Is it necessary to fully believe the words of parenting experts? Will you listen?

There is really no need to believe the words of parenting experts, they just analyze and evaluate from an objective point of view, but we must know that each child is an independent individual, and their bodies are very different, even if you believe in parenting experts, you can't completely listen to them, I used to believe in the words of parenting experts, and I also thought about parenting step by step, but then the development of these words has no meaning at all, you still have to carry out scientific parenting according to the actual situation of your own children, as long as you follow scientific parenting, there is no need to listen to parenting experts, the best for your own children is the best.

Presumably many novice parents began to popularize a variety of parenting knowledge very early, and have also paid attention to a lot of parenting experts' platforms, in our fixed concept, we always think that what experts say is the truth, many parents have such misunderstandings, we are not saying that what parenting experts say is false, but we don't need to fully believe in what parenting experts say, because there are individual differences between children, sometimes the words of parenting experts are not necessarily applicable to our children, and taking care of children can not be done step by step, We have to depend on the actual situation of our children, otherwise you will always feel that you are not good enough, and even scare yourself from time to time.

Based on my own parenting experience, I can tell you that what they say is actually very general, and sometimes the more you listen, the more you feel that you are a failure, and children are not static, and you will not completely listen to parenting experts after you have parenting experience.

As long as you insist on scientific parenting, sometimes you will feel that you are more professional than those so-called experts, because many of the questions they ask cannot solve any problems, and in the end you still have to rely on yourself, as long as the child grows up healthily, you don't need to worry, and don't just go to ** to search for all kinds of answers, these are useless, and will only increase the troubles.

Personally, I don't think it's necessary to fully believe what parenting experts say; I don't believe it all, I hear some of it, some of it makes sense, but some of it doesn't make sense if I think it's wrong.

There's no need to take the words of parenting experts completely, I won't take them, I'll choose to judge for myself.

In the process of family education, in addition to finding parenting experts, you should also educate according to the actual situation of your own children, and don't blindly trust experts.

Modern families pay great attention to education, and there are many education methods and training institutions for young children in society, and there are endless parenting experts who put forward their own opinions on the ways and means of educating children, and there are many parents who believe in the advice of these parenting experts, and copy these parenting experts for their children's education methods. However, some people slowly find that some parenting experts are actually not reliable, and many of them don't know how to educate children at all just for the sake of money and traffic, so there is no need to fully believe the words of parenting experts, for the following reasons:

Every little one has his ownGrowth trajectorywithGrowing up environmentParenting experts may have just learned some more general parenting theories, but for most of the children, they have summed up some experience. However, everyone has their own special circumstances, if parents ignore their children's situation and just blindly follow the educational philosophy of parenting experts, then it is likely to become less and less understanding of their children, which will have a counterproductive effect. Eventually, it will lead to a rift in the relationship between yourself and your child, and in severe cases, it will also cause the child's personality defects, which is a very undesirable practice.

Due to the current good market prospects in this aspect of parenting, many parenting experts have made money in this field, and orange hunger has led to some peopleFishing in troubled waters, obviously not an expert, let alone relevant professional knowledge and experience, and also know nothing about parenting, these people package themselves as parenting experts, and even some people have written books and created some marketing accountsScam gettraffic to make money. Therefore, for the current parenting experts, parents should keep their eyes open and believe again, and don't blindly follow.

For the advice of parenting experts, parents should not listen to biased beliefs, but should adopt appropriate education methods based on the actual situation of their children, so as not to make half the effort.

There is no need. Because the words of parenting experts may not be suitable for all children, there is no need to fully believe in them.

I don't think it's necessary at all, because the words of these parenting experts are too general and may not be suitable for your own child.

It is not necessary to completely trust the words of parenting experts, because each child's situation is different, and according to the child's situation, find your own parenting methods.

The reason may not be simple, it may be:

1.She is not used to seeking advice from professionals

We always think that if we have difficulties, we must find someone who knows more and is more professional than ourselves. However, many people don't. For example, my friend's dad had a chance to go to college after he worked.

About whether to go up or not, he asked his brother. The advice given by my brother is: At such an age, what else is there. At the suggestion of his brother, he did not continue his studies.

In fact, his brother's education level and personal experience are similar to those of his friend's father. My friend's father missed a lot of opportunities because he believed his brother's advice.

2.She didn't really want to ask for advice, but she wanted to complain

Some people seem to be asking for advice, but they are actually shirking responsibility.

One of my classmates' children was very bad and once beat his father. My classmates felt very embarrassed and even explained to us: we educate our children, we give him a lot of reasoning, but it is useless. What do you say?

It seems that she is asking how to educate her children, but she is actually shirking responsibility and excusing herself.

3.Specialists will put pressure on her

Some people don't get along with authority, and once they are with people who are richer than themselves, who have more power and status than themselves, they feel pressured, so they will avoid authority.

4.Don't trust parenting experts

Many people think that the so-called parenting expert only teaches his own children well, and his methods of educating his own children may not be effective when applied to other children.

Moreover, education is not a one-time thing, it requires long-term perseverance. Some experts give advice, but parents can't do it, so they hastily think that professional advice is invalid.

If it were me, I would be willing to spend money to hire an expert to help me analyze how to educate my children. I trust the advice of professionals more. What about you?

I have a neighbor who likes to learn about parenting, and often reads it and shares it with us in the group, but it's nothing.

But she usually goes out to walk the baby, and when she sees that some mothers are not good at teaching, she will point it out, saying that it will be bad for children to do this, and she likes to move out of the words of parenting experts to teach mothers.

She once saw me putting gloves on Kiki, and she also said that I was good, and that it was good for children to eat their hands, and that it was a way to explore the world. I could only smile and not speak.

My daughter's hands are deformed and blistered. I've read all the things that parenting experts have written, but it's not necessarily right, and they must be stopped if they are addicted to it. Anything too much is not good, so I don't like it when some parenting experts talk nonsense and hurt parents.

My daughter can't quit eating hands at the age of two, because she used to read parenting knowledge and said not to interfere with hand eating.

It's really hard to quit eating addiction, I often feel a headache from the feast, and Pei Shu has tried various methods for her but can't quit.

There are also parenting experts who say don't hit children. This kind of teaching according to aptitude, can not say that you can't fight, to see how to fight, children do something wrong to punish, otherwise there is no punishment for doing wrong, the cost of doing wrong is too low, he does not have to bear the consequences for doing wrong, there are many ways to punish, beating is just one of them.