How can an honest person become a city in the workplace?

Why do you say that there should be a city?

Yesterday I read a book, and the book put forward a point of view - it is not recommended to make friends in the workplace, and it is not recommended to make sincere friends between colleagues, because it is easy to change.

When I examined this point of view, I felt contradictions and conflicts in my heart, because in my values, I believe that a person should be true and should not tell lies. After thinking about it a lot, I figured out that it's right to be sincere, we still have to be truthful, but we should pay attention to one thing, when we reveal our true selves and open our hearts, we will face the risk of being hurt, in order not to let ourselves be hurt, we should hide our true intentions and true situation, this practice is the performance of the city.

Why does revealing your true thoughts hurt you? Because when you show your weaknesses and secrets to others, when you encounter conflicts of interest, these weaknesses and secrets can easily become the ** of others attacking you, just like lovers don't test each other's loyalty, we don't easily tell others our secrets, because people's hearts are impermanent, you can't guarantee that today's intimacy will not become tomorrow's enemies.

Why are friendships in the workplace so easy to change?

In the workplace, we all know that there should be a good relationship, but the relationship between people may deteriorate due to various circumstances, it may be jealousy, you are better than him or something you have and he doesn't, he may be jealous of you. There is a saying that your friend allows you to be worse than him, but may not be able to accept that you are better off than him, and vice versa. It is also possible that because of a trivial matter, you fail to meet his request, and your approach is not to his liking, and the two of them have a disagreement.

He thinks that you don't understand him, the division of responsibilities at work, competition for a common position, etc., may be the cause of discord.

Do what you have at hand, learn to say no, and talk less.

I think it's important to be yourself.

<><How to be a person with a city government? 01. Don't talk about family affairs in the companyNo matter how much you are appreciated by your leaders or how cordial you are with your colleagues, don't talk about negative family matters.

Get out, otherwise you won't know which day these things will become them out and you don't.

You will know that one day these things will become the gossip about them attacking and talking about you behind your back, and try to show that you are in a happy state.

Try to send as little as possible to the circle of friends, or try not to post your privacy and mood, but also.

Send some scenery or something, don't let others peek into your inner world and hide.

Private. 03. Prevent being trickedIf you don't want to be tricked, the simple way is to ask back, the other party asks you, you go back and let him evaluate first, if you really want yours, just say yes, no.

Bar, there's this kind of thing to fool around, don't be stupid.

04. Keep a hand in everythingThe division computer writes its own things, and also saves the handover information, chat records, and leaves.

Valid evidence such as proof of employment.

05. Don't talk about the rights and wrongs of others, and don't listen to the rights and wrongs of others.

Telling right and wrong and gossiping about others behind your back is by no means what a superior person would do.

If you want to practice a profound city, this is something that needs to be absolutely avoided.

06. Keep a sense of proportionNo matter how close you are to your colleagues, don't step into other people's private areas at will.

Don't let anyone else step into your private area at will, draw boundaries and let yourself.

It is clear to others that your bottom line is **, I don't offend anyone, don't offend me.

07. Show your edge appropriatelyTry not to touch the interests of others, but don't be afraid of others touching yours either.

interests, show the edge appropriately, and don't become a soft persimmon in the workplace.

08. Quit the heart and speak quicklyInterpersonal relationships in the workplace are complicated, and some words say that you cry once you cry once.

09. Know how to avoidThere are occasions that need to be avoided; There is some information that you will only provoke if you know it.

Come to trouble. In these situations, stay away from them and don't be pulled by curiosity.

Got into the water. 10. Hide your emotions. Don't put everything on your face so that others can see through what you're thinking.

What, naturally it will be pinched by someone, no matter how angry and depressed you are, find one.

Vent in private, and don't let people grab the handle.

11. Add value to yourselfGirls with a city government will realize the importance of growing up. Whatever we are at.

At any level of position, you must first master the knowledge and skills that you can learn.

