How should we educate our children when they make mistakes?

When a child makes a mistake, 99% of them know that they are wrong. So what can be done to make children "accept with an open mind and resolutely change"? Here are a few of my thoughts and welcome to share them together**.

1. Parents themselves should accept their children's mistakes first.

It's not terrible to make mistakes. Only by making mistakes can it be possible to improve, and then improve. The more mistakes a child makes, the more opportunities he has to grow.

Yes, making mistakes is not useless, and making mistakes and moving forward is far more rewarding than standing still.

There is a mother who once said, "I wish I could make more mistakes when I was still with my child." In this way, I know that when the child is about to leave me, the child will make fewer mistakes and the child will fly higher.

If the child makes a mistake, the parents are very nervous, and the child will slowly grow up trembling, afraid to explore, afraid to make mistakes, is this what you want to see?

2. Parents should be aware of and accept their children's emotions, and then make the next step of guidance.

Only when parents are aware of their children's emotions and feelings can they accept the corresponding guidance given by their parents in the next step.

If the child has been deeply aware of his mistakes, and is very remorseful, very depressed, and actively hopes to bear the consequences and correct, then the parents do not need to preach too much, and the child has grown. Parents just need to spend time with their child through the emotional downturn, tell him that you think it's great for him to be brave enough to take the consequences, and let the child know that Mom and Dad love and appreciate him as always.

If the child recognizes the mistake but does not have the intention of repenting, then it is necessary for parents to listen to the child's ideas, spread the correct values, and give the child positive encouragement and positive guidance.

For example, fights between children. The child thinks that although it is wrong for me to hit someone, it is he who beats me and beats me very painfully. At this time, parents may need to guide their children to think about how to deal with similar situations, and what are the pros and cons of each.

If the child does not take the mistake seriously, parents should pay attention to the problem quietly at this time. Parents need to reflect on whether the child has made a mistake. If so, what is the child's mind?

Perhaps this is a process that requires cognitive change, and parents should be patient and guide slowly.

I am Yimi, a working mother who likes to learn and explore when she grows up with her baby. Parenting is more exciting with you.

It's normal for children to make mistakes.

Growing up, children make countless mistakes. As parents, when we see our children making mistakes, our first reaction is: headache, something is wrong, so annoying.

However, when we think about our own upbringing, we have also made mistakes along the way. Even when we grow up, we will find that we lose a lot of opportunities because we are afraid to make mistakes and dare not try.

For example, I want to ** a financial product. Will you lose money when you think about it? Forget it.

I want to take the civil service exam. Do you think about being squeezed out by others? Forget it.

I would like to contribute. Will you be rejected when you think about it? So, forget it.

In fact, the courage to make mistakes is also a kind of courage, which allows us to discover another possibility in life.

So, do you want your children to make no mistakes and live a rigid life? Or do you want your child to keep making mistakes and finally find what they are really good at and live a rich life?

I think you must have the answer in mind. <>

We want to allow our children to make mistakes. If a child makes a mistake, we can educate him like this:

1.Communicate to get the facts

Sometimes what we understand is only one side of the story, it is possible that the child is wrong, and it is possible that the child is not wrong. At this point, it's important to know the facts.

For example, some time ago, my child was deducted a few points in the language test. I came back to talk to the child, and it turned out that the teacher was wrong.

The child writes an obscure idiom on the test paper, which he learns in the idiom dictionary. However, the teacher didn't know and typed him wrong.

At this time, if I blame the child, the child must feel very wronged. <>

2.Let the child analyze the cause of the error on his own

Instead of us analyzing the mistakes for the children, let the children analyze the mistakes themselves. That way he will always remember.

Some time ago, the child did not get a perfect score in the language stage test. I could tell at a glance that he had forgotten to write punctuation. I wanted to tell him why, but I couldn't help it. Because I reminded him, he will forget.

So, I asked the child, "What do you think is the reason for these mistakes?" The child flipped through his own set of mistakes and found out why.

Since then, my child has consciously checked the punctuation marks after his homework and asked me to help him look at it. <>

3.Look for solutions to problems

One day, the child was skipping rope at home and accidentally broke the vase on the coffee table. The child was scared silly, and immediately said to me with a bitter face: "Mom, I'm sorry." Clearly, he already knew he was wrong.

I asked him, "What should I do if the ground is full of debris?" The boy said, "I'll go and sweep him away." ”

The mistake has been made, and the child knows it's wrong. Instead of scolding him, find a way to solve the problem.

I'm Orange Xiaohui, and I'm with you on the road to parenting.

When we think back to when we were children, were we afraid of making mistakes, why? Because of fear of evaluation, criticism or accusation, because of mistakes, we may not be a good child in the minds of adults, we are not smart, worried that our parents will not like us, because of being blamed, become a lie, many times it is precisely because of the equation of people and things, you do wrong things, then you are a bad person, is a person who loves to do wrong things, how many mistakes have we made since childhood, which time was not learned in the process of making mistakes?

One of my mentors once said that you can't learn much in success, but you learn more in failures and mistakes. Just imagine, if you haven't done anything wrong in this life, it means that you won't achieve much, and life is incomplete.

So we must pay great attention to this when facing children to make mistakes, first of all, our cognition needs to change, have empathy, put ourselves in the child's perspective to consider things, children dare to make mistakes is a manifestation of courage, children dare to try, need to affirm and encourage this courage, let us see more possibilities.

