I feel that 2019 is particularly unpleasant, how can I come out of being a failure?

Don't be sad, I'm a waste, it's just that if I don't think about it, I'll just go with the flow. In the first semester of my sophomore year, I decided to forget the days of my freshman year of high school, and I studied whenever I had time, because I didn't want to interact with others anymore, and it was better to do more useful things when I had time to be sad, and then I went from the bottom of the whole grade to almost a hundred. I think failure is something that everyone will experience, but please don't continue to look at these failures, you have to think about how to succeed, what you want, and then you can only rush forward, because of your previous failures so you should be more fearless, fate will not let a person who works so hard to go to a dead end all the time, both come and live happily.

No one is born a loser, and I am born to be useful. A momentary failure doesn't mean anything. Just like when I just graduated, I was full of self-confidence, I couldn't take the graduate school entrance examination, and I hit a wall everywhere when I was looking for a job, and those months were really the darkest time of my life.

How to change your mindset? Try reading some chicken soup to give yourself some confidence. Prepare sufficient information before each sale, find the right crowd, and achieve precision marketing.

Aimless marketing will only consume your patience and confidence. If you are prepared, you will succeed.

I personally think that's a good thing. To be honest, if you want to reach the ultimate in life, you can't use all your talents and efforts to succeed. Sometimes you need experience, the intuition to seize opportunities, and patience and perseverance in the face of unreasonable troubles and difficulties.

Although what you have encountered in the past six months is not a big deal, it is basically the normal situation that everyone will encounter in life. Recognize the reality and work hard to overcome it. Don't blame your failure on someone else's strengths and say who is against you.

Once you have this kind of thought, you tend to give up thinking and give up resisting. As the saying goes, all roads lead to Rome, and although others have their advantages, you also have your own paths. In my opinion, your biggest problem is actually waiting for someone to introduce and arrange for you.

As soon as someone else gives you a wrong path, you feel like you're nothing based on someone else's rules. In fact, get rid of this passivity and take the initiative to find it yourself, and you will find that the world is very big.

A very classic story, two thirsty people find half a glass of water, the optimistic person says that fortunately there is still half a glass of water, and the pessimistic person says how there is only half a glass of water. It can be understood that my recent life is safe and sound, only one chance to pass the third subject, so many people in the school work hard and diligently, my grades can still be in front, the internship opportunity finally came to my hands, I don't believe the hardest work, the sanitation aunt on the highway gets up at four o'clock every day to work. Moreover, not all personnel things are successful, I passed the department.

Third, the grades are not bad, there is an internship job that is already the envy of many people, and there are victories that I have not exemplified. When you win, someone loses, and naturally when others win, of course you lose. "Victorious from childhood to adulthood"?

No, didn't your mother keep talking about you, ** all the time? So life is not smooth sailing, there are no outright losers, and there are no constant failures. In the end, it depends on how you see what is happening around you and how you define yourself.

To share a true story, my colleague once asked me why I am so happy every day, and I said, I am very happy, because when I entered the subway today, I successfully swiped the card at one time. I think it must have been luck to go smoothly today. The next day, my colleague asked again, are you so happy today because of a successful swipe of the subway card?

I said, no, I brushed it four or five times today, and I was almost late. But I think it's good, I had such a bad thing in the morning, which means that everything else will go well today. Mindset is everything.

Same thing, different angles, different mentalities, different conclusions, different futures.

In fact, my state is similar to yours, and I didn't do well in the exam, so I won't say the specific reason, because my exam is not the same as yours, and there are more subjective factors, but I didn't give up, I want to take the exam again and start over, because academic qualifications are really too important. As for the rest, let's take myself as an example, I found that I had failed after three years, I was very busy but not busy with results, so I was reflecting on why this happened. I think you also have to reflect, since you ask this question to prove that you are very motivated, so you must reflect, make a plan, don't be influenced by others, especially when your mother says that you are not good, you must not feel inferior.

If it were me, then I would be a strong person in life. More than 30 years have passed, and the only thing that has accompanied me in spring and autumn is persistence. The difficult days have made me cherish the people and things around me even more, and I have not complained about God's injustice when living in such an environment.

