Why do parents want me to be obedient and honest, but I like smart children?

1.To be obedient and sensible means to be unconditionally obedient and to deny one's own subjectivity.

In the Chinese cultural environment, most Chinese pay attention to face and human feelings, no matter when and where, as long as there are Chinese in the place, then it will definitely exude a strong "human touch".

The Chinese-style family under the face culture is also full of endless comparisons, comparisons between children and children, and comparisons between parents and other neighbors, so at this time, children have become their bargaining chips.

Your child is really sensible and obedient, unlike my family, who only knows that it is nonsense, and his grades are poor", so the sensible and obedient in his mouth strengthened the vanity of his parents, and after returning to the family, parents also began to use various ways to cultivate a sensible and obedient child.

Most children who grow up in this parenting style will show their love for their parents with their own understanding and obedience for their parents to love themselves more and care more about themselves, and at the same time, they will also be accompanied by unconditional obedience to their parents' requirements.

Parents cultivate a sensible and obedient child, which is naturally worry-free and effort-saving, not only to be envied by others, but also to reduce their own investment and dedication to their children's education.

Hello, because obedient and honest can make parents worry about preventing going out to cause trouble and harm themselves, smart children are liked, smart children can solve problems strongly, so parents want you to be obedient, honest and smart children.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world!

"Obedient and honest" and "smart and clever" are the biggest "extravagant expectations" of parents for their children!

You can have both, and there's no conflict!

Many famous scientists have both the above advantages

For example, Yuan Lao, the famous "father of hybrid rice" in China, is one of the representatives!

There is nothing wrong with the parents' requirements, being obedient and honest does not mean that they are not smart, and smart children can do it.

Whose parents want their future to be promising, work well and earn money, naughty children are difficult to control and are more likely to go the wrong way and do bad things, so they all hope that their children will be obedient, honest and smart.

There is no contradiction between the two, and there are many children who are both honest and obedient and smart. There is nothing wrong with parents having this idea. As for whether the child can do it, whether it can meet the standard is another matter.

In fact, almost everyone likes smart kids.

With a glance, your child knows what to do.

It's not just adults who like it.

My peers love it too.

Obedientness, honesty and intelligence are not conflicting, they can be had together.

Here, I hope you can figure out that honesty and obedience are not in conflict with being smart, but the concepts are different. Does it seem that the kind of intelligence you understand to be the kind of slick and weird type? As a parent, we all want our children to be healthy and safe to live and study, so your parents want you to understand their feelings and expectations.

Why parents? Ask me to be obedient. Teacher. Honest. But I like smart kids again. The parents' request is correct. To listen. Parents' words. Listen to your parents. Also. Clever boy.

Parents should like obedient and honest children, so they can worry about it and not buy her trouble. But I like smart and flexible children, this is a selfish and can't educate parents, thinking more about themselves.

Nowadays, many parents prefer obedient and sensible children, and they also want their children to have very good grades, so we must pay attention to related issues at this time. Parents want their children to be good, because parents also want their children to excel, but we can't hold our children to a single standard.

We all want our children to be very obedient, but we need to pay attention to a lot of problems, and parents must learn to guide their children at this time, if your child is very sensible, or the child's grades are very good, then parents may become very happy, because parents will also feel that such children will definitely be special in the future. And everyone will also like such children, because we all think that such children are very obedient, and such children should be particularly good in the future.

We all like such children, but we need to pay attention to a lot of problems, if you really want your children to become good, then we must pay attention to the relevant problems at this time, and usually in life, we should also pay attention to these problems. We must learn to guide our children, and we must choose the appropriate education method according to the child's situation, and we should not force our children to learn in our daily life. We must guide our children, and we must let our children form good habits.

Everyone wants their children to have good grades, and they also want their children to be very sensible, so parents should educate their children correctly at this time. We should not always force our children, and parents should not always be too demanding of their children at this time, children are also prone to many problems.

Because there are many parents who feel that such children are very filial, and there are also many parents who feel that such children are very promising, and there are also many parents who feel that such children are very sensible, so there will be this situation.

Because these children are very smart, very sensible and obedient, their academic performance is also very good, they will not cause trouble to their parents, and they are more worry-free when educating their children.

Because such a child will make parents worry and let parents not worry, such children will only swallow themselves when they are wronged.

1. Most of the obedient children of Chinese parents lie in the cultural genes inherited under the rule of feudal ideology, so they clearly divide the hierarchy of parents and children, and emphasize absolute obedience from the bottom up.

2. Culture and inheritors are the products of culture, and the reason why we become who we are now is that our language, behavior, thoughts, and preferences have been profoundly influenced by the cultural background. The typical characteristics of Chinese parents are because of the inheritance and inheritance of traditional Chinese culture.

3. The Chinese have a very strong family concept, which is probably because of the "sequelae" of Confucianism that the feudal rulers have been hiding in Confucianism for thousands of years for the sake of consolidating the imperial power. In the ancient Confucian system, the ruler was also called the monarch father, and the state was a big family, and the monarch father was the head of the family.

4. Family style and morality, feudal society usually takes a strong man as the head of the family, and this man can dominate everything inside and outside a family. In order to ensure the harmony of the family, the feudal rulers must ensure the authority of the head of the family over the management of the family. So there is a family style and morality.

