What does it feel like to have someone who can feel your subtle mood changes?

This is a sign of empathy.

You don't need empathy, it's enough that you have your own emotions. In fact, strictly speaking, there is no such thing as empathy, even if you can understand the other person's emotions, know the other person's experience, and experience yourself in it, but use your senses and thinking to experience, after all, what you get is your own feelings, not the other party's. Because there are differences in your sensory abilities and thinking, even if you experience exactly the same thing, it is impossible to have the same feelings, there are still great differences, and even complete opposites are possible.

If you feel that you don't have enough empathy, one of the possible reasons is that empathy consumes too much of your energy, and your energy is not enough to take care of other people's emotions, and the subconscious mind saves this energy for you to focus on yourself. Another possible reason is that from empathy for others, you don't feel the joy or meaning of doing it, and it becomes an ability to benefit others and not yourself, and subconsciously thinks it's okay not to. So even though you've tried to learn to empathize, that feeling hasn't been in place.

When we are susceptible to the sound of external environmental evaluation, we will chooseSelf-alienationto help us maintain a certain psychological distance from our emotions, so that we will not be controlled by emotions and avoid falling into the whirlpool of emotions.

However, no one way of coping is suitable for all situations, and not all situations require us to take actions to protect ourselves, because some relationships are actually safe and warm enough, and when we turn a blind eye to them, using self-alienation alone will inevitably cause us to miss out on many relationships worth cherishing.

You need to put more effort into loving yourself. And don't get obsessed with whether you're "good enough" in the eyes of others. Someone else's love is just an extra reward for you, and it can't be used to justify "you're good or bad."

If you want to empathize with others, start by empathizing with yourself and learn to be aware of your own feelings and needs.

If you can perceive other people's emotional changes, but it is difficult to name and describe them, then you can learn some vocabulary for emotional expression. Don't ask yourself to be naturally empathetic, what many people call empathy is actually itGuessAs long as you can think, you can guess what the other person's possible emotions are, and then ask the other person to give you feedback to verify whether your guess is correct, and in the long run, you will also gain the ability of "empathy".

Empathy is not easy to do, and it needs to be practiced. Those who seem to have a strong ability to empathize, maybe some of them have learned to observe words and colors and be cautious after experiencing cold eyes and even parasitic fences since childhood, that is also honed, and the beautiful characters you see about others may not be all of their lives.

I feel very happy, I live in a happy atmosphere every day, I feel that the world is beautiful, and I can experience the feeling of being valued and taken care of.

You will feel very happy, happy, feel that someone understands, feel secure, and will be very satisfied.

I find it very uncomfortable because this person is always on your mind and can't concentrate on doing your own thing.