Living together before marriage, does the woman really suffer?

Premarital cohabitation refers to the special relationship in which a man and a woman live together in the name of husband and wife before marriage, similar to the "trial marriage" in modern population. Most men and women who choose to live together before marriage aim to get married, but who suffers?

01 At the moral level, the woman suffers.

In our usual impression, many people believe that a large part of premarital cohabitation is the man who uses the banner of marriage and uses the woman as a tool to vent his desires, unless the woman proposes to break up, he will never break up with the woman, and continue to live with the woman, regardless of whether the man is married or not.

Maslow's needs theory believes that this is the most basic requirement for human beings to maintain their own survival, and physiological needs are the most powerful driving force for people's actions.

This is also a major factor driving premarital cohabitation between men and women.

From a moral point of view, cohabitation before marriage is a loss for the woman, both physically and materially, and if the man and woman are not married in the end, the woman may be morally condemned.

Taking a step back, when a man and a woman live together, they see what each other's lives look like, and they still enter into marriage. At this time, both parents, especially the man's parents, may be difficult or prejudiced against the woman because of the woman's premarital cohabitation.

There are many examples in society where when a man and a woman talk about the bride price, the man's family uses the woman's premarital cohabitation to pressure the bride price, or directly says that the girl is indecent. The woman is indeed at a disadvantage at this time.

02 The essence of cohabitation, each takes what he needs.

Xiaoli, she took the initiative to ask to live with her boyfriend.

She said that she lived alone, and she was always suspicious at night.

Living with a boyfriend, the situation is much better.

However, after living together for a while, the problem came, the man was always snoring, and often did not return home at night, and when asked him, he said that he was out with the guests, or at the brother's house, etc.

She also became short-tempered because of this, and they always quarreled ......

In their premarital cohabitation, Xiaoli gets a need for security and a need for affection.

The man, on the other hand, gets both physical and emotional needs.

From this point of view, premarital cohabitation is really about taking what you want.

Living together before marriage, who suffers in the end, these three women said what was in their hearts.

Not necessarily. If the man treats the girl sincerely, then he will not let the girl suffer, he will definitely not mess around, if the boy is unreliable, he can also see him clearly before marriage.

From an emotional point of view: women often have the deepest affection, so women suffer the most. From the perspective of fertility, the cohabitation of men and women is, of course, the woman's loss, and from the perspective of disease, the woman suffers the most.

Living together before marriage, the woman really suffered. Because cohabitation before marriage is very likely that the woman will suffer some physical injuries, which cannot be compensated with money.

The woman really suffers, because if you live together before marriage, it will cause psychological and physical harm to the woman, and it will affect the reputation.

It is not very disadvantaged, because the premarital cohabitation must be because the relationship between the two of you has developed to the point of talking about marriage, and premarital cohabitation can specifically understand whether the living habits of the two are the same, and if there is a big problem, you can also stop the loss in time.

You can't live together, because there is a risk, and there will be accidents if you love each other very much, let alone if you don't love each other, let alone people with ulterior motives to harm you.

No, because if it doesn't fit, you can avoid regrets later.

Premarital cohabitation, as the name suggests, is a sexual relationship in which a man and a woman live together openly or secretly in the name of husband and wife before marriage. The goal of the two parties is to get married, so it means "trial marriage".

Premarital cohabitation is a relatively new model of marriage that gives couples the opportunity to get to know each other better before they get married, and thus better determine whether they are suitable for marriage. It can also give couples the opportunity to resolve some family issues before they get married, thus reducing the problems that may arise after marriage.

However, before deciding to live together before marriage, there are two things that must be taken seriously:

First, this kind of relationship is not protected by law in our country, and the current law does not interfere with the cohabitation of both parties without a spouse, and the cohabitation of one or both spouses is an illegal act, and if the circumstances are serious, it will constitute the crime of bigamy and be punished by law.

The second is trial marriage, can marriage really be tested? The fact is that cohabitation and marriage are two completely different psychological states, and marriage cannot be tried. Either get married logically, or break up miserably. The latter is not unlikely.

So, strictly speaking, there is no need to live together before marriage.

Considering that it is the characteristics of women who are most hurt by the tragic breakup after premarital cohabitation, it is recommended that women should focus on figuring out five questions before premarital cohabitation

Clause. 1. Whether the boyfriend is reliable in conduct. Those who are unreliable or suspicious cannot live together before marriage;

Clause. 2. Is the love cycle with your boyfriend long enough, if it has not reached at least one spring, summer, autumn and winter, it means that you don't know each other carefully enough, and you can't or need to postpone premarital cohabitation;

Clause. 3. At least one of the two people with the boyfriend has the financial strength to maintain the living expenses of cohabitation before marriage, and those who do not have sufficient financial strength cannot live together before marriage;

Clause. Fourth, it is not appropriate for two people to live together before marriage if their "three views" are inconsistent;

Clause. 5. It is not appropriate for both men and women to live together before marriage if they are patient with their respective shortcomings and are not tolerant.

Nowadays, premarital cohabitation is very common and normal, just like college students fall in love, not falling in love is equivalent to not going to college. And now not living together before marriage is the same as not getting married. The times are advancing, and the concept is changing. Now there is only the word marriage, and there is no talk of marriage.

A girl living together before marriage can get everything she wants, and she has to pay a little bit for it. Living together before marriage can quickly get to know each other well, run in the three views, and lay a solid foundation for long-term life. On the downside, it may speed up the relationship to end early.

There is definitely something to be desired. Need is good, there should be no harm. If there are disadvantages, they will not live together.

If it is the woman, it is even worse, the emotional matter is really difficult to estimate, and once the breakup is broken, the physical and mental damage is full of regret.

Nowadays, everything is about experience, and if there is no experience of feeling, then after really having it, it is easy to abandon and give up, and the same is true for the relationship between men and women. Therefore, among many young men and women with avant-garde ideas, a trend called "premarital cohabitation" has been set off. However, is it really good to live together before marriage?

What are the pros and cons of living together before marriage? Let's take a look!

After living together, the two can see each other every day, eat together, take care of the love nest together, and strive for the ideal of life together, and the relationship will become stronger and stronger. In addition, living together every day, the most powerful actors will also leak out. Therefore, through living together before marriage, you can better understand the personality characteristics, behavior, and living habits of the other party, so as to provide a basis for judging whether they are compatible in the future.

At the same time, premarital cohabitation is considered a pre-marital internship stage. At this stage, you will experience the difference between love and marriage. Love is fine as long as there is love, and marriage means trivial things in life, and it means firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.

If both parties can deal with these issues during the period of cohabitation, then it will also lay a solid foundation for future marriages.

However, the act of cohabitation before marriage is at odds with traditional beliefs and has always been despised by mainstream views. In addition, premarital cohabitation is not protected by law, and the risk of pregnancy is high. In case of pregnancy, cohabitation falls apart again, then the whole person is not good.

So, everyone in front of the screen, think clearly about living together before remarriage.

Theoretically necessary!

It's hard to get to know a person in depth without a few months of living together.

If you don't find a deep-seated problem before marriage, but leave it to solve it after marriage, the result may be divorce.

Judging from the concept of "the lesser of the two powers, and the heavier of the two interests", the harm of a breakup is much lighter than that of divorce. Because the harm of the latter is the experience of both families and the legal process.