In short: the father is the son, and the three are from the four German wheels.

Because in this way, parents are more worry-free and have no trouble, but if the child is too well-behaved and has no ideas of his own, it is not a good thing to listen to his parents.

Because I think obedience is more important, but sometimes there will be drawbacks, so that children have a feeling of cowardice, or to guide them well.

Children are often praised for being well-behaved and sensible, and are also liked by their families, teachers, and friends. In fact, well-behaved children listen to their parents, and do not let their parents worry too much, afraid that their parents will work for them, so they deliberately suppress an emotion in their hearts.

Children who are too well-behaved and sensible may not all be good, they dare not do what they want to do, they are worried about this and that, and they are always afraid that their parents will talk about them. Therefore, it hinders the development of their imagination and creativity, and they dare not try to do anything, so they have no adventurous spirit.

Because adults want children to be well-behaved and require children to be obedient, some children feel the demands of adults, and at the same time, because they are afraid that they will be punished by adults if they are not well-behaved and disobedient, so children will choose to behave very well-behaved, but such children are likely to be very well-behaved one day, when he thinks he can compete with adults, he will no longer pretend to be a good child, which is why many children will be very rebellious when they reach puberty.

Such children are generally cautious, afraid of making mistakes, and do not have the courage to move forward boldly, which has a great impact on their later life and career. Therefore, parents should not push their children too hard, and well-behaved children should encourage them to innovate more and try more boldly, which will be more conducive to their children's future discoveries.

In the process of children's growth, it is the first important and the earliest to develop oneself and develop and improve a complete and independent self. If a child is too well-behaved and obedient, it does not mean that the child has a good personality and strong communication skills. Rather, it means that children have limited self-development, cannot express themselves well, and will choose to conform to others and ignore themselves when their own needs conflict with the needs of others.

Children who are too "obedient" are mostly children with emotional problems, because it is against the nature of young children to be too well-behaved and obedient. Children who are well-behaved and obedient from an early age are usually either poor in independence, or timid and lack social skills. Children who are overly obedient do not have their own opinions, their brains are dull, their self-confidence is weak, and they are overwhelmed once they leave the instructions of adults, and it is difficult to adapt to changes in the environment.

Or some children learn to restrain and suppress too early, obviously want to cry, want to make trouble, but because parents educate them to do this, they are not good children, so they don't cry or make trouble. It is a depressive process, and the child learns it too early, which is not good for the development of emotions.

Not good. In my way of educating my child, there is no obedience as a yardstick, I don't need him to be a robot, I want him to be independent, have his own way of thinking, and have his own ideas and practices. He is also often encouraged to have the courage to be himself and not follow the crowd.

It's not good. Some parents complain that their children are very obedient and sensible when they are young, and they are very worry-free, but when they grow up, the problem comes. Children seem to be very dependent on their parents, unable to make decisions on their own, and some children spend a lot of time and energy to adapt to making decisions on their own; There are also children who will remain dependent on their parents until they are no longer able to rely on.

Children who are too well-behaved seem to be a puppet in the hands of their parents, their appearance is shaped by their parents, the line in the hands of their parents mentions**, the hands of the puppets are placed on **, and their faces are also facing **, and they have no thoughts of their own at all.

It is probably the wish of every parent that the child is well-behaved and obedient, otherwise how can you always hear adults say to the child on the road: you have to be well-behaved, you have to be obedient. But adults never thought that children who are too well-behaved and obedient may have problems.

Well-behaved and obedient children are the students that most teachers like, and they are also the basic requirements of some parents for their children, however, I don't like children who are submissive and behave perfectly anytime and anywhere. There are no perfect people and things in this world, so why suppress children's nature so much?

Preamble: When many parents educate their children, they want their children to be obedient because their parents are very busy with their work and they do not have time to deal with their children's education. If the child is obedient, parents will have more time to focus on work.

But when we educate our children, we should not blindly ask them to be obedient, which is suppressing the child's nature.

If it is some children whose family conditions are not very good, then parents want to devote all their time to work. Moreover, parents work very long hours, and when they come back from work at night, they can only rest, and they have no time to deal with their children's education. When children make mistakes, parents may use simple and crude methods, such education methods are very fast, but it is easy to let the relationship between children and parents become more and more distant.

Because the family conditions are not very good, parents want their children to be obedient, so that parents can also focus their time on work.

Some parents don't know how to educate their children, because they are restricted by their own academic qualifications and knowledge, and when educating their children, they want their children to be sensible and obedient. If the child is obedient, then the parents will feel that their education is very successful. However, it is recommended that parents must correct it in time, because for children, if parents ask their children to be obedient excessively, it will be a harm to their children.

Children also have their own ideas, and if parents force their children to retract such thoughts, children will become more and more inferior.

When educating children, we should not force children to be obedient. Children have their own ideas, parents must let their children express this kind of thoughts, we want to let children grow up healthy and free, and give children a good family atmosphere. Although we are very busy at work, we still have time to educate our children, and if we don't, then our children may go down the wrong path.

Because most parents don't understand the true meaning of education. I always feel that children are obedient and sensible, they will put a lot less effort into it, and they always think that they can educate their children well easily. Ten years of trees and a hundred years of people, we must not only teach, but also cultivate.

It is necessary to grasp the laws of children's growth in order to educate obedient and sensible children.