How do I tell my child about the death of a family member?

Updated on society 2024-07-23
21 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    For children under 3 years of age, tell him that he is gone. For children aged 3-6 years, we can use plants as a metaphor and try not to be too direct. For elementary school students, try to say that the heart is not beating.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Parents can tell their children truthfully and tell them that everyone is going through birth, old age, sickness and death, so that children can die head-on without being too frightened and panicked.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    First of all, you should tell your child the sad news of the death of a loved one, and in a language that your child can understand at his or her stage of development. For example, for younger children, you can tell them that they "went to a far away place and never came back"; For older children, they can also say "go to heaven and start a new life there".

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I think it is better to tell the truth and try not to hide it from the child, because it will make the child's inner feeling cheated.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    After the death of the elderly, especially after the death of grandparents who have a close relationship with their children and even brought up their children single-handedly, it is worth thinking about how to tell children about this heavy topic. Speaking up without thinking about it will create a sense of rupture and fear in children. False coaxing, after a long time, the child will feel it, and will be dissatisfied with the parent's deception.

    How? First of all, tell the child the news of the death of the old man realistically, but pay attention to the color of the language.

    You can't hide it. Parents are going to mourn, right? In general, in addition to babies under the age of one, children should also attend, right? Tradition says that the living descendants are surrounded by lacquer, and the majesty after death should also include the funeral of the children and grandchildren. These children are inescapable.

    You can use the atmosphere of the scene to tell the child that the old man has passed away and will never be seen again. We're all sad, and you're sad too, aren't you? While informing, empathize at the same time.

    Then tell the child that although the old man has left us, her industrious and simple quality, the care and love she gave us, will always remain in everyone's hearts, and we will all remember him and love him forever. If you want him, you can go to see his **, and we will also go to the cemetery to visit him and worship him on the Qingming Festival. This not only alleviates the child's sudden sense of loss, but also passes on the custom of worshipping ancestors during the Qingming Festival to the child.

    Second, we should face up to the issue of death and establish a correct view of life and death.

    Tell children that just like flowers will wither when they get old, the death of a person is a normal thing, and everyone will face death. However, true death does not happen until a long, long time later, in old age.

    But if you don't take care to protect yourself, it's easy to die early, and it shouldn't be. For example, Mom and Dad are still young and far away from death, and you are even further away. However, if we don't pay attention to hygiene, get sick or don't pay attention to safety, we will encounter fires, car accidents, bad people, etc., resulting in early death.

    At that time, Mom and Dad died early, what do you do? You die early, what will mom and dad do? Therefore, we all have to love ourselves, love each other as a family, always be together, and never separate.

    Safety education was also carried out from the side.

    Finally, it is associated with the child's development.

    Tell the child that although the old man is gone, he loves us.

    Didn't go away. He will keep an eye on us in heaven. He will watch if the baby is well-behaved, whether he eats well, goes to school, and makes new friends.

    Behave well, and the old man will be very happy. Bad performance, old man and very disappointed. I know, you won't disappoint your favorite old man, will you?

    Skillful growth education.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Yes, you can tell the child that the old man has gone to a different place, but he is still around us, and he can feel it as long as he cares about it.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    You can tell your child that your relatives have gone to another world to pay attention to you, and you will live a very happy life, and you should talk to your child about some beautiful things.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think you can tell your children that their grandparents have not left you, but have gone to the paradise they longed for.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You should tell your child tactfully, tell your child that his relatives have gone to another world, but he will always miss him.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    You should tell your child tactfully that you can tell your child that you are going to heaven and that you will gradually understand.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    How do you tell your child that an old man has died?

    First of all, tell the child the news of the death of the old man realistically, but pay attention to the color of the language. Hiding is something that can't be hidden. Parents will mourn, right?

    Generally speaking, in addition to the little baby in the stone, shouldn't ordinary children also participate? Tradition says that the living offspring are to be painted, and when they die, they are to be buried, and their children and grandchildren are to be buried. These children can't avoid it.

    According to the atmosphere of the scene, you can say sad words to the child, saying that the old man has passed away and will never be seen again. We're all sad, and you're sad too, right? I feel the same while notifying.

    The old man left us but told the children that if she had her industrious and simple qualities, her care and love for us, and remained in everyone's heart forever, we would all remember him and love him forever. If you want to see him, you can go to see his **, we will visit him in the cemetery on Qingming Festival and pay tribute to him. This not only alleviates the child's sense of loss when he suddenly arrives, but also conveys the customs of the Qingming season to the child.

    Answer questions about death positively and establish a correct view of life and death. Tell children that flowers will wither when they get old, that it is normal for people to die, and that everyone will face death. However, true death does not occur until old age.

    However, if you don't protect yourself, you can't easily die early. For example, mom and dad are young and far from death. But if we don't talk about hygiene, get sick, don't pay attention to safety, or come across fires, traffic accidents, bad guys, etc., we will die early.

    At that time, my parents died very young, what do you do? If you die early, what will mom and dad do? So we all have to love ourselves, love each other as a family, be together forever, and don't break up.

    In addition, safety education is carried out from the side. It is related to the development of the child. Tell the child that the old man is gone, but his love for us has not disappeared.

    He will always watch us in heaven. He will watch if the child is not well-behaved, eat well, go to school, and make new friends. Well done, the old man will be pleased.

