Why sometimes people who are closer feel particularly strange

Because there is no fear. I think that people close to me will be infinitely tolerant, and when they are happy, they will say a few good words, and if they are unhappy because of reasons that have nothing to do with you, they will be cold to you and even lose their temper with you. Others are not obligated to bear your bad mood, and the cost of tantrums is too high.

The people close to you are different, because they love you, they are willing to tolerate, and every time they hear those sad words, they swallow themselves. But that's wrong. Treat your parents, friends and lovers with more patience and care than with other people, they are truly good to you without care.

There is a limit to everything. Learn to keep the best of yourself to those closest to you, don't live in the eyes of others, slander again and again will only make the people who love you sad, no matter who you are, in fact, you are not obliged to bear your own emotions. Those who love you are sad and disappointed, and it is the most irreparable.

Because of love, it will be presumptuous. Maybe you are a character who is prone to tantrums, but in front of people you don't know well, you will unconsciously put on this or that disguise. Your subconscious tells you to fit in or you will be isolated.

You're a person at heart who is afraid of loneliness, and most of us certainly do, and historically, living in groups gives you a better chance of survival. Pull it away, and then pull it back. In front of people you know well, you will unconsciously take off your disguise and show your humanity and your negative energy.

You will lose your temper over a little unsatisfactory little thing, and your subconscious will tell you that it's okay to get angry, and you are so close. Maybe this is the self-protection mechanism that we unconsciously learned in the process of growing up.

A person's expectations of strangers are very different from those of relatives, even if you are completely reasonable, the stranger in the world who is willing to uphold justice may not be willing to stand up for you, and it is completely reasonable to have no such obligation, let alone those who do not know the truth and love to coax. However, if even the relatives who should be strong backing in theory not only do not support it, but also hold the victim guilt theory of "why did he target you and not me", shout and wrong, scold and deduct hats, imagine the troublesome problem very simply, and then blame you for "such a simple thing", why don't you do it, "ignore this stubble, you can't live", it is really too much of a test of psychological endurance. Saying that it is good for you, but what you do is to send God to the injured person, the shouting of relatives is more unbearable than the greetings of strangers, the ancestors of the eighteenth generation can not bear, once the relatives are arrogant and domineering, strangers are far beyond the reach of strangers, and the most arrogant strangers have no operation authority to shout loudly at other people's family affairs.

I don't think it's the people closest to me who are hurting themselves. It's that we have higher requirements for the people around us or those closest to us. Ask for more.

The requirements for strangers or people you don't know are relatively low, the tolerance is relatively large, and the demand is relatively small. So even if our loved ones are doing exactly the same thing as strangers, we still feel that our own loved ones are not doing what they want, or not to the extent they want to. The reason for this depends on our own mental position.

A loved one is someone who is loved one, someone who never thinks about but can never forget. People who only know how to give without asking for anything in return, people who will never leave when they are hurt, people who never give up in the wind and rain, and people who can sacrifice themselves to achieve each other. That is, parents, siblings, and children, who are related by blood.

The closest person is, of course, the best person among these relatives to you. But man is a strange higher animal, and his good temper is often reserved for irrelevant people, and the worst temper is given to his own relatives, especially the closest relatives. This may be what you are saying that the closer the person is, the more it will hurt.

Personally, I believe that things gather like people and divide people into groups, the most important thing is the qualitative change of the heart, and in different environments, he changes the most for people with ill intentions. This is the demon in the heart, the person who hits the south wall and doesn't know how to turn back, like this person he never reflects on his own mistakes, a person who doesn't want to talk nonsense outside, let alone waste his own time, he has to think about trying his best to harm others, like this kind of person is depraved and greedy.

As a simple example, if you send a message to someone, if you don't reply to your message as well, the unfamiliar person will definitely bring you a change in mood as the person you think is closest to you. In the same way, many things that we don't take for granted, if done by the closest people, can also bring about emotional changes. This is why it is often only the people we care about who can hurt us.

Others hurt is bad luck and can bear it. Loved ones are hurt, it really shouldn't be, it's unacceptable. Others hurt, take things for things.

Loved ones hurt, sad and sad. When others hurt, they only hurt their faces. Loved ones hurt and hit the sore spot.

Others hurt, things change. Loved ones are hurt and unforgettable. It's only because family affection is hard to break, I know too well, I have high expectations, and I feel that the gap between hurt and family affection is greater, so I feel this way.

This is a normal phenomenon of life, because brain cells have the function of autonomously processing information, and even have the function of reprocessing, for example, one by one in daily life, we will have a sudden realization of something else.

In the process of growing up in life, there is a kind of loneliness in the long river of years called no one understands you, the most lonely feeling is that there are people around you but live like a person to live, maybe this is the farthest distance in the world. I think the meaning of love should be that two people who love each other can warm each other and become each other's light in the dark days.

But in real life, some people can't be warm, and they get along with each other as the most familiar strangers, and they have nothing to say. It's tiring to get along with someone who doesn't understand you, who can't understand what you're saying and can't understand what you're doing. In order to maintain a good relationship with each other, they endured grievances.

Sometimes how much I long for someone to not only look at your surface, but also read your heart, know your stubbornness, and feel sorry for your grievances. When you are helpless, you can always be by your side with warmth, and you don't have to explain, the other party understands. In the world of feelings, people who understand you can understand each other with a look, you don't need to explain too much, people who don't understand you, even if you say more, they will be indifferent.

