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No, in the process of getting along, children will feel more pressure, and they will also have some guilt in their hearts, and in the end, they will blame their parents.

I think of course they will be grateful, but only if the child is sensible, otherwise not only will they not be grateful, but they will also get bored.

I think of course not, because the child will be tired of this deformed family when he is sensible, how can he be grateful?

Parents do this, in order to prevent divorce for their children, which is superficially protective for their children, but in fact it is even more harmful

I think it's a kind of protection for the child. Because the breakdown of feelings and families is the greatest harm to children.

Let's first sort out the problem, whether parents will protect or harm their children more if they do not divorce for their children.

The relationship between husband and wife has reached the step of divorce, indicating that the relationship between two people has reached the stage of rupture and irreparability, and children are one of the few bonds in all this.

But my personal opinion is that not divorcing for the sake of the children is to a large extent more harmful to the children, rather than protection? Why? Today, I will explain this issue in detail with my experience and case studies in emotional and psychological counseling.

1.The tense family atmosphere is not conducive to the growth of children.

If the husband and wife often quarrel or have a cold war, it will definitely affect the child, and most of the unhappy children of this kind of original family will have no sense of security, gain and loss, and even very inferiority. More serious cases can affect his interpersonal relationships, intimacy, and even subsequent marriages. Because they have the most contact with their parents in the process of growing up, and their parents' emotions will have a great impact on his growth, and he will also learn how his parents treat intimate relationships and how to deal with these daily trivial matters to a certain extent.

It can be said that parents play the role of a role model, and if there is an example that is not done well, the child will also learn crookedly?

2.The imminent marriage of parents will put great pressure on children.

The common saying is that so-and-so's mother said, I just don't divorce your father for you, this kind of words will make the child have a huge sense of guilt, and feel that the parents' marriage is mainly because of him, so there is huge pressure in the process of growing up. What's more, they will feel that they are a burden, which is the fuse in the marriage of their parents. And the growing child is originally alone, without much outside help, and he himself does not know what he wants, this long-term loneliness and helplessness will make him look for possible support.

This is why so many children are addicted to the Internet or online dating, or some subculture, or some more rugged romantic relationships, etc.

And once they find out that their children are in a similar situation, parents may pay more attention, either by over-controlling or over-plattering, which will not be acceptable to the child, and may even be counterproductive.

So in the face of this situation, my suggestion is to communicate with the child, if there is a certain sense of self, he also understands many things, it is better to spread out and talk to him, talk to him. For example, Mom and Dad may not be together after due to problems in getting along and communication, but we still love you. Be as sincere and honest as possible, don't lie to your child, and your child is not stupid.

In this way, he will gradually accept these things as well.

Many parents want to divorce, but they are enduring it because of their children, and they don't know how to explain to their children that their parents want to divorce. And there are many people who give up their lives and don't divorce for the sake of their children, but it is more terrible for children to grow up in such a family environment, because parents often quarrel in front of their children.

Example: My mother often says that I don't divorce because of you, which hurts the child a lot.

It is said that an unhappy life needs a childhood, but some people do not have a happy childhood, so what should they do to be unhappy in the future? How to see if a person has a happy childhood, in fact, after a few interactions with this person, I gradually understand. Let's say, for example, my colleague Jiang Cheng.

Jiang Cheng seems to be a gentle and kind girl on the surface, but after getting along with her a few times, I realized that Jiang Cheng is very tangled in doing things, timid and afraid of things, and does not like to talk.

After getting acquainted with Jiang Cheng, I learned that Jiang Cheng's family problems. Sure enough, as I guessed, Jiang Cheng's original family brought very serious harm to Jiang Cheng. Jiang Cheng said that although she is not a single-parent family, she lives in dire straits, she doesn't want to go home at all, and her parents quarrel every time she comes home.

And the one thing he hates to hear the most is that his mother often says to her, I don't divorce for you. Jiang Cheng wanted to shout to his mother countless times in his heart, I really want you to divorce. Jiang Cheng's mother's approach seems to be for the good of her children, but this practice is not only irresponsible for her own marriage, but also hurts two other people, one is her husband and the other is his daughter.

Especially often telling my daughter that not divorcing is for her daughter, this sentence will bring a lot of harm to her heart. And it will also make her daughter feel that her family is unhappy and her parents quarrel because of her own reasons. No wonder Jiang Cheng grew up to be a timid and fearful person with no self-confidence, because Jiang Cheng did not grow up in a caring environment.

Parents who want to divorce should think more about their children, who are not yet minors, either without a father or without a mother. Whether it is without father's love or mother's love, a child's life and growth is incomplete. Since we bring our children into this world, we must be as responsible as possible for our children's future and children's lives.

As long as you love your children enough, and both husband and wife are adults, what else can't you think about? Can't you make concessions to each other, tolerate, and make psychological adjustments to each other, give your children a complete family, and let your children grow up in happiness? As a parent, how many things could be more important than the happiness of a child's life?

People are perfect without a stove, and if they divorce or remarry, they may not be happy.

Fighting, noisy, and noisy marriages should be divorced! Some marriages are breathless, life is better than death! Some couples face domestic violence and quarrel twice for three days!

If you can't protect yourself like this, you can't care about your children! Maybe if you are divorced, you still have a way to live, and you still have the spirit to take care of your children! Parents are already parents, their minds are no longer naïve, and they believe that divorce is a last resort after a dying struggle!

