What should parents do when their children lie?

Recently, many parents have reported that their children are getting older and more difficult to discipline, and they have learned to lie to deceive themselves, which makes parents very anxious. Neither beating nor scolding, so what should I do?

Many times, the child breaks the things at home and turns the house upside down due to playfulness, even at the "crime scene", but when you ask the child who did it, the child not only does not admit that he did it, but also pushes the puppy to carry the black pot, "This is the puppy did it!" ”

Children are reluctant to admit their mistakes, but also can make up a lot of reasons and excuses, at this time, parents should pay attention, in fact, almost no children will not lie, want to educate children no longer lie, parents must first know the reason for the child to lie, in order to educate the child from the root, to avoid the recurrence of lying. The reason why children lie is nothing more than the fear of being punished, and there are also some children who lie not intentionally, but because they can't distinguish between imagination and reality, and they say big things.

After parents find out the reason why their children lie, they should communicate more with their children and educate them patiently, so that their children will not lie again in the future. How? Here are a few points to summarize.

1. Listen more and communicate with your child.

Children lie in large part to avoid punishment, and they all have this mentality: "If I admit it, my mother will definitely beat me to death!" Under such a psychological effect, they will shirk their responsibilities and do not admit their mistakes.

In fact, parents should communicate more with their children, understand their children's needs, and set more practical rules: when children do something wrong, if the price of admitting the mistake is what the child can do and is willing to do, the child will not lie.

2. Help children distinguish between reality and imagination.

I saw a cat flying in the sky", "Superman stole my chocolate", "I have a robot as big as a mountain in my house"??These lies are made to be false at first glance, and children are telling what they think in their hearts as facts, especially young children are more likely to have such problems. Parents should pay attention to telling their children what is real and what is not there in their daily life, so that children can distinguish between reality and imagination.

3. Parents should set a good example for their children.

Parents are the first enlightenment teachers of children, and their behavior in life can easily affect their children, and if they want their children not to lie, parents must set a good example for their children, lead by example, be consistent in their words and deeds, do not lie, and tell the truth. In such a family background, the child will also develop an honest character and will no longer be afraid to tell the truth.

4. Parents should treat their children with a normal heart.

Lying is not a flood beast, parents should not react too aggressively, spanking and scolding is not a good way to educate. After the child lied, parents should gently educate the child, let the child realize that it is wrong to lie, good children should not lie, encourage them to tell the truth, and do not criticize the child too much.

Of course, parents should pay attention to the fact that the child's first lie must be taken seriously, with the first time, there will be a second time, once the habit of lying is formed, it will be difficult for the child to correct it in the future.

I don't know when that innocent child started lying. Definitely hungry. In order to play with toys not hungry, not hungry.

Obviously in good spirits, but pretending to have a stomachache and a toothache, crying and shouting not to go to kindergarten. It's not my business that I threw the toys all over the place, but I lied that other children did it. Parents will wonder if such a young child starts lying from an early age, and that can grow up.

When children are most likely to lie when smart parents do this, children unconsciously "lie".

This usually happens to children in the 0-3 years old stage, and strictly speaking, this cannot be a "lie". At this stage, the child's cognitive ability is in the stage of developing from purposeless memory to purposeful memory. As a result, many things are not clear about the children's own memories.

On the other hand, children of this age have a weak and unstable understanding of time, space, sequence, etc. That is, they sometimes understand, and if they change to something else, they may not understand again. Specifically, first of all, it's about what happened, what happened in **, who acted on what.

At the same time, they will have a lot of different imaginations in their heads, and the distinction between imagination and reality may sometimes be less stable or mixed.

When we go to verify the specific process of what happened to the children, he may cause the so-called "lies" that we adults see, because the memory is not clear. It is also important to note that the language development of children at this age is much less than that of adults. So when they put it into words, it's either not clear, or we can be misinterpreted as a child's "lie".

Of course, this can also happen to children over the age of 3. That is, their perception of things is inconsistent with their parents or with objective facts. But they don't know what they know is wrong or untrue.

For example, we sometimes ask our children to complete certain tasks, but our standards for completing this work may be different from those of our children.

The child thinks he's done, but we don't think he's done. We may think that he is lying, but in fact, the child himself is not consciously deceiving us. Solution, children under 3 years old, parents encounter this situation and cannot first reprimand the child with morality.

Because at this time they do not have a good understanding of morality. Because complex feelings such as shame and guilt have not developed well, they cannot be experienced. At the same time, this strong emotional response from parents can make them feel fear and fear.

What parents should do is to communicate with their children and then understand why they lie like this, so as to avoid the children from slowly forming a bad habit in the process, which is not good for the child's development.

When children lie, parents can ask them in a tactful way if they are lying, and then they can tell them that lying is not good and should let children admit their mistakes in time.

When a child lies, what parents need to do is to criticize and educate the child so that he can realize the harm.

Parents should point out their children's mistakes, show that they are not doing so, and let them correct them.

