What has changed when there is a second child in the family?

I am the mother of two babies, my brother is 8 years old and my brother is 22 months old. Before deciding to have a second child, I did a long time of ideological struggle, on the one hand, I considered that the cost of raising a child is very high, on the other hand, I felt that my energy could not keep up, and the most important point was that I was very anxious, I was not patient with the child, and I was afraid that I would not be able to raise the child well. My husband is an only child here, and my in-laws very much want us to have another one, and my husband also agrees, maybe it is also due to the pressure of the family, and finally I figured it out, and then there is another little cutie in the family.

Now my brother is happiest when my brother comes home from school, following my brother in a fart, enjoying every moment of growing up happily with them, tired and happy, this is my second child life.

The overhead increases. The amount of milk powder and diapers for children is definitely larger than when there is no second child. As your child grows, the overhead gradually increases.

First, a two-child family has one or more children than a one-child family; Second, when the economic strength of the two families is similar, the former needs to invest more energy, material and financial resources than the latter.

Children with older siblings have more advanced language, cognitive, imaginative, and play skills, and can bring many benefits to the baby. So, if you want to have a second child, give birth, the child will benefit a lot!

For the eldest child, 65% are unhappy because of the father's love and mother's love being divided, which affects the child's dependence, 10% will be happy to have a new playmate, and 10% will be happy to be able to take care of the little one to show their self-worth.

The most important thing about having a second child at home is that it is more lively, and I still like it, and I feel so happy watching the two children grow up healthily.

It's really great to be a mother, and it's still great to be a mother of two children, tired but happy!

Doubled staff: Originally, three people in the family lived an hourly job and did housework; After Xiaobao arrived, the grandparents came to take the children, and now there are six people in the family!

Having money is adding joy, and not having money is adding trouble.

Chickens and dogs are restless and messy.

There are not many families with a second child, but no matter how many there are, there is no need to compare them with others. Before giving birth to a second child, it is recommended to consider your own physical condition and affordability, after all, you must be responsible for the child after giving birth, and in addition, elderly mothers are also at risk when they give birth to children. According to the relevant provisions of China's Population and Family Planning Law, China advocates age-appropriate marriage and childbearing, and eugenics.

Currently, a couple can have three children. Where the requirements provided by laws and regulations are met, arrangements may be made to arrange for the birth of another child.

In addition, the policy varies from place to place, so it is recommended to consult with the local family planning department. Taking Anhui Province as an example, among the two children who have given birth to are sick and disabled, who cannot grow into a normal labor force, and who are medically considered to be able to have another child, they can apply for another child.

[Legal basis].

Population and Family Planning Law of the People's Republic of China

Article 18: The State advocates age-appropriate marriage and childbearing, and eugenics. A couple can have three children.

Where the requirements provided by laws and regulations are met, arrangements may be made to arrange for the birth of another child. The specific measures shall be formulated by the people's congresses of provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government or their standing committees.

Ethnic minorities should also practice family planning, and the specific measures shall be formulated by the people's congresses of provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government or their standing committees.

Where there are inconsistencies between the provisions on the reproduction of children between the provinces, autonomous regions, or municipalities directly under the Central Government where the husband and wife are registered, they are to be applied in accordance with the principle of benefiting the parties.

Anhui Provincial Population and Family Planning Regulations (2016 Amendment).

Article 19: Husbands and wives with any of the following circumstances may apply for reproduction:

1) Remarried couples who give birth to one child before remarriage and the other party does not give birth, and give birth to one child after remarriage;

2) Remarried couples who each have no more than two children in accordance with law before remarriage, but do not give birth after remarriage;

3) Among the two children who have already given birth are sick or disabled, who cannot grow into a normal labor force, and who are medically considered to be able to have another child;

4) Other circumstances as determined by the State Population and Family Planning Administrative Department.

Article 22: Husbands and wives who wish to have another child shall submit an application to the people's ** or sub-district office of the township (town) where one party is registered, and attach a certificate issued by the villagers' committee, residents' committee, or unit to which both parties belong.

