People always talk about their misfortunes, in exchange for not sympathy, but hate What do you thi

People always talk about their misfortunes, in exchange for definitely not sympathy but absolute hate!

1. We are just supporting characters in someone else's world

In someone else's world, we are just a supporting character. Shallow encounters, faint acquaintances, except for themselves, all the misfortunes, pains and sorrows, no one can empathize, no one will understand.

Second, no one wants to be an emotional trash can

Don't always talk about your own misfortunes, no one wants to be someone else's emotional trash can. Life is already full of exhaustion, time is precious, and when you take a break in the busyness, you have to be filled with your Xianglin's chatter, who wants?

3. Don't spread out your wounds for others to see

There are few bosom friends, who listens to broken strings?

It's hard to find a bosom friend, and no one likes to face that ugly and gloomy face; No one likes to feel that burning and grieving heart; No one likes to breathe that dull and suffocating air......

Everyone has their own life trajectory, no one can appease anyone, no one can redeem anyone, others are others after all, no one can take your injury as a sore spot, your bloody wound, only your own pain.

Fourth, complaining about grievances cannot solve the problem

The comfort of others is temporary, and only when you come out of it will last the longest, you know the warmth and coldness, and the joys and sorrows are self-explanatory! The so-called suffering, others don't care; No one is obliged to share the misfortune for you. If you have crossed the past, you will be reborn, and if you can't cross it, you deserve it, and it is difficult for others to understand.

After all, there are more people who care more about jokes than they care, and those who understand you don't need to say much, and those who don't understand don't need to tell. You tell from the bottom of your heart, which not only disturbs others, but also helplesss yourself.

5. Turn your life into silent mode

If you want to complain, since no one can understand, don't say it when you meet people, calm down and think about it, strive to find all the ways and means that can be solved, and take the initiative to get rid of it, which is the right choice.

Instead of becoming someone else's after-dinner conversation, it is better to pay Yaoqin with your heart; Rather than letting others pass around unbearably, it is better to carry it yourself as quietly as possible; Instead of letting others create trouble, it is better to turn your life into silent mode.

Complaining can't solve the problem, and it's useless to worry, so try to resolve and digest it yourself, why bother to make people annoying. If you really can't do anything, you will break your teeth and swallow it in your stomach, deal with it calmly, endure humiliation, and persist in waiting for time and fate to be arranged.

Yes. Generally, this kind of person has more negative emotions, and the people around him will be infected and become very negative, we must be good at summing up experience to find out the problem, and make changes, this is the right way.

In fact, this is what it looks like, most people actually don't like such people, and they hope that they can actively find ways to change the situation, rather than complaining about the unfairness of fate.

I'm very much in favor of it, because everyone has a very unfortunate situation in their daily life, but we should be positive and optimistic, and if we talk about it all the time, it will make people feel very bored.

People who always tell others about their misfortunes want to repeatedly express these meanings: first, to talk about their unfortunate experiences, to gain a certain amount of relief, and to release their too heavy pressure; second, to complain about the injustice of the other party or the surrounding environment, in order to gain sympathy and help; Third, they despair of their own abilities, lose confidence in the future, in changing their destiny, and try to gain stability and help through accusations. There are probably several types of people who are unfortunate, those who are lucky, those who change the status quo and regain their luck by their own efforts.

For the unfortunate person, hearing others tell him about the misfortune may cause them to have sad memories and make them "learn from the pain, how painful it is", and their reaction will only be to avoid or disgust, even if there is little sympathy, try to ask, they are all in misfortune, what can they do to save the other unfortunate person?

A lucky person is nothing more than a person who has never experienced misfortune, or who has received help from others to get rid of misfortune. If they have not experienced misfortune, these lucky people naturally do not know the meaning of misfortune, and there is no way to talk about help. As for those who are pampered and have a proud life, will it be easy to pity an unfortunate person?

They may not even be interested in listening. As for those who get rid of misfortune through help, there is help they receive that sees the light, and there are those who do not. Those who have seen the light and are kind-hearted may offer help based on their own experiences, but only once or twice.

If you repeatedly hear about misfortune, especially if you have already helped, it still has no effect, and it will naturally be indifferent. And those who get help through a way that can't see the light, the conditions that need to be met to get these so-called "help" are not necessarily possessed by other unfortunate people, but they do, because when it comes to privacy, people may not be willing to tell you. As for those who rely on their own efforts to change the status quo and regain their luck, they will look down on those who always talk about their misfortunes from the bottom of their hearts and do not want to rely on themselves to actively find ways to overcome and overcome difficulties.

One of the biggest characteristics of these people who rely on their own efforts to achieve success is that they do not admit defeat, dare to challenge fate, dare to try, and dare to fail. They have a strong, independent personality.

They value their own strength more and admire stronger people, that is, the type of people who "can be icing on the cake, but cannot be the icing on the cake". They naturally look down on and dislike the so-called unfortunate people who can only talk and do not work hard, let alone easily help those who are "incorrigible". Therefore, when a person tries to gain sympathy and change his fate by telling his misfortune, the result is often more tragic, just like Mr. Lu Xun's ** Li Xianglin's sister-in-law, who was finally spurned and died tragically.

The behavior of a person who always recounts his misfortune has another fatal wound to himself, that is, because he is sad and sees no hope, he gradually gives up his efforts to change his fate, and finally accepts the arrangement of his tragic fate. They wept away the lucky opportunities that might have arisen, and were forever in endless pain.

I think that's right, because you can't always talk about your misfortunes, because it makes people think you're always complaining about your misfortunes, which is annoying.

I agree that people can't always talk about their misfortunes, they have to find a way to get out of it and live a wonderful life, otherwise it will be disgusting, because everyone has things that don't go well, and there is no need to talk about it.

You don't need other people's sympathy, you may just want to redress your grievances, because you have suffered injustice, good people will empathize when they see others suffering, not to mention giving comfort at least they will not laugh, the people you said they can only say that they are a group of villains who have fallen into the well, they will only laugh at you, take this as a handle, stay away from villains, of course, this group of people will pretend to sympathize when they see the pain in the TV series or the news, including cats and dogs who are sick will pretend to be sympathetic, this is the hypocrisy of people, if the people in this world are all to shut up the people who say that they have problems, and say that they have problems, then the world is not saved, and the fault is not you but the world。

I agree with this sentence very much, because I think that no matter what time it is, it is good to talk about it properly, otherwise Xianglin's sister-in-law's complaints will only make everyone avoid it. Adults can confide, but be aware of the difference between confiding and habitual complaining.

I agree. Because a person complaining repeatedly will make others feel bored, just like Xianglin's sister-in-law.

I think people always talk about their own misfortune, this kind of person does not deserve the sympathy of others, only hard work, through their own struggle, can change their own destiny, will keep themselves away from misfortune.

No one likes someone who is full of negative energy. People who like positive energy, you say your misfortune, few people can empathize, rather than annoying, it is better to be positive and optimistic to change your current situation.

I think this statement is particularly true, there is a time to talk about your own misfortune, it is better to use it to enrich yourself, constantly improve your strength, win the respect of others, rather than seeking the sympathy of others, it is better to give yourself enough self-confidence.