Kindness should be a little sharp, how to be a good person with thorns?

In fact, there was a problem with our general concept of education in the past, and the so-called good people did not mean people with good hearts, but rotten good people who did not fight for anything and only understood that suffering losses was blessings. Is this kind of person really a good person, in fact, he is a person who has no opinions. This kind of person encounters a wall everywhere in society, and he does not know how to fight back when he is wronged, and he has no substantive countermeasures except for feeling aggrieved in his heart.

If you want to be a good person with thorns, I think the key is to learn two things: know how to say no, and don't be a bad person.

1. Know how to refuse other people's unreasonable requirements.

Some people are the kind of people who have to take inches, and if you take a little step back, then they will press a step forward. If you don't refuse his unreasonable demands from the start, then you will find that he will become your nightmare and will constantly challenge your bottom line. If you don't have a bottom line, then you've been going backwards.

If you have a bottom line, and he touches your bottom line and you get angry, then instead of reflecting on your mistakes, he will think you are stingy. Therefore, if you feel that this person's request is a bit excessive and hurts your interests, then firmly reject him from the beginning and do not give him any illusion of hope.

2. Don't do everything to keep others from being wronged and be wronged yourself.

Relatives and friends are the most difficult existence for us to refuse, because they usually have a relationship with each other, so some people who don't know how to balance will rely on their identity to make some unacceptable requests. At this time, many people felt that they had finally opened their mouths, and even if they were embarrassed, they could not refute their face, so they had to wronged themselves and their families to help them. In fact, there is no benefit in doing this, knowing that you are embarrassed and asking for you is not considered for you at all, why should you be embarrassed to cater to others.

The so-called good people, in fact, are honest people, this is the characteristic of people is cowardly, do not know how to refuse others, this kind of people should not be called good people, should be called bad good people.

To be a good person with thorns is to have your own principles, to help others, to give kindness needs to have your own bottom line, not to be a good gentleman, no matter what others need, to meet, if you abuse your own kindness, it will only make others take their kindness as a habit, be taken for granted, and finally become "Mr. Dongguo".

Therefore, one's kindness needs to be measured and principled, and those evil deeds and villains should be rejected, and more precautions should be taken, and only the right benevolence can protect oneself and others.

Kindness should be a little sharp, and to be a good person with thorns, you should do the following.

1.Kindness should have good principles and bottom lines. Kindness doesn't mean we're going to be rotten good people.

We should have our own helping hand for those who are really in need, and we should have compassion for those who are vulnerable. And for those who pretend to need help, we resolutely do not mince words.

2.Be good at refusing unreasonable demands from others. For example, at work, we can help our colleagues do what we can.

It's about friendship and helping each other. But when our colleagues use our kindness to point fingers at us and force us to do something we don't want to do ourselves. We should categorically refuse.

Because it's not our business. It is others who take advantage of our kindness.

3.Kindness should only have a tolerant and generous heart, but we should not let all ugly phenomena go unchecked, which is not only not a kind of kindness, but a kind of connivance.

You must have your own rules and guidelines in life, and don't change yourself because of other people's opinions, so that you can be a good person with thorns.

I think kindness is a good thing, but you can't be kind on any issue, so it becomes cowardice. When facing the infringement of one's legitimate rights and interests, you should still stand up in time.

That is, don't let yourself be a good bully, sometimes although we have to be kind, we must also be kind to those who deserve it, and don't be kind to those who hurt us.

Kindness must have a sharp edge in order to be good for a long time, specifically the following 4 points:

01, being kind to others is a kind of kindness.

To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself. How many people can you meet and know in your life? Being able to treat people who meet and know each other in life sincerely and sincerely is not only a life cultivation, but also a state of life.

I have heard such a saying: Be kind, don't do things that harm others and benefit yourself, because if you come out to mix, sooner or later you will have to pay back. Being kind is fundamental, and you can't lose your kindness, otherwise you won't be able to live when you go to **.

02, there are three points left in the edge, and there is still a little way out.

People must learn to hide clumsy, but in fact, they must also learn to hide the edge. If the edge is exposed,. If there is no edge, it is all good to others, and it must be weak.

Therefore, deal with people, know how to hide the edge, and leave room for others. In fact, you may have encountered many such people and things in your life, saying ten things, but only doing one thing. If you are sharp, many times you will only trap yourself in it, and the people around you will gradually move away from you.

Pay attention to proportion, and stop in moderation.

03, kindness with a little edge is the best attitude to life.

It is necessary to be kind to others, but also to be kind and have a bit of edge, which is the attitude and pattern of dealing with people. You must not only have the cultivation of treating people kindly, but also have the aura of hiding the edge. Treating others with kindness is not blindly tolerating, nor is it bridging others at the cost of wronging oneself.

04, kindness is the cultivation of the stinging shack, which will make your road wider and wider.

In life, you don't have to put yourself very low, what belongs to you is to actively strive for it and dare to show your edge; If it doesn't belong to you, give up decisively, don't go toe-to-toe with others, and force yourself to fight for it.

Kindness is cultivation, hidden edge is the pattern, is protection. Kindness will make your path wider and wider, and will make your life realm continue to improve. With a little edge, you can better protect yourself, and it can also make your life circle of higher quality.

