What are the marriage customs belonging to the pre Qin period?

Marriage customs. It's the etiquette of marriage. In ancient China, there were "six rites."

It is said that there is also this custom in some areas today, and the six rites are Nacai, asking the name, and Najib.

Recruitment, please date, welcome. In fact, the traditional wedding customs of various regions are not completely limited by these six ceremonies, and it simplifies the process of blind date and engagement, for example, the date of marriage (agreeing on the date of marriage) and the najib (gift-giving engagement). More attention has been paid to ceremonial processes such as the marriage of the bride and groom (the bride and groom drinking a glass of wine), the haunted room and the "return to the door" after marriage.

In ancient times, the six rituals of ancient Chinese weddings had a positive significance for the local society, that is, they should pay attention to etiquette.

I think this has a certain positive significance, so that it can give both parties the opportunity to fully understand each other, and can so that both parties can carefully and seriously consider whether they want to get married. In this way, it is beneficial for both parties to make a more rational judgment, and it is also easy to maintain a stable marital state, so I think this is of positive significance.

Regarding the age of marriage - contrary to most people's impressions, the legal age of marriage was a little later than in modern times, according to the "Zhou Li, Diguan Situ 2nd Shi Shi Matchmaker", it is recorded that men marry at 30 and women marry at 20. Thirty years old, even in contemporary times, it can be regarded as late marriage and late childbearing, but late marriage has the advantage of late marriage, that is, "Zhou Duo has a long life" year old Acacia.

I remember that the book "The Selfish Gene" also said that a simple and crude way to increase human life expectancy is to raise the legal age of marriage by 1 to 2 years every ten years, so as to conduct targeted screening of longevity genes.

Regarding the age difference between men and women - some people may say that according to the above record, a woman can marry at the age of twenty, but she can only marry a man who is more than ten years older, isn't there a generation gap? This was not a problem at all in the eyes of the ancients. We can take a look at the hexagram representing marriage in "Zhou Yi", that is, the hexagram of returning to the sister.

Returning to my sister, the righteousness of heaven and earth. Heaven and earth do not intersect, Ze and all things are not prosperous", "Ze has thunder, return to the sister", return to the sister hexagram, the inner hexagram is the Ze hexagram, the bureau chain represents the girl, and the outer hexagram is the thunder hexagram, representing the eldest man. Therefore, the uncle and Lori are originally the proper meaning of marriage.

On the other hand, is it okay for a female junior to hold gold bricks? The eldest daughter is the wind hexagram, the young man is the mountain hexagram, and together it is the Gu hexagram, "Gu person, confused". In "Zuo Biography", it is said that "women confuse men, and the wind falls", which shows that people in the pre-Qin period were not optimistic about such a marriage (which is not as enlightened as modern people).

Regarding polyandry and concubines - although this was normal in the pre-Qin period, the ancients did not recognize the so-called "blessing of Qi people". The hexagram in "Zhou Yi" has the saying that "two daughters live together, and their ambitions do not match". When two women marry a husband, it is impossible for their minds to go in one direction, and in the end it will only cause conflicts and quarrels every day.

About the bride price - "Zhou Li, Di Guan Situ No. 2, Shi Shi Matchmaker" records that "where a son marries a wife, the currency is pure silk no more than five taels", and a bride price is stipulated here, that is, five taels of silk. Although the productivity was low in the pre-Qin period, five taels of silk should not be very valuable, indicating that the bride price attaches importance to the gift itself, rather than wealth. In addition, it is not very acceptable to pay too much attention to money.

Zhou Yi's "Menghea" said, "Don't use to take women, see Jin Fu, don't bow." There is no profit" (do not marry such a woman, she will be abducted when she sees a rich man, and there is no benefit in marrying such a person).

It seems that there is still a big gap between the concept of marriage and love in the pre-Qin period and modern people!