Failed College Life, Failed Life What should I do?

College life is beautiful, there are always different gains, success and failure in life, no one can **, there is a saying: hard work is not necessarily successful, but giving up must fail, if the heart is there, the dream is there!

At least you have your own interests, people have self-knowledge, you have, hard work, you will always succeed, continue to work hard will life will be better.

Reading is not the only way out, I only felt after finishing my university job that I didn't feel a sense of accomplishment with a few thousand dollars a month, so I engaged in photography, and now I found that after dealing with other photographers and makeup artists, a few are college students, don't deny yourself because of poor reading, Hong Kong Chief Executive Lao Zeng Middle School is not a failure in mathematics, not all great people are so outstanding, as long as you are willing to work hard, you will always achieve your goal!

Everyone's ideas are different, in fact, only you know whether you mix well in college or not, because only you know whether you are really happy or not...It doesn't matter what fame or fortune is, the important thing is that you can understand how to find your own happiness in such a small society that is not really humane.

It's not terrible to fail It's terrible to be afraid of failure As the saying goes, everyone has failed If you're always thinking about failure, then it's impossible to succeed They say you haven't read at all That's impossible Don't listen to them and say useless things It's inevitable to be confused and low in life You can't go downhill Find your own strengths and find them Everyone is the same Watching others live happily They also have troubles They can all live with a smile You can do the same If you don't know the question, ask your friends and classmates.

In some people's perception, college students should have an enviable job and a high salary after graduation. If you don't reach such a state, you will be laughed at and it will mean failure. Such a perception is inaccurate.

The reason why we say this is because the measure of a person's success is not the level of salary, the realization of life ideals can only be considered true success, and we should not only focus on short-term interests but also focus on long-term development.

1. The measure of a person's success is not the level of salary.

Some people put the criterion of a person's success on whether they can get a good salary, and this view is one-sided. ......In fact, there is no correlation between high salaries and whether a person is successful or not. ......Those who do ordinary jobs but do not pay low salaries can hardly be called successful, while those who have a successful career but do not pay well are considered real successes.

2. Only when you realize your life ideals can you truly achieve success.

Each of us has a corresponding goal for our own career development. This is our ideal in life. ......For a person, only when he realizes his life ideals can he be regarded as truly successful.

Some people do a job that they don't like, and in such a state, even if they are paid a lot of money, they will not be happy, let alone successful.

3. We should not only focus on short-term interests, but should focus on long-term development.

Some college students do not develop smoothly because they have limited abilities when they first enter the workplace. At this time, he received a low salary, but that did not mean that he had failed ......In fact, from a long-term perspective, this new college student has a bright future for development, and he can continue to develop his career by gradually improving himself in the future, so as to achieve the ultimate goal of career success. ......At this time, looking back on the experience of the period when he could not get a high salary, it cannot be said that he failed, but can only say that it was the accumulation stage of his accumulation, which is an important foundation for his ultimate success in the future.

Therefore, we should look at this issue from the perspective of long-term development, and Zhen Xiaoqian cannot judge a person's success or failure simply from the perspective of income.

It's almost interview season, and I've heard that interviewers are very fond of asking, "What was the most failed thing you did in college?" ”

It all started when I was in high school, when I was the one who wrote the manuscript in the class debate, and at that time I wanted to stand on the stage of the debate and experience the feeling that one person is better than a million teachers.

The one I wanted to join most during my freshman year was the debate team.

However, the debate requires a competition, and the judges select the team members from the competition.

And I, when I stood up to speak, my mind went blank and I didn't know what to say.

Naturally, I didn't make it to the debate team.

I have been reflecting on this for a long time, and I went to Zhihu to find out what kind of books can improve my language expression skills, such as "The Art of Communication", "How to Ask Questions", "Difficult Conversations", ......

After reading it, I didn't feel any change at all, and I still couldn't talk about my little stammer.

After that, try to sweep the building and gain experience in actual combat. It turned out to be a self-inflicted humiliation, either the door would not be allowed to enter, or the product could not be sold.

In my sophomore year, I basically gave up on exercising my speaking skills, and maybe standing on the stage of the debate team was just a dream.

However, just when I was about to give up, I was on the go, and I saw "Speak Well".

In Speak Well, speech is divided into five types of speech, communication, debate, negotiation, persuasion, and the five animals are used as metaphors for them.

Speech: Power formation, if it can only speak, will become like a peacock.

Communication: Power flows, if only communicating, can become as weak as a rabbit.

Debate: The power on the other side, if you can only debate, will become as difficult as a hedgehog.

Negotiation: The power is on both sides, and if they can only negotiate, they will become as cold as crocodiles.

Persuasion: The power is in the other side, and if it can only persuade, it will become as cunning as a fox.

It dawned on me that I was in a problem with my positioning, that I had a talent for debating and negotiating, and that I was expecting to achieve what I wanted in communication and persuasion.

Here, I have gained a lot, from an unknown person to a person who can lead the team to victory.

For example, once in the Bureau of 18 people, the Prophet Witch Lovers, the Prophets jumped up to kill me, the Witch Tibetans, and I noticed that the previous speech might have done the witch people, and the Eros jumped up and said the Witch Man Wolf Couple. True Eros found out that the couple I reported was true, and wanted to mislead the Wolves team not to stab the couple, lying that the couple was wrong, and insisted on not reporting the couple. In the end, in this round of votes, the witch was voted to death and the prophet was martyred.

This directly caused the morale of the good guy camp to collapse, and many villagers directly abandoned treatment.

I'm not the kind of person who dances long sleeves at a wine table, and I don't even have a few friends. But.

Even if one day, no one sings with me, at least in my heart, there is still a place that has not yet collapsed.

College students should face setbacks bravely, admit their failures, remember that failure is the mother of success, life is not a smooth sailing thing, if you can't even accept failure, you can't succeed. In this life, whether it is life, work, study or others, it is inevitable that we will encounter some setbacks, but we must face them and solve them, rather than let them go.

First, people will be very frustrated in the face of failure, and you should communicate with friends and family members about failure, so that you can relax your mood. In this way, you will feel a little better in the face of failure, and you will also understand that there are many people with you. People must have the courage to face the pain of reality, rather than being defeated in the face of reality, especially in the face of their own shortcomings.

Second, self-reflection, find the reason for your failure, and make a summary of yourself.

When recognizing and dealing with setbacks, learn to attribute them correctly.

Generally, there are two types: internal and external, and people who tend to external attribution often believe that their behavior is controlled by external forces; People who tend to internal attribution are accustomed to thinking that the outcome of their actions is controlled by internal forces.

Proper attribution is about analyzing it realistically and figuring out whether it's external, internal, or both.

In the face of setbacks, we must correctly assess our own ability, be confident in ourselves, and not lose confidence and sharpness due to setbacks. It's about finding out your strengths and strengths; At the same time, we should correctly recognize the advantages of others and learn from each other's strengths.

The third point is to have a mental estimate of one's own failure, psychological tolerance refers to the ability to actively and voluntarily get out of the situation and avoid psychological and behavioral disorders when encountering setbacks. After the goal is determined, we must be prepared for success or failure, with the "worst" preparation, we will invisibly enhance psychological endurance, and at the same time work hard in the direction of success, we can reduce blindness, passivity, and enhance initiative. In this way, even if you fail, you will have a psychological expectation, and you will not have too much sense of loss when you are disappointed, and you will not fall down.