Have you ever had such an experience, if you reject others kindly, you will feel that you have done something wrong, and some people you treat it well, it will only feel that it is deserved. For example, take borrowing a car as an example, most people are reluctant to borrow a car, especially after they have a car, and they are not willing to drive someone else's car, but some people borrow a car to drive, don't give it, there is no suitable reason, give it or don't worry. Hit the accelerator, drag racing, come back and show off to you next to the scum Yao said, your car is not easy to drive, your car is too fuel-intensive, you are refueling, driving a car for 6 years, never turned on the battery out of power, good guy, a trip back to the fire is not on fire, the battery is dry and out of power, I didn't mean to.

At work, I always consider everyone's feelings, for fear of treating them slowly, but what is the result? Offended everyone.

Xiao Wang is the director of the company, responsible for the sales business, after the company assigns tasks, he is very active to help and cooperate with the employees, because the energy is focused on everyone, resulting in their own performance is not ideal. Once at the door of the bathroom, I heard the employee he seriously helped say: These customers are all talked about by myself, the performance is my own, and the leader has no performance and still cares about me.

As everyone knows, these businesses were negotiated to him by Xiao Wang one by one. It's taken for granted, and it's really uncomfortable.

really responded to that sentence: good people have good rewards, but good people don't. Therefore, put away your kindness, it must be quiet, and it must also be sharp.

To live, we must be a kind person with a sharp edge, strong when strong, weak when weak, good when good, and evil when evil. Turn your face when it's time to turn your face, so that people can see your bottom line. —Kazuo Inamori.

We have to be a kind person, but we have to be selective about our kindness, some people are careful that we must be kind, and some people are not worthy of our kindness. There is a good saying that kindness to one's enemies is cruelty to oneself. We shouldn't let our goodness die well.

Filial piety has foolishness, goodness also has foolishness, and the goodness that promotes unhealthy tendencies is inappropriate, and the so-called goodness loses its meaning. Our kindness should have a sharp edge, it can be gentle, it can also be sharp, treat some people, never be too kind, because it will take your kindness as a good bully, blaspheme this innocent love.

People should have a good temper and let some people know that you have your bottom line and principles, and you are inviolable.

If you want people to be kind to you, you have to make people feel worthwhile. Be a kind person with a sharp edge and give kindness to those who deserve it.

<>Hello, I think kindness should have a bit of edge, and kindness should have its own edge, because our kindness has a bottom line.

We can be kind, but our kindness must have a bottom line, if we blindly choose kindness without a bottom line, it will make others gain an inch, we will indulge others, and finally turn good intentions into bad things.

I believe that human nature is inherently good, but I also firmly believe that kindness should be measured and sharp, we can be kind, but our kindness has a premise, not everyone needs our kindness, we all need to show our kindness.

Our kindness is only given to kind people, only to those who do not break our bottom line, and those who try to break our bottom line with kindness, let us violate our own principles, and blindly choose kindness, we should choose to refuse.

Because our kindness has a scale, a bottom line, and its own edge, our kindness is selective, and we don't distribute our kindness to everyone, only to those we think are right.

So I think kindness should be a little sharp, we should have our own position, have our own judgment, our kindness should be out of ourselves, not what others ask, our kindness should be out of what we want us to choose, not what others tell us to do.

We can choose to be kind, but our kindness has a scale, a edge, and a boundary, and we choose to be a kind person because we are kind in our original intention, because we have a scale, a bottom line, and a principle.

When someone breaks our blind bottom line and principles, we should be brave enough to say no to those who ask us to be kind, and our kindness should be a little sharp.

I think people's kindness should be a little sharp, don't be submissive in everything, so it is easy for others to misunderstand and bully, so you can be kind, but you have to let others know, you will also fight back, and you will also give appropriate responses to those who do not respect you.

People's kindness must have a ruler, and people's tolerance must be measured.

It is good to be kind to others, to be humble and courteous. But without the softness of the boundary, it will only allow the claimant to gain an inch; Unprincipled concessions will only allow the bully to do whatever he wants.

Your kindness must be a little sharp. If you are accustomed to silence, accustomed to wronging yourself, and accustomed to rejecting everyone, you will forget that you can have an attitude, a bottom line, and a life that is not disturbed.

The poorer a person is, the more he has inexplicable courage and an inexplicable sense of pride. Because, the poorer the knowledge, the more absolute the belief belief, and it is difficult to absorb and accommodate the views that are opposed to oneself.

The significance of our encouragement to "read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles" is precisely to enrich our understanding of others and the world, to see more "differences", to understand the "complex diversity" behind the superficial surface, and not to make partial generalizations because of narrow-mindedness.

Always remember that I am still young and inexperienced, and I am cautious in my words and deeds because of the teachings of life: nothing is as simple as imagining Sun Stupid.

Accepting regret does not mean that we are not doing well enough, but it is a manifestation of intellectual maturity, that is, realizing that regret is also a part of life, it makes our growth more complete, it makes motivation lurk in our hearts at all times, and helps us recognize reality, regroup, and complete better in the "next time".