Crying again and again made me learn to be strong, and watching the back of my parents grow old has one more responsibility. The setbacks and failures on the way to pursue my dreams taught me a lesson, and every loss made me more confident.

The first is to summarize the reasons for failure and not repeat the mistakes of the past. The second is to carry out psychological adjustment, not to be shrouded in clouds. The third is to make a plan to stand up, and don't attack blindly. Fourth, seize the opportunity in time and fight a beautiful turnaround.

Life is a long road, failure, setbacks, pain and sadness are inevitable, a hundred years of life is bitter and sweet, everyone has a difficult history, in real life, it is normal to encounter failure, but you must know that everyone has troubles and sorrows and failures, but you can't feel the sadness and troubles of others, we live in the world, we must learn to face reality, adapt to reality, put ourselves in the right position, and strive to integrate ourselves into the real society and life, so as to forget the past, forget the sadness and troubles, and get rid of the burden, Everything is back to zero, start anew! Strive to forge ahead, only in this way can you get rid of the dark clouds and see the blue sky again, you can get out of the shadow of failure, at this time, you will see the colorful and wonderful world! Tomorrow is still even better!

Believe in yourself, you are the best and nothing can beat you.

Humanity who has no troubles, and the wind and waves are also white-headed. Everyone will encounter various setbacks and failures in the process of growing up, but some students do not seem to be fair enough to them by God, making them suffer more failures and pains. They put in more effort than others, but the results are unsatisfactory, leaving them in a quagmire of inferiority, shrouded in a thick shadow that they cannot get rid of.

Teachers and classmates have deep sympathy for their plight, and they will also lend a helping hand to pull them along. But "the bell must be tied to the bell", how to get out of the shadow of failure, the most important thing is to yourself.

First of all, we must understand that success does not come easily, and failure is always inevitable. Failure, like success, is also an asset, and both success and failure are part of life. Failure belongs to the past, and I believe that tomorrow will be better.

Whether it's success or failure, learn to laugh it off. It is necessary to establish a correct outlook on life, a world outlook, and look at the immediate failures from the perspective of development. Face up to adversity, there are sunny days and rainy days in life, joys and pains.

Setbacks are inevitable, and we must have a good attitude and be prepared to deal with setbacks at any time.

Firm goals, failure is the mother of success, a positive and optimistic life, make yourself strong.

The so-called failure, the so-called setback, that is commonplace.

Establishing a mindset is the first step out of the shadows. Whether you can walk out or not depends on the person in your heart, and the reality you face depends on what kind of mentality you should use, rather than blindly wandering.

Life cannot be smooth sailing, summarize the reasons for failure, accept the lessons learned, and be confident that you will succeed.

1. Adjust your mindset first.

Failure will definitely make us feel unhappy, but we should first adjust our mentality and not let our mood be too lost.

2. Summarize lessons learned.

We should learn from our failures, and it is not terrible to fail, but it is terrible not to learn from them, but to sink even more.

3. Be mentally prepared.

If we fail, we must be mentally prepared for success, and at the same time, even if we fail again, it is possible, so we must be prepared for both.

4. Strive to improve yourself.

We should strive to improve our own level, especially for some of our own shortcomings, the root causes of failure, and we should improve as soon as possible.

5. Take on new challenges.

One thing we should do is to be brave, and if we fail, we should take on new challenges and not give up on ourselves.

I don't know how long it has been since you graduated, what major you studied, in fact, it is more important to take care of how you get a job first, and don't think about the superiority you once had been surpassed, because you didn't see how others worked hard. There is also the fact that it is really my own excuse to not find a job, what job is not easy to find, at most I will find a job that is not very related to the major and slowly learn, and when you can show your talent in this area, you can consider a promotion and a salary increase, and then you will also be a successful person, and you will have a sense of achievement.

First of all, don't compare yourself with others, especially don't compare with the so-called "once inferior to you" people Secondly, find out the reason, why others will succeed, and you will failNo one is born a failure, the reason why you will fail must be unsatisfactory and bad.

