, but I think that a soft voice and a dignified demeanor cannot be described as gentle. But you've seen bigger worlds, you've experienced more nights, you've had honors, and you've been questioned. Understand that the world is neither stable nor beautiful, but still willing to love and treat with heart, this is true gentleness.

Gentleness is like being basked by the sun at three o'clock in the afternoon in winter, and the body will be a little hot, warm and comfortable; It's like the first bite of ice cream in summer, sweet and cool, and the whole person is full of comfort and comfort.

May you all be treated with tenderness.

It is he who hides all his emotions in his heart and eyes, leaving others with only the indifference of his face and the calmness of his tone.

Because of his gentleness, he can be friends with everyone, and few people can speak ill of him; Because of his coldness, it is difficult for him to find true friends, because he is never willing to spend his heart and soul for an incompatible soul.

He will be misunderstood as a scumbag, and his gentle tone makes people indulge and think they are emotional, and then he turns away coldly, leaving no room for it. But he is most likely a single-minded person, cold is external, and enthusiasm is reserved for himself and his beloved.

Gentle people are super indifferent. A perennially gentle person, once he becomes indifferent, whether it is very indifferent or just a little indifferent to ordinary people, people will find it difficult to accept, forming a huge gap in their hearts.

Indifferent people. Do you believe that people who are indifferent on the surface are actually the most gentle? I used to be unbelieving, and I always felt that indifference means that a person's heart is cold, and gentleness can reflect a person's warm heart.

But after meeting many people, I suddenly understood that it was not. Some people's gentleness is superficial gentleness.

In the name of being good to others, he asks for the enthusiasm of others. Just like in life, there is always such a type of person. Willing to take the initiative to help others, but the reason for helping others is to wait for the other party to help them.

There are even times, regardless of whether the other party has the ability or not, they will blackmail the other party to help themselves in the name of "knowing the grace and wanting to repay the favor".

Because of such people, I think of a sentence on Weibo: "In fact, gentle people are often indifferent, and enthusiastic people will be mean." "Gentleness is the softness of a person's heart, but this softness should have a scale, and the manifestation of this scale is a certain degree of indifference.

It is also easy to spot those who observe life.

When you are both gentle and cold, it can really make a person very attractive.

As we grow up, our relationships are also the most important part of life. But what has been hotly debated lately is what it's like to get along with people who are both gentle and indifferent. In my opinion, there are mainly the following experiences of getting along with people who are both gentle and cold, and here are my opinions and opinions:

First of all, it is actually a challenge to get along with people who are both gentle and cold. Some people seem gentle, but they are indifferent, but some people seem indifferent but gentle, everyone is a double face, he is in front of you and behind the back, everyone has their own little ideas, when you get along with a stranger, you don't know what he is like, so you will keep the measures and prank good ideas. But when you get along with a few people indifferently, it seems to me to be a challenge.

I think he's very gentle, but he's very cold. Eagerly. I wanted to challenge his desire to chat, and at the same time it sparked the interest between us, and I wanted to ask him more deeply and get to know him deeply.

The second is that it can be a good experience to get along with people who are both gentle and indifferent. Because people who are both gentle and indifferent, they don't have a bad heart, they have a good vision for the future, they won't hurt, they won't have any impact on you, they will give it to you, you let it go, they will let the gentleness pass on, it will make you feel warm, understand it to feel new feelings, and have a new understanding of him. Although indifferent people seem to be indifferent, indifferent on the surface, it does not mean that their hearts are the same as you, so although they seem to be indifferent people, he is very gentle, giving you a feeling that you want to get along with him after lingering.

The most important thing is that our dealings with other people should not be determined by their appearance, but by their nature, gentle and indifferent people. Although she is relatively cold on the outside, she is gentle on the inside, which can transmit positive energy to us and affect our three views, outlook on life, worldview and values. Our socialist values will not be afraid to affect our life information, and there are all aspects, so for him, it will affect us, it will make us better, it will pass on positive energy to us, let us become better people, it will be a good experience.

It may feel tangled. When the other person shows the cold side, they will want to distance themselves from the other person, but when the other person shows the gentle side, they want to be close to the other person.

Getting along with such a person will be a particularly devastating experience, because when he is gentle, he will give people a particularly cold feeling, which will make people unpredictable and helpless.

I think it will definitely be very comfortable, because although he is more indifferent, he is very gentle with others, and people who combine gentleness and indifference will definitely be more attractive.