Why can t you make good friends if you get along with people carefully?

Maybe it's because you're too cautious to make good friends.

You are careful to get along with others, your friends can feel it, if you are cautious, others will think that you are insincere, the first thing you want to be a good friend is sincerity, you are not comfortable in your careful state, and others will also be uncomfortable. Since you're uncomfortable, why should I be friends with you?

In fact, friends are also a natural, comfortable, harmonious, no need to deliberately show anything, no need to deliberately please anything, as long as you feel that your personality is compatible, you have similar interests, when you play together, both parties can feel relaxed, that's fine.

Deliberately pandering, deliberately treating, not only will make others uncomfortable, but also make yourself very tired, if you need to be careful to get along with everyone, then you come into contact with so many people every day, how tired do you have to be?

Therefore, when getting along with people, be your true self, no need to disguise, no need to be cautious, believe in yourself, there will definitely be people who appreciate you and make good friends with you.

In life, such a person has a lot to do with the character, the original family, and the education of the parents, under normal circumstances, the parents are relatively strong, no matter what will be the decision for you, so they have no more ideas, I feel that what others say is right, if it is good at home, then in the future study and work will always be like this, it will be a loss, and it will be easy to make yourself feel bad, because you pay a lot and can not get anyone's response.

As for being careful to get along with others, you can't sleep with good friends, in fact, this also has shortcomings, because you are always careful to make people feel that there will be some hypocrisy, people who don't know you, will feel that you are not easy to get along with, because some things are always careful will feel particularly embarrassing, if people feel that you are not sincere, then after a long time, he will not be friends with you What must be said generously, say your thoughts Don't always be timid, You should be confident that the Film Association will exercise more, read some books that can strengthen your heart, such as some psychological knowledge, and you will find that you speak generously and do things frankly after a long time, and you will be able to make the friends you want.

If you are cautious, others will not be so comfortable with you, friends should be like-minded with each other, and it is more comfortable to get along with each other with talk and laughter.

It is very happy to have friends from afar, and everyone wants to be accompanied by friends, but some people are more withdrawn and like to be alone, and there are fewer friends. Some people are because they like a person, because they are used to being alone, chic and comfortable, and some people, they want to be accompanied, but they don't know how to get along with others, they don't know how to make friends, and they are usually stuck in groups of people in groups of three or five, and they are also very envious in their hearts. But it can't be helped, it seems that they are born without this ability, some people don't have to work hard, and naturally have some friends, but some people can't make good friends even if they are careful.

I feel that making friends is a natural process, not deliberate, the more deliberate, the more uncomfortable it will be, like a real good friend, they talk more casually between them, and they will not get angry with each other, ridicule each other, quite interesting, and more general friends will speak more decently, for fear of saying the wrong thing and upsetting others, this can't be helped, probably because your caution is too deliberate, so that others are not adaptable.

Making friends is not by being careful, but to have similar interests, and to pay sincerity in order to make real good friends, take sincerity for sincerity, you are good to others others will be good to you, this is mutual, try to be sincere rather than cautious, or communicate with other people, ask them about your guest law, if you have problems to correct in time, be cheerful and generous, don't worry too much about some small things, do yourself will always meet a good mentor and helpful friend. This kind of thing can't be forced, and the twisted melon is not sweet, it's true.

Being cautious about getting along with friends is called being overly friendly. Friendship between friends to talk about:1. Some people are full of anger and malice because they have never been treated gently.

2. No matter how big the world is, there is only one you after all, no matter how big the wind and rain are, as long as you accompany me.

3. Friendship is a kind of harmonious equality.

4. Whether it is friendship or love, it is the best state to endure nausea.

5. A friend is not the person who came first or the person who has known him for the longest time, but the person who has never left after coming.

6. Everyone else asks me if I fly high, only you ask me if I am tired of flying.

7. I may just be a passerby in your life, but you will never meet a second me.

8. I hope she is getting better and better, because she deserves a life full of sunshine.

9. Some things are reluctant to throw away even if they are spoiled.

10. Those who dare to quarrel are good friends, and those who can't quarrel are true friends.

11. Keeping friends in mind is a kind of cherishing of fate; Missing is a fragrant memory hidden in the heart; Friendship exists in the heart is a cheerful melody; Blessings flying out of the bottom of my heart are a warm sweetness.

Too much to worry about, fear of losing.

But the more cautious you are, the more your friends may have ideas, can't let go, and are not sincere.

So make friends, as long as they are sincere, then they must be free and easy. Those who can't accept it can only mean that they are not suitable.

There is a kind of low self-esteem called excessive friendliness. There are people in life who value face, are responsive, are afraid of disappointing people, and try to please everyone with their friendliness.

In their hearts, they are afraid of rejection, and they believe that rejecting others is a particularly face-saving thing. I think that this will win the respect of others, but this is just from inner cowardice, a kind of inferiority.

It shows that he respects and loves these friends, so he holds them in his arms like glass and is afraid of breaking.

You just don't know how good you are, look up, you're no worse than them at all, who isn't a delicate pig girl anymore!

Adjust your psychology, build your confidence, change your opinion, don't restrain yourself too much, and follow your own heart.

Don't deny yourself, don't feel bad, believe in yourself more, believe that you are the best, believe that you also have shortcomings, and then get along with friends to be very confident, communicate and communicate with others more, and participate in more social interactions.

I think you can exercise your courage, don't always think cranky, learn to express your own ideas, have your own principles and bottom line.

At this time we must learn to get along with others, but you have to believe that you are equal. Your friendship is bought with sincerity.

Don't be so cautious about your friends, the more careful you are, the more others will think that you are not sincere to him. Therefore, he will never treat you as a friend, perhaps, a passer-by in someone else's life. You don't even qualify to be his friend, and you always have a lower status than others in this friendship.

Such inequality will surely not find good friends.

First, you need to build self-confidence. Only when you are confident in yourself will you not be careful about every friendship. At the same time, you need to find a friend who is like-minded with you.

There are people you look like they get along with, but they don't go with you. Even if you treat others as friends and family, others don't have you in their hearts. So you don't have to put this kind of person in your heart, and there is no need to force it if he belongs to your friends.

You will always find a friend who suits you at the ends of the earth, and you will always make yourself very unhappy if you are so cautious, so why not give up this friendship? Do you really think that this kind of person is sincere to you? Will he take you as his friend?

Ask yourself well, and don't force it if you're not a friend. We need to go with the flow of everything, maybe the friendship you are forcing is not good for you and it is not good for him, it is better to give up this friendship early and find the next friendship that belongs to you. A friend who is in line with your heart and who is equal to you will make you feel happy during this period.

If you are unhappy, give up early, even if you see that she gets along very well with others, but he doesn't get along well with you, what's the use of your envy. It's better to be on your own and not have to worry about anything.