At this time, we can use encouragement to let the child admit that he lied, we can say to the child like this, the baby's mother knows that you are a good child, you never lie, so the mother believes that you will tell the truth to the mother, right? As long as you talk to your child in a very gentle tone, your child will definitely tell you what he really thinks, and it will also help your child develop a good habit of not lying, and it will also improve communication between parents and children.

When a child lies, parents must first understand why the child is lying. At the same time, be sure to punish strictly. Telling him to lie is wrong, so there is a certain punishment. If you are honest, if you do something wrong, you will sometimes get a certain amount of praise.

Parents at this time. We must educate our children strictly, give them severe punishments, and let them know that lying is punishable, and that children cannot be shielded, and that children develop the habit of lying, and it is difficult to change them again in their lives.

Preface: In the process of children's growth, they will encounter many problems. For example, some parents find that their children like to lie, especially if parents find that their children are lying, then it must be a very embarrassing thing for their children.

Many parents feel that their children are already able to lie at such a young age, and it will be even more difficult to manage when they grow up. In the face of such a situation, parents can take effective educational measures, and I will share them with you below.

For children, there must be a reason behind the lie. Parents don't want to get angry, we can go and find out why children lie. In general, children may choose to lie when they want to get something about themselves or accidentally do something wrong and are afraid that their parents will criticize them.

Then parents can patiently listen to their children's true thoughts, which is also conducive to solving problems. If you only want to criticize children, then it will be especially difficult to educate children.

There are some children who lie not intentionally, mainly because they do not distinguish between reality and imagination. Children will tell what they think as facts, especially for younger children, and this kind of lie will be more obvious. Then parents must guide their children and tell them what is true and what is false.

Under the guidance of parents, I believe that children can get out of their dreams and realities as soon as possible.

Some children develop a tendency to lie, mainly due to the influence of their parents. Especially when parents lie and are seen through by children, and children do not see that parents pay a certain price for their lies, children will feel that lying is not a very terrible thing. Then it is recommended that parents must set a good example for their children, do not lie in front of their children, so that children can also develop a good habit of behavior, and when they lie again next time, parents can take certain punitive measures.

First of all, parents must lead by example, teach by example, set a good example for their children, whenever children encounter something, they must let their children face it themselves, because this can cultivate children's ability to be independent, and also tell children that lying is wrong, and also tell children that lying is legally responsible, but I think the most important point is that when educating children, do not randomly beat and scold children.

Parents should give positive guidance to their children, correct their children's wrong habits afterwards, and also tell their children the basic concept of right and wrong, so as to establish the correct three views for children. Let the child realize his mistakes, too.

You should take the initiative to tell your child that this practice is very incorrect, and this practice will also make parents hate their children in the future, and they should be honest people in their lives.

Parents should correct their children in a timely manner, and should also tell their children that they should be honest and real people in life, and should not lie often.

When a child lies, parents should ask if the child is lying, and at this time, the child needs to stand up and admit his mistakes.

In fact, this phenomenon is very common. Every time I see my baby break a toy, but my son doesn't admit it, and says that his grandmother broke it, and if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, I wouldn't have believed such a small child. If you lie angrily, you will open your mouth and there will be no flaws at all.

Mothers will think that they are lying so young, what should they do when they grow up?

Children who lie and ask their mothers not to take it too seriously. In fact, the baby is not lying, and the adults believe that the child is lying but does not understand the child's development. Generally speaking, children lie for reasons and do not grasp abstract concepts.

For example, just now, yesterday, tomorrow. What has been done and what has not been done, these concepts are easy to confuse. For example, when the baby who has just entered kindergarten comes home, the mother will ask what they have eaten today?

The baby will say jajangmyeon. If you ask him again tomorrow, he will still have jajangmyeon. It's not jajangmyeon at all that is made in kindergarten, and it's different every day.

The reason why the child says this is because he can't tell the difference between today, yesterday, the day before yesterday, and the end of tomorrow. And he especially likes to eat jajangmyeon. Eat once for half a year.

In the eyes of parents, the baby is lying.

Children can't tell the difference between imagination and reality. If you tell a story to five or six children at the same time, it's about a thief climbing a window to steal something. And then there are a lot of details in this story, and it's told three times in total.

These children are very fond of listening and listening very carefully. When you're done talking, leave, someone else comes in and asks the kids. What's in the story?

For example, ask the children if anyone saw the thief come in and steal something. What did the thieves steal? I've done such an experiment, and several children are inconsistent.

One of the little babies said I saw the thief crawling in, and he climbed in through that window. The little baby said I knew he was coming in, and he was wearing what kind of clothes, what colors, and what kind of shoes. Other babies will say that he is carrying a large cloth bag and a very strange mask.

So do you say they're lying? No, these are children's imaginations, and they can't tell the difference between their imagination and reality. This trait is very noticeable especially in children aged 2-4 years.

So please don't overreact to the phenomenon of your child lying, which actually shows that your baby is very imaginative.