Township (town) people's ** and sub-district offices shall, within 20 days from the date of receipt of the application and supporting materials (except for those who need to be identified as sick and disabled), submit review opinions and report to the people's ** population and family planning administrative departments at the county level. The county-level people's population and family planning administrative department shall make a decision on examination and approval within 20 days, and if the conditions are met, issue a birth certificate; If the requirements are not met, the applicant shall be notified in writing.

Villagers' committees, residents' committees, or other basic-level organizations shall promptly publish the issuance of birth certificates, and accept public oversight.

The birth certificate shall be uniformly printed by the provincial population and family planning administrative department.

Like the current society, there are very few second-married families, because most of the pressure can't be resisted, what kind of mortgage is like this, and there are many loans, so it is enough to say that they are all the same, not to mention the second child.

Now there are very few second-child families, because the pressure of life is very great, if you have a second child, the occupation of educational resources, and the comrades-in-arms of the school district house are very large, and it may be necessary to buy a new house, which is even more stressful.

In fact, there are quite a lot, many parents, afraid that their children will grow up alone and lonely, so they give birth to a second child to accompany him, or some parents give birth to the first child, and the daughter's parents are not satisfied and want the second child to have a son. Most of the people in my family have a second child.

At present, there are quite a lot of second-child families, and as far as our community is concerned, most of them are second-child families.

Are there many in a two-child family? Now that the two-child policy has been opened, there are really many second-child families now. Many people have had a second child.

For a simple view of having a child, the happiness that a child brings to the family will make a woman forget the hardships of pregnancy, the pain of childbirth, and with the passage of time, we seem to have forgotten. Emotionally speaking, most mothers hope that their children will have a playmate in the growth of a playmate, and not so lonely, and life is impermanent, parents always have a time to get old, and the mother endures the pain of giving birth to a second child is also hoping that the child will have someone to rely on each other no matter what difficulties they encounter in their later lives, mothers always believe that the feelings of blood thicker than water are the most indestructible emotions in the world!

For a family where both husband and wife are willing to have a second child, it should be hoped that there will be one more baby, and it is best to make up a good word, which looks so perfect, and the child will not be lonely and lonely because of the company. For only one party who wants to have a second child to the family, if the woman wants, maybe it is an accidental pregnancy, the woman's maternal love is greater than everything, and she is not willing to give up a life like this, and it does not rule out the idea that she hopes that the family will be more stable and the man can be more responsible.

I like children very much, and I also have the conditions to have children, such as economic conditions, physical conditions, family atmosphere, this kind of time and place are all available, it is natural to have a second child. I feel that a child is too lonely, considering that after I am old, the burden of the child is too great, and I plan to have a second child for the distant future. In order to save the unhappy marriage, I decided to gamble, maybe the arrival of the child can change a lot, and some women often have such naïve ideas, so they go to have a second child.

Under the pressure of both parents, since ancient times, filial piety has come first, anyway, there is a strong backing, and there is a strong team with a baby after giving birth, and at this time will also consider having a second child.

Happy families are the same, unhappy families are different, no matter what reason a family has a second child, I hope that women cherish themselves more, take care of the family, work hard to raise children at the same time, don't lose the real self. Raising an excellent child is by no means a woman's business, but the responsibility of the whole family, I hope that the men who read this article If you really love your wife, want to make the family more harmonious, and want to make your child better, then please give your wife more care in life, understand each other, and take the responsibility of educating children together.

1.Sibling relationship: Many people believe that children should have siblings who can grow together, share the joys and difficulties of life, and build a deep sibling relationship.

2.Responsibility: As parents, most people want to be able to take care of their children and provide them with better living conditions and educational resources. Having two children allows parents to take on this responsibility more fully.

3.Lifting the one-child policy: In China, the one-child policy has given many couples the freedom to choose how many children they want, while many choose two children to enrich their family life.

4.Economic conditions: Although the financial pressure of having one child is already great, some families feel that having two children can better balance the financial pressure, and can also allow children to support each other and reduce the burden on parents.