For the rest of your life, please don't be wronged and choose the person who understands you.

I asked the people around me who didn't feel this way, and I came to Zhihu to try my luck to find the answer, but I didn't expect people who really had similar experiences. I don't agree with the selfish one at all, the strangeness here is just a feeling, it is a momentary without any cause, the main manifestation is nausea, the head is very empty, subconsciously I know that this is wrong but there is no way to control it, I can only wait for it to dissipate by itself. The first time I had this feeling was around the second grade of elementary school.,It was a reaction to my parents.,At the time, I thought it was a hint from God (implying that I wasn't biological.,It's stupid.。。

But then looking at the looks, it was completely negative! Since then, there have been about one or two inexplicable strangeness every year, and they have always felt this way for people who know each other very well.

The solution to the cause has not yet been discovered.

Summary. Because this person is like someone you like, or close to! I also have a strong sense of closeness to a stranger because someone is like my relatives or friends, but not to say that they look alike but that they have a similar temperament and feel very similar!

What is the reason why you feel very kind and kind when you see a stranger?

Because this person is like someone you like, or close to! I also have a strong sense of closeness to a stranger because someone is like my relatives or friends, but it's not that it looks like a clan, but the temperament feels like it!

This should be fate, as if you were a very good friend or an elder who was very good to you in your last life.

There are two outcomes: one is that you have seen the same figure or scene in a certain place or dream, and when you see it in reality one day, you will feel very familiar; One is psychological, that is, emotional, after breaking up with your former lover or lover for a few years, when you see each other's nuclear tape measure again, you will have a feeling that is both strange and very cordial.

In fact, in our daily life, there is a lot of love from strangers in the interaction between people, which makes us feel warm. You don't need much of a thing, even if it's a look or a movement, you can feel the love and encouragement given to you by the other party.

First of all, smiling is the most beautiful human language. I read an article about a man who would give a smile to any stranger he met every day. People did not understand his behavior and asked him why he did it?

He said that if you smile at a stranger, the stranger will be very happy, because this is a kind smile, it will bring the other person a good feeling, and the other party will return you with a smile, and you will feel special relief. Smile is the most beautiful language of mankind.

Secondly, a small gesture can make the other party feel a kind of warmth. I know this very well. In the last few days, I have not been in good health and I am in the hospital for infusions.

I have to go to the toilet on the way, because the hook of the toilet is very low, so every time I go to the toilet, there will be a phenomenon of blood return. Once, a big sister saw that my hand was bleeding back, and took the initiative to hold the infusion bag for me, although it was only a minute or two, but it was enough to move me very much, and I really felt a warm current rippling in my heart.

Third, a warm greeting makes people feel warm. Sometimes, because of some things in work and life, it often makes people feel very depressed and unhappy, and he needs to find a venting point to express the depression in his heart. At this time, you might as well be a listener and let the other person confide, and then you give the other person some warm words, caring eyes, or even a gentle hug, which will relieve the other person's troubled mind.

In short, in our world, we need more love and understanding, this is a world of love, just as a song goes, as long as everyone gives a little love, our world will become a better world.

1.Once I was on the bus, a stranger offered to let me sit next to him because he saw me holding a lot of things in my hands, and he said he didn't mind standing. It makes me feel warm and grateful.

2.I once got lost on the street and a stranger asked me if I needed help, and he told me the right direction and took me to my destination. I was touched by his kindness.

3.Once I was queuing at the supermarket to check out, I had a lot of things on hand, but I didn't bring enough money. A stranger offered to help me pay the rest of the money and he said he didn't mind. I was so grateful and pleasantly surprised.

The kindness of these strangers makes me feel warm and grateful, and it also makes me believe that there are many good people in the world.

Summary. In addition, it could also be that you have misaligned expectations of this person and yourself, or that there was a problem with the way you had a previous relationship, causing your interactions to become stiff or unpleasant, thus making you feel like a stranger. To solve this problem, try to change the way you interact with each other, try new activities or topics, and re-establish the freshness.

Can you tell me a little bit about when you started feeling this way?

I am also very professional in this knowledge.

Can you talk to me about it?

Two weeks ago. Hello dear, is this friend male or female, or is it true for all familiar friends?

Familiar friends.

Hello pro This is because your familiarity with this person has reached a plateau.

So what to do?

Hello dear, can you talk to me about your heart's thoughts on how to treat friends.

I think I've always been sincere with others, but I'm not sure if he treats me as a good friend. But I was afraid of losing this friend.

Hello dear, are you a boy or a girl?

How old are you?

Age 19 girls.

Hello dear This potato change is because you have reached a point where the familiarity between you and this person has reached a bottleneck, and both parties are no longer fresh to each other, or your relationship has changed, which can cause your feelings about this person to change.

What to do. This needs to be analyzed and guided in detail, whether you have time or not, and it is difficult to finish in a few simple sentences.

In addition, it could also be that you have misaligned expectations of this person and yourself, or that there is a problem with your previous disruptive interactions, causing your interactions to become stiff or unpleasant, making you feel like you are being a stranger. To solve this problem, try to change the way you interact with each other, try new activities or topics, and re-establish the freshness. At the same time, you should also pay attention to your own expectations and attitudes, and give the other party more understanding and support.

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