Secondly, when dealing with children's mistakes, we must do the right thing and not the person, understand the truth of the matter, see what the child is wrong in the end, and help the child analyze the reasons for the mistake.

Finally, guide the child how to solve it next time if he encounters something similar, ask the child what he has learned in this matter, find a better solution with the child, and cultivate the ability to solve the problem, which is also a very important ability for the child to enter the society.

<> children make some mistakes, it is inevitable that they will search Congji, as an adult, there is no choice but to carefully educate and persuade them. As a parent, I should know if the mistake was intentional or unintentional, and then decide how to do it.

What you say to the child must also convince him to understand the specific reason for the mistake, and it is useless to just reprimand him. Explain the reason to him clearly, let him pay attention to the unintentional mistake next time, and if he deliberately makes him realize the seriousness of the mistake, Zheng Gao will understand the stakes.

Whether it is his parents, family, or outsiders, no matter who makes mistakes, he must be brave to bear them. Apologize when it is time to apologize, and if the child is unable to bear the financial loss caused to others, the adult should compensate others according to the severity of the situation.

Children are innocent and unprincipled. If he makes a mistake, he should be punished as a reprimand, not too severe, and he can run two laps around the playground. One is to exercise and the other is to realize the seriousness of the mistake.

There are many characteristics in children, and they are often very strong at the same time, and the method of agitation is often tried. You can give some examples of good children around you, see how other people's children are, and motivate them to keep learning and improving, so that is the only way out for you.

If the child really accidentally makes a mistake, you can let the child be careful next time, not that he makes a subjective mistake, but if the child knows that he is wrong, and the parents who want to deliberately let him correct it, let him know what is right and what is wrong, so that he will not make it again in the future.

Children will make mistakes in life, but in fact, they feel that this is also an inevitable thing. However, I think that parents must educate their children correctly in this process, and children make mistakes as adult parents need to educate their children, but how parents deal with it is actually a knowledge. How do you educate your child after he has made a mistake?

Some parents will become very irritable when they see their children making mistakes, and then they will start to blame their children, or even beat their children, but they feel that this kind of education is not helpful to their children's growth. Therefore, parents should not blame the child immediately after seeing the child make a mistake, the child may feel very frightened, and will not be willing to communicate with you in the future, the child will resist you, so parents should also listen to the child's explanation, and parents should not blame their child without asking the reason.

In fact, children will definitely make mistakes, the important thing is how parents deal with these things in this process, if parents use a reasonable way to deal with it at this time, it may be helpful for children's growth. Because children will also learn to think and summarize in this process, parents must communicate with their children on the first feeling, and give their children more encouragement, parents must learn to control their emotions, and treat them with a normal heart, and must tolerate their children's mistakes.

But I think parents must also use certain punishment measures, if your child makes a mistake, then parents must punish the child, so that the child will know that what he is doing is wrong, and the child will not dare to do it again in the future. Therefore, parents must adopt the correct way of education, which is very beneficial to both children and parents, which is conducive to the growth of children and will make children remember the lessons.

In such a situation, parents should actively guide their children, let them face their mistakes correctly, let them correct them in time, and never beat or scold their children.

Parents should actively guide their children, and at the same time, they should also let their children face up to their mistakes, let them realize their mistakes, and let them correct them in time.

I will educate him in a scientific way, and I will also use a gentle tone to tell the child some truths so that the child will not make the same mistake again.

It may be possible to ask the child to reflect on himself, let the child understand the situation of making mistakes, reason with the child, and hope that the child understands the things.

1. If the bear child is very young, scare him. For a child who is too young, what he is afraid of is relatively simple, you just need to make a grimace or a vicious expression to scare him when the parent can't see it, then he won't dare to make trouble again, if he cries or looks for his mother, and then pretends to smile, this trick has been tried. Second, in the face of an older bear child, if he has made a small mistake, I will first reason with him and patiently tell him that it is not right to do so.

If he doesn't listen, then tell his parents directly and let his parents discipline him. Everyone will make mistakes, let alone a small child, we should give the child the opportunity to change himself, if the child does not accept it, then let the child's parents educate themselves. 3. If I can't tolerate the mistakes made by the bear child, and the parents tell me that "he is still a child" or "the child is still young", I will definitely hold the corresponding responsibility.

I have given my children the opportunity to change, but the responsibility for children's education mainly lies with the parents, if even the parents feel that they don't need to educate, then I don't need to meddle in their education methods, but the bear child must apologize or compensate for my injuries. In fact, this also wants to tell parents that you can cover up your child's faults, but the losses caused by your child must be borne by your child or you. 4. If the parent refuses to apologize and tells me not to be honest with the child, then I will do it

In the face of such an attitude of parents, it is difficult for you to let parents know that this kind of education is wrong through any effective behavior, it is better to wait patiently, and when the bear child meets the person he "can't provoke", he will know what "social beating" is. And I believe that parents will let such bear children go, and one day someone will educate them for me! I also remind all parents of bear children that even if they spoil their bear children at home, they can do it, but not in learning and society!

Who hasn't made a mistake, Xiao Ming's grandfather didn't dare to say that he would no longer make mistakes when he lived to be 100 years old, but if he made a mistake, he had to take responsibility! Parents can get used to their children, but they can't use the sentence "he is still a child" or "the child is still young" to excuse it, because the mistakes made by the bear child are not obliged to be borne by outsiders for you! Blindly use this way of thinking to educate children, so that children can live in the greenhouse all the time, and eventually one day they will suffer.