On my own, I regard my part-time job as "paid learning" and continue to increase my value!

12. Know how to hide clumsyNo matter how talented and capable you are, don't show it right away at first.

Wait until you observe the personnel relationship clearly, and then slowly reveal it, so that others will not think of you.

It's a show, but I think you're a powerful person, and the girls in the city government understand.

You have to make others feel mysterious.

13. Goal-orientedThose who have a city government know their goals and values very well, as long as they have nothing to do with it.

It doesn't matter if you lose a lot of people and things, you naturally won't have time to deal with them.

The villain is trivial, and sometimes this is also a way to avoid the villain.

The best way is to learn from supervisors, leaders, and bosses to see how they are in front of each other. In short, don't tell others what you really mean, you must observe other people's emotions, understand what others really think in their hearts, and then say something that will not offend others and can protect your own interests.

Emotional intelligence should be higher, you must be able to speak, you must be able to speak, but don't speak ill of the leader, don't complain about the company with colleagues; Don't treat your colleagues as your friends, don't treat your leaders as family, you must learn more and improve your abilities.

When it comes to things, you need to be as calm as possible. For things that haven't happened yet, don't worry about the serious consequences they will have.

The workplace is like this, you must cultivate your own city government and cultivate your calm and steady character, so as not to suffer a big loss because of jumping up and down.

01 Speak slowly and don't express your opinions easily.

In the business reception, I have seen several funny things, after the fish comes up, the wine has not been drunk, and some people move chopsticks, especially newcomers are easy to make this mistake, often this kind of thing happens, the owner and the guests are very embarrassed, and it is even possible to talk about the matter. In fact, at work, this kind of thing is not uncommon, such as expressing an opinion on a matter.

Many people say, isn't it just talking about opinions? What's the big deal. In fact, there is a lot of knowledge in this, remember a sentence, as long as it is in public, never be the first to express your opinions, especially not to say your thoughts before the leader has expressed his views.

Think about it, if you think it's right and say it first, but your leader thinks it's wrong, then he says it or not, and maybe even changes his view of things to his view of people, thinking that you are not good as a person.

Even if you agree and you are the first to say it, it seems that you have no city government and are not stable at all. Therefore, it is the best way to deal with it easily, and when you speak, you must speak slowly, think clearly, and be logically clear.

Either don't say it, or say it's a boutique.

02 Work slowly and improve your execution.

Whether it's receiving a job or expanding customers, do it slowly. This refers to being slower, which means thinking clearly first, that is, having a general arrangement for how to do this work, so that you know it in your heart. For example, a report, to think first, what the purpose of the report is, what to highlight the key points, what are the easy mistakes, when to hand over to what level of leadership, these wisps are clear, and it is not too late to do it, after all, sharpening the knife is not the wrong woodworker, otherwise it is easy to do it without thinking, and it is easy to "not get the right topic" and waste your energy and time in vain.

For example, if you want to expand a new customer, then you should think clearly before acting, what is the personality of the customer, what do you like to do, this is the foundation, what advantages of our products are what customers are particularly concerned about, stronger than opponents, this is elevated. Take these things into account, and when you meet customers, you won't say that there is no logic, a hammer in the east and a mallet in the west.

To improve their own execution, we must keep in mind the idiom of "planning and then deciding", and we must think clearly about everything before doing it, only in this way can we continuously improve ourselves. In fact, this is also a manifestation of the city government, an employee who does not speak easily, but has strong executive ability, is very popular with the boss.

See through and don't say, see through and don't say, talk less, observe more!

When you see people, you talk about people, and when you see ghosts, you talk nonsense.

Say half, hide half.

Colleagues who are deeply hidden and surrounded by smart people usually don't express their opinions at work, but it is difficult to express their opinions and goals in front of everyone's eyes. In the minds of Chengfu's colleagues, they understand that many words can be wrong, that is, in order to avoid others from causing trouble with their own words. Hiding your thoughts and opinions at work helps avoid a lot of trouble.

