Teach children, what should I do if the elderly take care of their shortcomings?

Yesterday, my 3-year-old son was playful and peed his pants again. When my husband found out, he pulled him over and wanted to teach him a lesson. He said:

You're so old, and you're still peeing your pants, isn't there a shame in it? Can you remember it for a long time, I want to pee in advance. "Who knew that as soon as the child said two words, the child's grandmother came out, and I knew that she must have come to protect the short.

Sure enough, the child's grandmother said to her son angrily: "What about the child, you still wet the bed when you are 5 years old, and I haven't murdered you once, why are you so strict with the child?" ”

Hearing the child's grandmother say this, my husband instantly felt slapped in the face. And the stinky son, who was originally teary-eyed, suddenly pointed at his father with a smile and said, "Shame, shame, shame, .......""It's really embarrassing for my husband, not to mention how embarrassing.

When teaching children, have you ever been slapped in the face by the elderly's words? How to deal with it without embarrassment? Here are a few ways to try:

Communicate with the elderly in advance to avoid the embarrassment of interjecting.

In fact, parents don't want to be slapped in the face by the old man's words when teaching their children, and the best way to deal with it is to communicate with the old man in advance. For example, say to the elderly: "It's okay to spoil the child, but when he obviously does something wrong, I, as a parent, teach him, don't always interject, give us a little face as parents, otherwise how can the child be obedient in the future."

Moreover, tell the old man that when his temper comes up and he beats and scolds the child, they can pull the child away, but don't intervene to expose the shortcomings, otherwise the previous efforts will be wasted after a lesson. This kind of communication, as long as it is not old and stubborn, the old people can understand it.

In a ridiculous tone, he appeared as a negative teaching material.

If early communication is ineffective, parents may wish to deal with it head-on when the embarrassment has already occurred. For example, first admit that you have indeed done the absurd things that the old man said, and then use a ridiculous tone to show up and say the truth, and use it as a negative teaching material for the child. Tell him how to correct the consequences of what he did wrong.

This kind of positive response can be more educational than being hesitant, blushing and embarrassed, and being impatient in front of the child.

For example, when I once reprimanded my son for eating spicy noodles at my mother's house, my mother said mercilessly: "What about him, when you were a child, you ate spicy noodles and ate them so hotly that your mouth was rotten, just ......like the clown on TV."After saying that, the grandparents and grandchildren laughed. After listening to it, I originally wanted to refute it, but then I thought that the ugliness was already out, so it was better to take the opportunity to teach my stinky son a lesson.

So, I said that it was because I ate too many spicy strips when I was a child that I grew so short and had pimples on my face. When the son who loves stinky beauty heard this, he immediately threw away the spicy strips.

overpowering the old man in arrogance and turning embarrassment into accusation.

Teaching children, the elderly interject to protect the short, this phenomenon is very common. When encountering an old man who likes to expose his parents' shortcomings and give his children arrogance, parents should be anti-customer-oriented, overpower the old man in arrogance, and turn embarrassment into accusations. For example:

It was you who didn't care about me in the first place, so I ......I can't educate my children to be ......like meSuch a "dumping" accusation not only pointed out that the old man had not been educated well before, but now he is sorry for himself, so he blocked the old man from having nothing to say. And the child can't take advantage of the old man's protection and disobedience. In this way, the parents' embarrassment is gone, the slap in the face is gone, and they are completely victorious!

The elderly should be enlightened, and let the elderly feel the shortcomings of short-term care, only in this way can children be better educated.

In the face of this situation, it is necessary to communicate with the elderly in a timely manner, and then also let the elderly not interfere in their own education process, and at the same time, when educating children, you can avoid the elderly.

The elderly take care of the short, and at this time they must stop teaching. Let the child's heart have something to rely on, so as not to cause a psychological shadow to the child.

Communicate well with the elderly. Agree with the elderly on the principle of education, when the parents are speaking, the elderly should not come to participate, if they are not used to it, they can go downstairs.

Jiale's mother cried for a while, because she had a fierce quarrel with her mother-in-law over the issue of educating her 5-year-old son. Faced with her son's stubborn and unmistakable attitude, Jiale's mother almost dropped the broom on her son's body. Seeing this, the mother-in-law quit, and immediately pulled the child to her room and blamed the daughter-in-law

The child is not sensible, what are you doing so seriously? ”

Jiale's mother said that every time she formally educates her children, her mother-in-law always protects her, and this time she wanted to stick to her attitude and wanted to use this to give her son some color. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law put down her cruel words: "Don't beat my grandson, otherwise I will fight with you!"

Seeing her mother-in-law Wang Haishou doting on her son so much, she was so angry that she gritted her teeth.

How to break the old man interfering with parents in educating their children?

1. Communicate more with the elderlyPick up what's at stake

Young parents should communicate more with the old and poor people in the family, learn from each other, learn from each other's strengths, resolve the differences and contradictions between the two generations in parenting, and make some compromises and concessions to each other. Although the baby is still young, it is an important period for the formation of habits and character. Young parents should let the elderly distinguish the difference between love and doting, and should not be too indulgent and pampered.

You must know that blindly favoritism will only make children become more and more unruly, and at the same time, it will also make the proper discipline of parents lose their majesty, and ultimately delay the healthy growth of children. If the mother's communication is ineffective, in order to avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is time to give full play to the role of the husband.