5.Starting a family: Many people hope that they can start a family and start a business, and having two children can make them more complete and happy.

Children are the greatest hope and sustenance of the family. Family life is fun when you have children. I think it's best to have two children at home.

The reason why I say this is because it is too lonely to have one child at home, it is too heavy to have three children at home, and it is best to have two children without being tired and taking care of each other.

1. An only child family with a child, the child is too lonely.

It seems ideal that a one-child family can devote all their resources to this one child. Then the ...... is examinedBut the reality is that the child is very lonely. ......Without a messenger of the same age, the child's daily life will feel lonely and deprived of the fun that the child deserves.

Such a state is obviously not good. Therefore, it is not ideal for Slippery Eyes to have a child in the family.

2. Having three children at home is too burdensome, which is not good for parents and children.

If you have three children in the family, the burden is too heavy. ......Such a family will not only be busy in daily life, but also affect the quality of life, which is very disadvantageous for both parents and children. ......Therefore, a family with three children is also not ideal.

3. If you have two children at home, you will not be tired of taking care of them, and the children can also take care of each other, which has the best effect.

Compared with the loneliness of having one child and the heavy burden of having three children, a family with two children is just right. ......The burden brought by the two children is not too big, the parents can cope with it, and because they have playmates with each other, the children will not feel lonely, and the two children can play together, take care of each other, and fully enjoy the fun of childhood. ......Therefore, the situation of having two children in the family should be ideal.

In terms of your child's mental health development, the main benefits may include:

Encourage your child to share. When there are two or three children in the family, they will naturally learn to share and enjoy the joy of sharing in their daily family life, for example, parents may buy different birthday gifts for each child, and they can share with each other with one more toy to play with, etc. The only child has a lot of resources at home most of the time, and does not have the opportunity to exercise and feel the joy of sharing, and it will take more time to adapt to the social life in the future, in terms of career win-win and interpersonal integration.

Learn to wait. Families with siblings have many aspects of life that require them to learn to wait, such as the use of toilets, scooters, computer wheels, and even taking turns to sleep with their mothers. Because of waiting, children understand what the rules of order are, know how to cherish what they have, and are more patient.

These are not easy for only children to experience, only children often want what to give, give it will always belong to themselves without worrying about losing, such children once they enter the group life is often disturbed and lacking, easy to be impatient, lost, free and loose, and the waste behavior is more serious.

Feel the affection between brothers and sisters. Children have lived together since childhood, accustomed to playing with each other, once separated will miss each other, between the children gradually understand each other's inseparable family affection, will take the initiative to maintain and manage sibling affection through words and deeds, the cultivation of these abilities is conducive to the formation of good interpersonal relationships and intimate relationships in social life in the future, in contrast, only children have a lot less opportunities to perceive and exercise, and often lack the initiative, flexibility and harmony in future interpersonal relationships and intimate relationships.

Learn to help and be grateful. The advantages of each child are different, some children have strong hands-on ability, and some children have strong language skills; Every child may encounter difficulties: unable to solve a certain math problem, skirt can not be zipped, etc., children in the process of long-term relationship is easy to form complementarity, experience the joy of helping others and the gratitude of being helped, and gradually learn to respect others.

It is difficult for only children to have the opportunity to help others, and their parents not only do not need their help, but also are willing to do things for them without asking for gratitude, in such an environment, children are prone to self-centeredness and indifference.

Enjoy having fun with your playmates anytime, anywhere. When there are more children, they will not always pester the adults in the family to play, and their siblings are the best playmates, and this benefit is most felt when they go out to travel. The children are together, communicating while playing, using their brains and mouths, and learning to fight better, and they are not falling behind.

While the children play together, the adults can do their own things: tidy up the house, read books, etc. Of course, children will also quarrel and even fight while playing, and adults need to mediate, but this is much easier to deal with than adults and children playing and breaking.

There are many benefits to having more children, but the premise is that parents must be loving, parents must be good at communication and be able to care for each child, so that the benefits of having more children can gradually emerge and enjoy the happiness and joy of a family with many children.