What should children do if they don t know what to do with their parents who care about them?

Children grow up from small things, and small things are very important and should not be too accustomed. He still has to scold if he doesn't scold, let him establish correct values. You usually have to let him have more contact and more hands.

For example, helping to sweep the floor or something, rewarding him with what he likes when he does a good job, giving him a reward. Let him understand what hard work is, and he will understand the hard work of adults.

A child who is only 6 years old, and his psychological self is not yet mature, how can he be demanding of his superego's behavior? A few years older, he will slowly understand.

I think parents focus on learning, do not care about the education of their children's thoughts, will only blindly spoil, do not know how to restrict, let the child feel that his parents are good to him, accommodating him is what he should be, he has been used to this way of getting along, so he does not know the hard work that his parents have paid for him, and he does not know the sense of defeat.

1.Parents only care about their children's grades, not what their children are thinking.

Mothers often only care about their children's food and clothing, and only care about their children's grades, but forget to teach their children to be grateful.

I don't know how grateful a child is, no matter how much his parents pay for him, it is the norm in his eyes. If when David was a child, Grandma Ding could have a little more education in addition to caring about his grades, and taught him to learn to be grateful, grateful to his parents, and grateful to the society when he grew up, then decades later, will the top student who lives by "gnawing the old" all day be a different situation?

2.Dote on parents of their children.

Some people say that the easiest way to ruin a child is to be obedient to him. Parents' excessive spoiling is like a set of shackles placed on children, preventing children's growth.

It is the nature of parents to love their children, but if you love your children too much and fall into doting, you will harm your children.

Parents and elders over-dote on their children, making children become "little emperors" and "little princesses", and this kind of doting has nothing to do with age, and then once parents refuse to "gnaw the old", it is easy to cause the behavior of children next to them to be extreme.

3.Parents who are selfish and do not understand filial piety.

It is difficult for parents who are selfish and do not know filial piety to raise children who know how to be grateful. The reason is simple: how we treat our parents determines how our children treat us.

The reason why we attach so much importance to family affection is because even if it is a bond, it is also the warmest warmth in the world, if we are selfish and only regard the love of our parents as a bond, then the future children will not give back our warmth.

If you want your child to know how to be grateful, you must first be a good parent who knows how to be filial.

1. Parents think it's a trivial matter, so they still don't talk about it.

When a child feels bullied, no matter how small the physical damage is, the psychological damage is real. At this time, if the child says: Mom, I was bullied by other children......

If the mother's attitude is: bumps and bumps between children, what's the big deal? Dealing with your child with the phrase "he's playing with you" will make the child disappointed in his parents.

Just like rice grains, it is difficult to ask parents for help when they encounter difficulties, because children will feel that it is useless.

Therefore, when children encounter difficulties and are bullied, parents should listen carefully to their children's inner feelings, and give corresponding comfort, care and psychological guidance.

2. Parents are too busy and don't want to trouble them.

Some parents are so busy that they often ignore their children's feelings, and they are also in a hurry and perfunctory about their children's clothing, food, housing, and transportation.

I don't know what kind of family will raise such sensible children. But this kind of sensibility, in the eyes of other parents, carries a deep sense of despair.

I hope that such parents can slow down their pace, stop to look at their children's smiling faces, and listen to their children's voices. Such a child doesn't ask for much envy, and a hug makes him feel very warm.

3. My parents don't love me, they love my grades.

Many parents will never be "merciful" when it comes to learning, and when their children's grades are not good, they will educate their children fiercely, and sometimes even do it; And when the child's grades are good, he will speak softly and reward him with food, which will give the child an illusion that the meaning of his existence is because of his grades.

Of course, almost all parents love their children, so they will discipline them strictly in their studies. But when this happens, it shows that the parents are putting the cart before the horse.

Parents should make their children understand that in the family, love is the foundation and the source of all things.

4. After being injured, I am afraid that my parents will not understand.

It is often said that there will be a generation gap if there is a difference of 3 years, and there is a generation difference between parents and children, and this ** is even greater.

When children are confused, most parents use "morality" to force their children to accept their own opinions, rather than reasoning to make their children understand their own ideas. On the contrary, let the child experience the "secondary injury".

Like in "Juvenile Talk", the child is telling his pain, and the parents don't understand, but blame it sharply.

In this way, the child will feel that it is okay not to talk to the parents.

In this case, parents should try to look at the problem from the child's point of view, and also guide the child to look at the problem from their own point of view, so as to alleviate the conflict between parents and children. Although parents and children cannot agree on their views, they must at least understand each other.

01 Reflect on yourself.

In fact, there are no parents in the world who don't care about their children, when parents suddenly don't care about us, you might as well think about whether you have done something wrong to make them unhappy, and you have to reflect on yourself first. If you make a mistake, you must admit it in time and correct it, so that your parents will think that you are a good child.

02 Communicate with your parents.

Nowadays, there are many left-behind children, even brought up by grandparents or grandparents from childhood to adulthood, and their parents are naturally not so familiar, there is no such sense of closeness, and relatives also need emotional exchanges, if parents do not care about you, you may as well try to communicate with them more.

03 Help with household chores.

When our parents are at home, we can do what we can do by ourselves, and we should help our parents do more housework to reduce their burden, so that they feel that we are grown up and sensible, and they will naturally care more about us and like us more.

04 Don't complain.

If our parents don't care about us, we complain to others, which not only does not solve the problem, but will lead you to the path of hating your parents, and then make your parents more and more distant from us. When encountering such a situation, you should be calm and think about a solution.

05 Still grateful.

We can't hate our parents because they don't care about us, we should be grateful and think about whether they have been under too much pressure recently.

06 Do what you like.

As children, if we want our parents to care more about us, we must also care more about them and learn to do what they like, such as sending flowers to our mothers, so that parents feel that we are treating them with care, and they will also treat you with care.

07 Study hard.

Parents usually like children who study hard, if parents don't care about you, then let yourself work harder and try to get into a better university, so that their faces will shine, they will be happy, and they will naturally be better for you.