A dull and boring marriage can not be separated! The parents have been together for a long time, and there are many hidden things that bump into each other, and the relationship is dull and boring. It is completely possible to search and merge the contradictions caused by this situation and make a divorce.

No one has made a mistake of principle! Life disputes are inevitable! Think more about your children, and happiness will come to your home!

In addition to each other, the rest of the people and things cause conflicts and divorce marriages, if they can not leave, they will not leave! Some couples divorce because of conflicts between their in-laws or their mothers' families, and they are unhappy with each other! The rest of the personnel is not a matter, and the husband and wife come up with ideas to solve it together! This marriage can be completely inseparable!

It is the children who are hurt the most by divorce. Couples who turn against each other will divorce if they should divorce this kind of marriage, and they will protect themselves if they leave! to take care of the children!

That kind of noisy marriage, it is better to part, so that it is not only for yourself, but also for the sake of your children! Am I satisfied? Thanks for your attention!

It shows that at least one of your parents is pursuing love and happiness in their lives, but this is fine, after they divorce, they each have a family or a rough family, and there are four people to take care of you.

If parents would rather sacrifice their children than sacrifice themselves to insist on divorce, it means that he has no disappointment in marriage, he has saved enough despair, and if he does not leave now, even if it is for the sake of the children, he can tolerate it, once a person divides the other party's bottom and late thread, no matter what it is, he will not endure it anymore.

The reason is that there are also a lot of questions and jokes in this marriage, if you persist, it will bring more harm to the children, and I also feel that I have no way to stay with each other anymore, and I am not willing to wronged Shenghui at all, so I will insist on divorce.

The divorce of the parents was caused by the breakdown of the lead relationship, and in such a loveless family regret court, if I don't divorce, the biggest harm to the child is to make him unconfident in his marriage after the talks, and make him feel that some people are really unreliable.

If parents would rather sacrifice their children's happiness than insist on divorce by sacrificing their own lives, it means that they have reached a very desperate point for marriage, and there is no room for turning back, so they will choose to divorce and delay marriage

Parents would rather sacrifice their children than sacrifice themselves to break themselves, and they will divorce early, I think this parent is very responsible, after all, it must be the child who is most hurt when they get married.

There is no intention for such a marriage to continue, and it is not a good result for the children, many parents have had enough of each other, and there is no way to continue to endure it, and the marriage has completely broken down.

In a marriage, parents give too much for their children, and if they don't take care of their children, it may reach the point of unforgivability.

Divorce is not radical must be the sacrifice of children, many times if the parents often quarrel, often appear some discordant things, for the children, but a kind of harm, you don't think that divorce is the sacrifice of children, this is not right, many times, for the good of the children, but will choose to divorce, because quarreling in front of the child will bring him hidden young heart to bring the harm of the parents.

I think this mentality and concept are relatively backward. Times are changing, there are many people who are unhappy in marriage, and they can't take their whole lives for an unhappy marriage, and the harm to women is huge. It can be devastating, so to speak.

In the concept of the older generation, they all think that marriage can be unhappy, but they must let their children live in the illusion of happiness, and they think that as long as they do not divorce, they are still a complete family, but in fact, in a marriage that exists in name only, quarrels, violence, indifference, and complaints are more harmful to children.

The saying that you have to die in your in-law's house is just an irresponsible approach to your own life. Because they didn't analyze the problem properly and find a solution. In the end, he was so moved that he made a lot of sacrifices for his children.

Falling deeper and deeper, some people are struggling desperately, some people are really sinking by themselves, everyone has different ideas, so you can't help but think carefully about how you can do it, of course, if you really can't do it, you will eventually face divorce.

She's going to entangle your dad to death for the rest of her life......Here are a few reasons I can come up with. Although I endured everything for my daughter at that time, I would never say the phrase "I'd rather die in my mother-in-law's house than get divorced", because I knew that divorce was better than death. As long as two people still care about each other and want to keep this marriage, then don't divorce easily, you can travel together to find the feeling of love.

You can also find an emotional counselor to help you, there are many emotional counselors who can help with marital problems.

Don't let yourself live only for your children, and don't be self-righteous that a complete family can give your children happiness. The healthy growth of a child is not necessarily based on a complete family, but it must be related to the parents' own personality and their attitude towards life. In fact, it is also very depressing, if you can find your own happiness and get the tolerance, understanding, and support of the next partner, you can even love your child together and try to give him a better material life and a more cheerful family.

There's really nothing wrong with that.

Of course, because of selfishness, they have become enemies of each other, and they can't continue to live together.

Actually, I think feelings are a matter of two people. The reason why this couple was able to make such a decision is because they know that they have inevitable problems when they run in, but there is a high probability that they will not be able to solve the problem, and they may have thought about it for a long time before bringing it up. Even if you have children, you feel the same way.

Maybe the child can't be saved.

Because feelings can not be forced, in a family without love, children will not get a good education, parents between the feelings of the child can be felt, rather than this is better to separate more conducive to the growth of children.

Because children are not the bond that sustains marriage, children should be a product of marriage. If it reaches the point where divorce is indispensable, it means that it really can't go on. Continuing to maintain an unhappy marriage is also a disservice to the children.

It's good that such people are more self-conscious and don't put the whole focus of their lives on their children.

This situation occurs because the relationship between the parents has reached an inseparable position, and if the two live together, it will have a bad impact on the child.