    Bad grades, disappointed in the old man. I know, you won't disappoint your favorite old man, will you? Skillful growth education.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    You can tell the child that the old man has gone to a far away place, and after a long time, we will be reunited as a family, and if you want the old man, he will come to meet you in your dreams.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can tell the child that the grandfather went to a very far place and will not be able to come back for a while. Then slowly tell him that grandpa has become a god, and he is watching over us in the sky.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    For such things, we can tell the child in a tactful way, for example, to tell him that his relatives have gone to another world, if we want him, we can watch his **, or go to pay tribute to him, so that the child is easier to understand, and will not be afraid.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Just tell the truth, and there is no need to deceive, because every child should slowly accept these facts.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If the child asks the old man where he has gone, the parent can euphemistically say that the old man has gone to heaven and gone to another world, but we can always see that we are like this, and the child can slowly understand when he grows up.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You can tell your child that your grandparents have gone to heaven and become a star in the sky and have left us.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    For this kind of thing, you should tell the child that the old man has gone to live elsewhere, and you will see him later.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    In life, we always avoid talking about "death", and we will feel unlucky when we talk about this word. But in fact, birth, old age, sickness and death are one of the natural processes of human beings. If an important person in a child's life has passed away, the potential impact of the child's negative reaction will be very complex, and when this happens, it is best for adults not to avoid talking about it, but to actively take measures to guide the child to understand and accept the misfortune.

    First, you should tell your child the sad news of the death of a loved one truthfully, and in a language that is appropriate to his stage of development. For example, for younger children, you can tell them that they said, "I went to a far, far away place and will never come back". For older children, it can also be said that "I went to heaven and started a new life there", etc.

    Second, the outpouring of emotions from family members, including shock, unimaginability, guilt, sadness, and anger, is normal and beneficial. Other loved ones can alleviate the child's loneliness by sharing their feelings and memories with the child. For example, watch ** together or reminisce about stories, etc.

    It is best not to deliberately act too calm in front of your child, so that the child will be confused about his feelings: why do others seem to be calm because they feel painful? Am I wrong?

    Third, you should assure your child that he will receive the constant care and love of his living relatives, who will closely meet his child's needs. In addition, you should also convince your children that the death of their relatives is not their fault, and sometimes even if it is an accident, it is inevitable that they will not be able to resurrect their dead relatives. The family should maintain the habits of family life and the teaching of their children.

    In short, when an unfortunate event occurs, the family should still let the child feel enough love, and timely counseling the child's feelings and psychology can help the child get out of grief as soon as possible.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    A four-year-old girl, her cognition is limited. What's more, we ourselves don't have a convincing understanding of the topic of death, so how can we convince this four-year-old child. If it were me, I would first sort out my emotions and say to the child with a calm and strong attitude

    Your dad went first, somewhere we'd all go. He left what he had done to us and what he had said to us, in our hearts, so that we might remember it. Because, there is no way back to the place where everyone will go, so as long as anyone goes, everyone will not see him again, and can only think about him with their hearts and talk to him with their hearts.

    We can also write down everything that happened when he was not there, and tell him when we are together. Therefore, we all have to do things well and do things according to what he usually says, and we must not let him be anxious. ...Communication, it depends on the child's acceptance.

    Parents should know their children's minds.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    When a loved one dies in the family, many parents hide their children at the first time, and then they have to use countless lies to hide it. In fact, many things need to be explained clearly to their children, and many parents will say, "Don't tell your child that he is too young." "This statement is actually partly wrong, don't let the child hear things in other people's mouths, carefully tell him about things, let him also understand what happened, unless the mind is really not up to it, as long as he reaches the stage of understanding, he must communicate with him more.

    Children may be concerned about death as early as the age of four or five, and if a loved one dies, the child may have greater psychological fluctuations. Therefore, when the child takes the initiative to bring it up, it is necessary to explain to him and her the appeasement of death and progress.

    Explain to your child that death should not be described as a happy ending, such as going to heaven, but avoid being too realistic and causing the child to see death as a frightening event. We can use the metaphor of warmth to guide children to understand death as a thing that can still make the living person miss and sustenance although he is gone forever. For example, the leaves fall back to the roots.

    We can use some nostalgic rituals or read some picture books on the theme of death to soothe and divert children's emotions.

    As long as we who are alive have not forgotten our loved ones who have passed away, they have not really passed away.

    In this way, the child will transform the grief and fear of death into the memory of a loved one.

    The death of a loved one, the depth of the damage caused to the child, and how long it takes for the child to get out of the pain, depends on the emotional intelligence of the child himself, not on how the adult tells the child.

    Just ask, how can you let a child of what age "rationally" face his mother's sudden departure?

    I'm afraid that no matter how much adults communicate with children, children will not be able to accept this fact. If you want to get your child out of pain, you can only leave it to time.

    In my opinion, the best way is not to communicate with the child about it head-on, but not to touch it in words and deeds, and not to arouse the child's thoughts of his loved ones.

    Children under the age of 3 do not yet fully understand the meaning of death, and the best way is to tell him that "this person is gone". Like a fallen leaf in autumn, a withered flower or a goldfish that no longer swims, the person is "gone", in a simple way, the child understands the naturalness of death.

    Older children generally understand the consequences of death, and we can talk about specific concepts of death, such as, "When people die, their hearts stop beating and they don't breathe, and we can't see them anymore." At this stage, children will feel sadness for a longer period of time and will be able to express the sadness in their hearts.

    When it comes to helping children deal with the death of a loved one, adults should help them face and accept the death of their loved one, and not avoid it because of their own fear and avoidance.

    If your child feels like crying, encourage them to cry, and encourage them to talk about their feelings and help them vent their inner pain. The sooner a child comes out of his sadness, the stronger he will be able to start a new life.

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