What are the examples of civilized etiquette in ancient times

Kong Rong let the pear. Kong Rong was smart and studious when he was a child, with quick thinking and clever answers, and everyone praised him as a strange child. By the age of 4, he was able to recite many poems and knew etiquette, and his parents loved him very much.

One day, my father bought some pears and specially picked the largest pear for Kong Rong, Kong Rong shook his head, but picked the smallest pear and said, "I am the youngest, I should eat the small pear, and you will give the pear to my brother." My father was pleasantly surprised and asked

That brother is younger than you, isn't he? "Kong Rong said"My brother is younger than me, and I should give it to him. ''The story of Kong Rong rang pear soon spread throughout Qufu and has been passed down as a good example for many parents to educate their children.

When Kong Rong was a child, he was not only diligent in his studies, but also good at thinking. His father always took him with him when he went out to visit guests. When he was 10 years old, he came to Luoyang with his father.

It happened that Luoyang was too guarding Li Ying's mansion to go. At this time, the gatekeeper hurriedly pulled and asked, "Which child are you, go to the side and play!"

Kong Rong said solemnly: "Please go in and report that Shandong Kong Rong is visiting." "When the gatekeeper saw that he was serious, he didn't know what the reason was?

smiled and asked, "Little boy, do you have a red sticker?" Kong Rong said

My family and your master have been friends for generations, and there is a friendship between teachers and students, so there is no need for red stickers, just report it. "The gatekeeper was afraid to treat the guests slowly, so he had to go in and report it. At this time, Li Ying was talking with many literati and scholars, and after listening to the report, he couldn't remember for a while what the relationship between this Kong Rong and his family was, so he had to haha:

Come in! Xiao Kong Rong rushed into the hall, greeting the host and greeting the guests, with an attitude that was neither arrogant nor humble. Li Ying gave up his seat and looked at this talented young man, feeling strange in his heart

This kid had never met before, so why did he call himself a Tongjia? So, Li Ying asked: "Little boy, you said that our two families have been friends for generations, why can't I think of it!"

Kong Rong smiled and said: "500 years ago, Confucius once greeted Lao Tzu, Confucius's surname is Kong, and Lao Tzu's surname is Li, which shows that the Confucius and Li families have had a teacher-student friendship for 500 years. Today, you are Li, my surname is Kong, and it is also a teacher-student relationship, aren't our two families a family for generations!

Kong Rong's words were amazing, and all the guests present were secretly surprised. Taishou Li Ying couldn't help laughing: "The little boy is a real prodigy."

Only Taizhong doctor Chen Wei disagreed, and said coldly: "A smart person when he was a child may not be able to do anything when he grows up. Faced with the challenge, Kong Rong said with a smile

In this way, the gentleman must have been very smart when he was a child. This ingenious answer made Chen Wei speechless and sat aside secretly angry. Kong Rong did not squint, pretending to be an adult, and drank tea seriously, causing everyone to laugh.

The allusion of Chengmen Lixue.

Cheng Men Lixue" is a story about the Song Dynasty scholars Yang Shi and You Xing who sought advice from Cheng Hao and Cheng Yi.

Ercheng is a native of Yichuan in Luoyang, and he is also a famous Confucian scholar in the Song Dynasty. The second Cheng doctrine was later inherited and developed by Zhu Xi, and was known as the "Cheng Zhu School". Yang Shi and You Xing, seeking to learn from Ercheng, are very respectful.

Yang You and the others, originally took Cheng Hao as their teacher, after Cheng Hao's death, they were both forty years old, and they had been admitted to the Jinshi, but they still had to go to Cheng Yi to continue their studies. The story happened on the day they first came to Songyang Academy and came to meet Cheng Yi.

According to legend, one day Yang Shi and You Xing came to Songyang Academy to meet Cheng Yi, and met this old gentleman who closed his eyes and recuperated and sat and pretended to sleep. Cheng Yi knew that two guests were coming, but he wanted to say nothing and ignored them. Yang and You were afraid of disturbing Mr. Rest, so they had to stand respectfully and solemnly, waiting for him to open his eyes without saying a word.

After waiting like this for a long time, Cheng Yi woke up like Luo, saw Yang and You, pretended to be surprised, and said, "Ah! Yes!

The sages have been calling here for a long time! "That means you two are still here. It was a very cold day in winter, and at some point, it started to snow.

There was snow outside the door, more than a foot deep.

This story is called "Chengmen Lixue". It was widely circulated among scholars in the Song Dynasty, and later described respecting teachers and sincerely asking for advice, people often quoted this allusion and this idiom.

The iron pestle is sharpened into a needle: Li Bai, a famous poet of the Tang Dynasty, did not like to study when he was a child, and often skipped school and wandered the streets.

One day, Li Bai didn't go to school again, he walked around the street and looked west, and unconsciously arrived outside the city. The warm sunshine, cheerful birds, and flowers and plants swaying in the wind made Li Bai sigh, "With such a good weather, how boring is it to read in the house all day?" ”

Walking and walking, at the door of a broken thatched hut, sat an old woman with white hair, sharpening an iron pestle as thick as a stick. Li Bai walked over, "Old woman, what are you doing?" ”

I'm going to grind this iron pestle into an embroidery needle. The old woman raised her head, smiled at Li Bai, and then lowered her head and continued to grind.

Embroidery needles? Li Bai asked again: "Is it an embroidery needle for sewing clothes?" ”

Of course! "But when will the iron pestle be sharpened into a fine embroidery needle? ”

The old woman asked Li Bai rhetorically: "A drop of water can pierce a stone, a fool can move a mountain, why can't an iron pestle be sharpened into an embroidery needle?" ”

But how old are you? ”

As long as I work harder than others, there is nothing I can't do. ”

The old woman's words made Li Bai very ashamed, so after going back, he never skipped school. I also studied hard every day, and finally became a famous poet immortal.

Kong Rong let the pear.

Kong Rong (153-208), a native of Lu (now Qufu, Shandong), was a famous literary scholar in the late Eastern Han Dynasty and one of the seven sons of Jian'an. According to historical records, Kong Rong was not only very smart when he was young, but also a typical example of attaching importance to brotherly gifts and mutual assistance and friendship.

When Kong Rong was four years old, he often ate pears with his brother. Each time, Kong Rong always takes the smallest pear. Once, Dad saw it and asked:

Why do you always take the small ones and not the big ones? Kong Rong said: "I am the younger brother, the youngest, I should eat the small one, and let the big one be eaten by my brother!"

At a young age, Kong Rong understood the principles of mutual courtesy, mutual help, unity and friendship between brothers and sisters, which surprised the whole family. Since then, the story of Kong Rong Rang Pear has been passed down for thousands of years and has become a model of unity and friendship.

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Emperor Wen of the Han Dynasty Liu Heng, the third son of Gaozu of the Han Dynasty, was the Empress Dowager Bo.

begotten. In the eighth year of Gaohou (180 BC), he became emperor. In the name of benevolence and filial piety, he is known all over the world, and he never slacks off in serving his mother.

His mother was sick for three years, and he often lost his eyes and clothes; He tasted the decoction that his mother was taking before he let his mother take it. He reigned for 24 years, emphasizing the rule of virtue, revitalizing etiquette, paying attention to the development of agriculture, so that the society of the Western Han Dynasty was stable, the people were prosperous, and the economy was restored and developed.

Changshan Zhao Zilong broke into Cao Ying alone.