Think about it, why you haven't had a job for a long time after graduation, and have you worked hard to find out if your eyes are too high, and if you are too ambitious.

Then, when you find that you have figured out all these problems, when you are ready, give yourself some confidence and set off bravely.

I have always believed that I am born to be useful.

I hope you can find your own position.

Death, the only liberation, whether there is an afterlife or not, after all, I don't remember or care, so far in this life, there is resentment and hatred, but you can't live.

It is common for people to have this feeling of self-blame, Everyone will have a more sad time, so that you feel that you owe to the world, to the people around you, feel that you are not good enough, self-doubt, experience more you will find that this is the reality, you will blame yourself too much, accept bad yourself, accept emotional fluctuations, adjust the state, crying does not mean cowardice, focus on the future prospects, crying and laughing and blaming yourself are the only way in life.

As long as you do your best, you don't do it wellDon't blame yourself either, believe that you will do better next time, no one owes anyone, get up if you fail, find a way to solve problems when you encounter them, don't care what others say, and don't let bad emotions disrupt your life, don't be defeated by difficulties. As long as you have the right mentality, I believe you will do better in the future.

If you don't think you've done well this time, or if you have made a mistake, then make a plan that you can solve and start with small goals! There's nothing more effective than getting started! Don't immerse yourself in the world of self-blame, don't add any fault to yourself, as long as you are alive, you still have a chance to make up for it, take a good bath and sleep, tomorrow is another beautiful day, think a little opener,In this case, you should move instead of curling up in a corner.

Exercise more and insist on exercising to be energeticListen to some of your favorite ** adjust your state, let yourself slowly calm down, and then look at the problem, you will find that there is nothing to blame yourself at all, everyone will do wrong, everyone will make mistakes, don't care too much, just work hard next time.

In real life, serious consequences caused by a mistake in a single thought will inevitably lead to deep self-blame, a seemingly simple problem that is actually not.

Self-blame can be divided into two types from the perspective of psychological medicine: the first is short-term self-blame caused by a certain event, which can generally be mediated by psychological adjustment and effective methods; The second is that some people often miss out on some trivial matters or small mistakes, and fall into self-blame, which is a mental illness that requires medical treatment and is not much discussed.

For the first one, it also depends on the specific situation analysis drops:

1) Caused by subjective factors, it is more common, for example, when choosing two different positions in the unit, because of subjective judgment errors, choose a position that seems to be satisfactory but the result is not good, and then fall into self-blame and curse after discovery. When encountering this kind of thing, we should put down our hearts and think about it, when life is at the crossroads of major opportunities, it has an accident and a game, and it is impossible to turn back on the things that have been determined, only the right face is the best, and actively do our part in the position that has been determined, and when the conditions are right, then change the guard or jump ship, and gradually get out of self-blame.

2), caused by objective factors, such as the loss of many years of pets, bringing sadness and self-blame is inevitable, imagine that life will eventually return to the earth, this is the cycle of life, sadness and then raise a new pet that is, tomorrow is still beautiful, don't let the senseless self-blame full of minds.

3), there is also a kind of self-blame due to emotional lovelornness, and even unhappiness with parents, the method is: first face the reality, make sure that it is irreparable, don't entangle, understand that emotions are two-way, is fate not enough and material conditions can not be satisfied, or is it your own behavior fault? improve their own connotation, temperament and literacy; Secondly, don't be depressed alone, but have fun with relatives and friends, vent your depression, distract yourself, or choose to travel, be happy, don't remember more things with him (her), so that you will slowly get out of the situation of sadness and self-blame.

In short, self-blame itself has two sides, positive self-blame has the effect of self-reflexivity and spiritual liberation, and the confession that is common in Western churches will also calm down the guilt and let the self go. On the contrary, blindly negative self-blame, affect their normal life and surrounding relationships, but also cause other serious diseases, out of self-blame is the process of overcoming self and fighting disease, do not give up good self-confidence at any time, time will be sad, tomorrow the sun will rise as usual, the future will be better.