What was it like to be with a mentally ill mother?

She is stubborn and has a hard time listening to any opinions. She has a good face and will not admit any mistakes. She loves to be cranky, and she will doubt anyone and everything.

She has unique habits that will affect your life. She will lose her temper over trivial matters, and if you contradict her, she will pester you until you give in. She will have a strong desire to control you, and if you try to break free of it, you will become his enemy.

It's not okay to be soft, she wants to make trouble until she is exhausted, hysterical, hands-on, yelling, swearing.

The mother is kind and honest by nature, and her appearance is mediocre. May be sensitive and introverted. She has seven brothers and sisters, and after she married her father, her grandparents treated her badly, her aunt was a strong and domineering person, and her mother was even more bullied.

The specific illness was when the younger brother was confined. At that time, the mother was young, and the initiation of the illness was very serious. My father began a long and painful life of working as a family farmer.

My younger brother, who was less than a month old, was six years old, and I was a heavy burden, and I was young at that time, and I didn't know shame, comparison, and so on. After my mother's illness, although the family was always unpeaceful and the poor family was always in disarray, she was positive in her heart. I remember that when I was six years old, I was led by my grandmother to help take care of my younger brother.

I also started to learn laundry and cooking. My mother was more lenient, sometimes she was reasonable, and scolded me, and sometimes she was just nonsensical, beating and scolding. It's always going to be sudden.

I still remember washing the rag and drying it on a bamboo pole that year. My mother and aunt sat in the middle of the room and forgot what they were doing, and then suddenly they came over and took a wet rag and pumped my head, and finally my aunt pulled me to protect me. My father had to support the family, and he went out to work during the day, and sometimes when he came home from work, his mother would come up and tear up and curse his father hysterically.

When she scolds in a hurry, she will start to pull her father's hair, hit her father with her fists, and when her father stops her, she will use her nails and teeth to resist. Every time my father came home after a hard day, there was no food and tea waiting for him, but an unreasonable fight. Then, my father and grandfather had to catch my mother and feed her sleeping pills before they stopped.

Furniture in the home. Not to mention neatness, nothing is complete, missing corners. Short.

They are all masterpieces of my mother's illness.

The mother fell ill. I am full of anger towards her, and I have hated her for more than ten years. But when she didn't get sick, I was full of guilt and heartache.

Two extreme ambivalences. From time to time, there is a deep regret and love for my father. Over the years.

My mother was hospitalized and looked for earthwork for treatment, my younger brother and I lived and studied, my grandfather supported the elderly, and the burden of the family was all borne by my father. The taciturn father never spoke to anyone about any difficulties and suffering. I carried it all by myself.

Neuropathy is sometimes I can't stand her, but I have to endure her, I now feel that my endurance is getting better and better, after all, it is my own mother, and I should be filial to her.

Romain Rolland said: There is only one true heroism in the world, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, you still love it. Children from mentally ill families may have experienced too many hardships and unbearable, they may have a strong sense of disparity, anger and helplessness, and they may not be able to choose their origins, but at least they can choose what kind of mentality to face them.

Hello, you are asking this question a little strangely, why is it difficult to find a mentally ill mother, is it difficult to find a partner, is it that the standard for you to find a partner is mental illness, if you think so, it is not easy to find, you are asking this question a little strangely, I don't know what it means, do you want to ask your mother whether she is mentally ill, or your mother's disease is hereditary, if your mother's disease is hereditary, then you are not easy to find, if it is acquired, then there is no question, I wish you happiness!

If there are such relatives in the family, we must learn to respect and understand.

We can try to communicate with them more and understand them from their point of view, so that they can also learn to respect and understand us, so that they can really get along with each other.

1.Keep your profile down when communicating.

I'm right", this attitude will only lead to the deterioration of the communication relationship and make it impossible for communication to continue. When communicating, it is best to lower your posture as much as possible, that is, while fully respecting the other party's opinions on the world, it is best to appropriately eliminate and not overly express your own opinions and opinions.

Even if you think that your statement is not wrong or there is a problem with the other party's opinion, you should first listen to the other party's words, different people have different ideas, the ability to express and understand is also different, there may be the other party's expression mistakes or their own understanding is biased, you should lower your posture and listen patiently.

2. Communicate attitude and respect each other.

The attitude when communicating is also very important, you should communicate modestly and friendly with each other, and respect each other when talking, keep leaning forward during the conversation, not leaning back, and not leaning back on the chair, so that the whole person will look lazy.

3. Know how to listen when talking.

Listening is also a point to pay attention to in communication, when talking to others, we should take into account the feelings of others, but also listen to what the other party expresses, so that we can better communicate in language, otherwise it is like playing the piano to the cow, so that the communication will not achieve the effect at all, and it is easy to misunderstand.

4. Don't always be self-centered.

When talking, we should also pay attention to an important point, don't always think that what you say and do is very important, always take yourself as the center, and other people's is not important, this situation is to be eliminated, which can easily cause others to be disgusted, and will also leave a bad impression on others.

Psychoanalysis: Hello, subject!

From your description, you feel the helplessness in your heart, and at the same time, you have a good sense of it, check this uncomfortable emotion, face it bravely, and actively look for a solution to the problem, which is great.

You described that you have been in contact with your mentally abnormal mother for three years, which has caused you a lot of mental internal friction, the language of the neighbors, and the state that reminds you of the grandparents who treated you all the time when you were a child, and the fact that your mother would make trouble every night, making you very powerless and helpless, right?

Seeing your description, give you a warm hug, I want to change to another person, and it may not be better than you, you have done well enough to change Lu Zheng, and at the same time, I can also feel the helplessness in your heart, I also read your comments with them, that is, my mother is now only you and her sister, and I can only rely on you to take care of her, is that so?

What about your situation? My personal thoughts are.

First of all, can you send someone like your mother to a psychiatric hospital? **With professional staff to take care of you, your mother can be well taken care of, and you can relax and do what you want to do.

Secondly, if I really can't separate now, I hope that you can take care of yourself and adjust your mentality while taking care of your mother, and you can also seek the help of professional counselors, because they give us strength and support through their techniques to get us out of this uncomfortable feeling.

Then, learn to relax your emotions, I know you are very tired, it is not easy, and your heart is also very conflicted, very aggrieved, at this time, I would like to ask you to release this emotion in time, you can use exercise, you can also chat or shout through the mobile phone to vent this emotion, and after the emotion is vented, we may slowly recover a little strength in our hearts.

Finally, I want to tell you that you have done a good job, if you are tired, let yourself stop, I will find some professional personnel to help you and help your mother, so that it can also make you much easier.