Having concealed the purpose of the work, no one can clearly see the reality. Talented colleagues don't easily show their means when it comes to doing things. After the opponent shows his cards, it will play a decisive role.

As a result, these smart colleagues are very low-key and will hide deep in whatever they do.

Lu's wonders, they are excellent and capable colleagues. Their wisdom is reflected in every aspect. They know who to deal with.

Just like the workplace, they hide their desires and intensity. In front of the leader, they were just right close, leaving no traces, so the leader did not hate them, but thanked himself. Therefore, it is also a compliment.

Colleagues who become wealthy tend to have better results than ordinary colleagues. They demonstrate their abilities at the right time and opportunity or get close to the leader.

Fighting ruthlessly, the so-called brutal struggle of smart colleagues means being cruel to oneself and others. I think if you mix things up at work, you can't avoid misunderstandings with others. For gifted colleagues, the contradictions will be even more acute.

Capable colleagues are strict with themselves. The main manifestation is that even if it makes a colleague feel uncomfortable, it doesn't show up right away. Instead, they endured the tone, and they chose to create peace above the surface, as if they were generous and didn't care about it.

But if you really hurt their interests, they won't fight for it. They may also secretly withdraw such fears or even retaliate against each other. As a result, some of Cheng Fushen's colleagues are also very intense when they clash with their colleagues.

Hidden very deeply, usually do not hang emotions on the face, will not easily reveal their talents, in terms of intelligence is more prominent, will not show their own desires, and when fighting with others, they are also very ruthless, will not leave any chance for others, consider the questions will be very comprehensive, and will be more tactful, but they are more fair and objective.

Generally speaking, such people have relatively poor personal relationships, high IQ, always encourage others to do things, they are also very close to the leader, and their ability is particularly strong.

Such a person generally does not let people guess his inner thoughts, and on the surface it seems harmless to humans and animals, which is particularly terrifying, but in fact, the city government is very deep, and he is very calculating.

In the workplace, it is very important for honest people who are not good at expressing themselves to learn to write and write copy, why are they bullied, in addition to your honest wood, the most fundamental thing is that they are incapable and cannot be relied on by bosses and leaders.

If you are not good at speaking, then please cultivate your written expression skills (writing, logical thinking, PPT), because enterprises need salesmen who can speak and charge, and they also need planners and copywriters who can write and draw and are good at summarizing.

With the improvement of modern enterprise management, the human resources department pays more and more attention to cultural construction, which involves corporate culture, activities, and mobilization of employee enthusiasm, which requires writing and copywriting, and even solicits contributions from employees.

The marketing of enterprises is no longer in the era of one mouth to sell, and it needs a variety of combinations such as advertising, news, activities, and marketing tools, which require planning and copywriting. The most typical is bidding, which requires bidding documents and more importantly, the ability to organize words.

Writing and copywriting skills will make you a leader who can't do without it. The background and background of the leader are different, some leaders may have a business background, a technical background but the level of copywriting may not be good, and some leaders have copywriting skills but will be very busy when they sit in a certain position, and they will not have time to write the whole copywriting. At this time, if you are good at copywriting, then the leader will rely on you a lot, and he will take you with him for promotion, and he will give you the opportunity to get a salary increase, because you use it easily.

Copywriting will give you the opportunity to excel, and long-term copywriting will make you think and take the initiative to read to get information. If you are not good at verbal expression, you can use your accumulation to write your own opinions and thoughts before the meeting, and prepare for practice. Even if your speech at the meeting is not so vivid, but you have dry goods and insights, you will naturally have the opportunity to stand out.

So this question, introverted honesty is not terrible, then a different way of expressing it may be your advantage. This person usually doesn't talk a lot of nonsense, but his writing is good, and he can get to the point as soon as he speaks.