The highest state of the fourth type of emotion, what is the fourth emotion

The fourth type of feelings: that is, in the family, affection, love outside the feelings, due to the particularity of men and women, it is known as friends above, lovers are not full, for the past "fast food sex", over time, the fourth type of feelings have also formed their own unique connotation, in fact, it is the highest stage of the opposite sex confidant.

The fourth type of relationship is known as being between friendship and love, more inclined to love, than friendship, the fourth type of feelings are more intense, but there are no many rules and regulations of love, the most important thing is that the original intention and result of the fourth type of feelings can not be transformed into love, so I call the fourth type of feelings as: ambiguous feelings. (hereinafter referred to as the description).

The basis of ambiguity is liking, but because of objective reasons, they cannot fall in love or get married, or the original purpose is not for love, but for spiritual equality. Its manifestations are roughly divided into: spiritual love; stable partner; Unrequited love with behavior (not just sex) is not appealing to all three forms of affection.

Spiritual love, also known as platonic love, has been formed for a long time, only when this emotion is called love (both parties), and each other becomes a spiritual support, and there is spiritual comfort when it can be said to be ambiguous, and most of today's online love belongs to this category.

The fourth emotion is the embodiment of the innate instinct of people who are becoming more and more lonely with their souls with the development of civilization and desire to be loved, and it is also the recognition and respect for the true colors of human nature. This kind of emotion not only preserves a stable marriage and an established state of existence, but also respects people's inner needs for love, without worrying about the distress and disaster caused by extramarital affairs.

The initial collision of the fourth emotion is like a waterfall splashing down from a high mountain cliff, thrilling. After that, the relationship is a long stream of fine water, a spring water that flows calmly after splashing jade, clear to the bottom, chanting and singing all the way to a broader estuary, reaching the highest level between friends of the opposite sex. The pool of clear water under the waterfall is the most lingering and the most evocative.

The fourth emotion is more than friendship is a deeper acquaintance, trust and tacit understanding, it is the extreme emotion between men and women who transcends time and distance, and it is the feeling of the fox spirit who is willing to find a wife in the world for his beloved scholar.

Like love, the fourth emotion is a kind of fate that cannot be found. The world, all living beings, without any consciousness, without any warning, two people separated by thousands of mountains and rivers in the fog are so miraculously connected, heart-to-heart communication, sincere and sincere concern, casual and tolerant relationship, distressed when comforted, happy when happy, ordinary blessings, are a rare wealth.

The fourth emotion can neither be vigorous all the time, nor can it be dull all the time. Just like love, the long-term fiery love makes people tired, and deliberately insisting on it will be suspected of being contrived; And if it is too bland, day after day, it will lose the initial feeling of heartbeat like the left hand and right hand.

The fourth emotion also needs to be carefully cared for and managed. He and she need to keep their distance appropriately and adjust the temperature when they get along. It should not be overheated, it should not be overheated, it should be left blank as much as in Chinese painting, only in this way can we retain the admiration and mystery between each other.

It can't be too cold, can't be perfunctory, and it's not painful, otherwise you can't exchange hearts for hearts, and you can't find the feeling of sympathy between friends. Only by cherishing it well can the fourth emotion not be transformed into other emotions, and the situation is awkward and strange.

I know the two old men, they have been classmates for more than 40 years, and every time I hear and talk about their messages to each other, it always makes people feel a particularly clean and pure feeling in their hearts, like a clear spring, trickling into the deformed heart that has long been fumigated by the world.

They are not lovers themselves, let alone lovers, and they have never spoken of love for each other, let alone sex. But it will make each other's hearts move, and will not move the private feelings of the opposite sex; But let each other feel warm. Pure with sweetness, plain with long.

Last year, the spouse of a female classmate was diagnosed with a severe stomach. Her daughter also broke her leg bone at this time. The calm and warm family of three suddenly changed the focus of their lives. The busy female classmates in the retirement and re-employment room are on the verge of unbearable momentum.

But for two months, the female classmate did not mention her plight. Until the male classmates learned about her recent situation from other classmates. The next day, the male student drove more than 100 miles to the female student's workplace.

The female classmates were surprised by his appearance. The male classmates were also surprised to see that she hadn't seen her for a few months, and she was thin and out of shape. It's no longer the lively, laughing little man he used to be. The male classmate endured the sadness in his heart, and after a scolding. He asked about everything.

The female classmate led him into a quiet department, and as soon as he entered the room, the female classmate turned around and cried on the shoulder of the male classmate. The abnormal behavior scared the male classmates, and he didn't know what to do. She was so tired and she needed a support.

After a long time, the female classmate raised her tear-stained face and barely squeezed out a smile, "Don't scare you, borrow your shoulder, it's much better now!" ”

On the contrary, the male classmate was embarrassed and at a loss, how to comfort her. None of them sat down, just stood.

During the period when the female classmate was talking about the family situation, there were several times ** called in, but she didn't answer. The male classmate saw that she was so busy, so he got up and said goodbye. Before leaving, he stuffed her with the thick envelope in his pocket. She said she didn't ask for anything. I just said happily, I'm glad you came to see me!

It was the only physical contact they had known each other for more than 40 years.

There is a sentence to compare this kind of love, I am afraid it is just right and appropriate: in a place not far away, appreciate each other.

This kind of friendship can only be made by rational people. And only a sane person can get it. There is a tacit understanding in the spirit and unity in the heart. You can talk about love, marriage, family, and the future, and you can talk about all the problems you encounter in your life without any consideration.

The heart is spiritual, the heart is connected, and the mutual understanding is sympathetic. Help each other and respect each other. It feels like a lover, but without the greasy taste of the merciless world; I feel like a brother and sister, but I don't have the dignity that a brother and sister see, intimate and rational, and selfless in each other.

The feeling is wonderful, the taste is indescribable. I call it "the third emotion in the world."

It has an exclusivity to love, and because of the fact that the other party is married, it loses the right to love the opposite sex. Maybe that's how this kind of affection arises! There is a relationship between each other: acquaintance, acquaintance, concern for each other, support each other, but do not destroy the family.

The sun and the moon are eternal, may they be well!

Emotion is an eternal topic, the blood of family affection is thicker than water, the loyalty of love, and the heart and gall of friendship have always been touched and yearned for by people. People may have always thought that the emotions in the world can almost be covered by these three types of emotions, but in fact, in addition to these three types of emotions, there is also a type of emotion, which is called the fourth type of emotion.

The so-called fourth type of emotion refers to an emotion that hovers between friendship and love, specifically speaking, it is the relationship between men and women that is more than friendship and a little less than love. It cannot be considered love between such emotions, but there is more than ordinary friendship, that is, a true confidant between a man and a woman.

Some people may disdain this kind of emotion and scoff at it, thinking that it is impossible, how can there be such a pure friendship between the sexes, but there are also people who think that this kind of affection can be described as the best of emotions, and it is a kind of pride for both men and women. In fact, there are several situations in this fourth type of emotion, some of which are for the man and not for the woman; Some women have this emotion, and the man wants to further develop into love; There are also both parties who have such feelings, and they both regard each other as their best confidants of the opposite sex. They generally refer to the woman as a "confidante" and the man as a "confidante with a blue (male)".

Affection, friendship, and affection other than love are the fourth type of affection.

I guess it's between love and friendship! She likes him very much, she loves to be with him, she is with her, but when she thinks of having a relationship with him, she knows that it is impossible. Not love, but deeper than friendship.

Sometimes it will go to you very deeply, but it is easier to let go than love!

This should be the fourth type of relationship.