Why do some elderly people love their eldest grandchildren more in rural areas?

Rural people have always thought that children and grandchildren, especially the eldest children and grandchildren, are the mantle.

Heirs, the leader of a generation, the inheritance and replacement of the ancestral industry shoulder more responsibilities, there are more expectations for this, naturally in the future to support the elderly themselves, the old people will naturally tilt more resources on the eldest son, the girl is married to someone else's family, the child can not be the master of the house is not enough to place high hopes, the ancient emperor's thought is also the same, the inheritance of the long is not passed on.

This is the reason left over from history. In the old society, no matter how many brothers and sisters there were in the family, except for the father, who was the eldest (eldest son), the boss had the final say in everything. The same goes for the eldest grandson.

If the eldest son of this family dies early, the eldest grandson of the old parents will have the final say after a hundred years, and the other sons will have to listen to the arrangement of the eldest grandson. At that time, the eldest son and eldest grandson were the greatest. Until now, this is still the case for older people in rural areas.

In fact, a large part of it is a matter of face, some old people mistakenly think that they have grandchildren, and they have successors so they have face, and the eldest grandson earns him back face, so they will take special care of the eldest grandson.

The inherent traditional concept of the Chinese people attaches more importance to the inheritance of clan blood. For the bloodline inheritance of a clan, people often pay attention to the "eldest son and grandson.""。Major events within a clan, including red and white, or the ceremony of great celebration or great mourning, are all led by the eldest son of the clan, the grandson carrying the flag (or carrying the flag).

Therefore, the people of the clan often look at the eldest son and grandson differently and pay special attention to it.

Because the old man has not had his own child for a long time, suddenly a grandson is naturally ecstatic and very happy.

It has always been the eldest son, in this family is the eldest of the next generation, is the favorite one of the older generations, take our family as an example, five generations in the same house, the old ladies love the boss of our family....Really no one in the family can compare, and the treatment of the second child in our family is worse than that of the eldest one....Because of this question, I asked it again, and the old lady said that the old people look at their descendants, the birth of a generation, the boss of each generation, representing a generation, this is hope.

In the countryside, the elderly love their grandson very much and are very strict with their son. But for his grandson, he always holds it in his hand for fear of falling off, and holds it in his mouth for fear of melting, and spoils his grandson in every way. In the countryside, when the old man sees his grandson, he is happy, and he feels that he has a successor.

There is a proverb among the peasants: "Relatives from generation to generation.""！Grandparents are very close to their eldest grandson!

Special doting: I am afraid that my child will suffer from heat stroke in summer; I'm afraid that the child will be frozen in winter! The eldest grandson, as the leader of the family's prosperity and inheritance, and the continuation of the bloodline!

The old people feel very proud! "There is a successor" grandparents hold the eldest grandson in their hands for fear of falling off, and they are afraid of melting in their mouths!

Because the old people in the countryside think that the eldest grandson is the best candidate for heirloom.

As for the traditional Chinese concept in our country, it is related, because in ancient times, the eldest son and eldest grandson would be more reused.

Old people love grandchildren because grandchildren can bring them countless joys and joys. The first emotional bond is blood, and the old people are proud of their grandchildren because they are the continuation of their own bloodline. In addition, the difference in age and life experience is also one of the reasons, the innocence and vitality of grandchildren can not only bring a happy atmosphere and beautiful occasions to the elderly, but also often make the elderly recall their youthful and enthusiastic time.

Further analysis, on the one hand, the old people regard their grandsons as their spiritual sustenance and hope for life. As the elderly continue to grow, the body and spirit of the elderly will gradually enter a state of aging and weakness. And the presence of grandchildren can bring them freshness and vitality, and help the elderly get out of loneliness and sadness.

The fun daily life and cute expressions of the grandchildren are also often a good medicine for the body and spirit of the elderly, giving them happiness and contentment and wonderful souls. On the other hand, the elderly can also educate their grandchildren on how to live a healthy and happy life through their interactions and interactions. In the process, the elderly are able to pass on their wisdom and experience, share their growth stories and experiences with their grandchildren, and help them avoid some of the pitfalls and difficulties in their lives.

In general, the old people love the joy and happiness that their grandchildren bring to their grandchildren, and the grandchildren are also able to make up for the spiritual vacancy and loneliness of the elderly. The mutual attention and love between the grandson and the elder also help to promote affection and cooperation among family members, and strengthen mutual trust and bond between relatives. In modern life, people are often busy with work and careers, and people's time and energy have become very limited.

Having the company of the elderly not only makes people feel grounded and warm, but also reminds us to cherish all the lovely people around us and use as much time as possible to pay attention to them, so that they can be physically and mentally healthy and happy. <>

Everyone should not be unfamiliar with this word, especially some old people hope to enjoy the joy of family, and play with their grandchildren every day, and the old people feel very happy.

When children accompany the elderly, the life of the elderly becomes colorful. We can't control the next generation, and the parents of the children will be a little jealous when they see it.

Xiao Liu is an only child, and his parents want him to get ahead, so they discipline Xiao Liu very harshly. After that, Xiao Liu became famous, worked as an executive in a company, married a beautiful wife, and lived happily after marriage.

How exaggerated can "intergenerational parenting" be? My father complained helplessly: My son has more money than me at the age of 4!

For a long time, in Xiao Liu's mind, his parents were very harsh, but after Xiao Liu's child was born, Xiao Liu's parents' attitude changed a lot.

Xiao Liu's parents used to be very harsh, but in front of their grandson, Xiao Liu's parents became very amiable. Whatever the child wants, the grandparents will fulfill the grandson's wishes. What the child wants to eat, even if it takes a long time to buy it in the car, the grandparents are willing to take a long time to buy it for their grandchildren, which can be described as a hundred and smooth for the child.

Grandma prefers children, and when she goes out shopping with her children, she will buy whatever toys the child wants and go home without saying a word. The child likes the toys in the hands of other children, and grandma will not hesitate to buy them home.

From these things, it can be seen that the child's grandparents love their grandchildren very much. Once, Xiao Liu's parents' house was about to be demolished, and Xiao Liu heard his parents say that in the future, they would leave all the money for the house demolition to their grandson, including some gold, silver and jewelry from his grandmother, so that the grandson would not be afraid of not being able to marry a daughter-in-law in the future.

After listening to what his parents said, Xiao Liu felt that his son who was not a few years old was rich, Xiao Liu said, who is the son in the end, I am a little jealous.

Speaking of the problem of "intergenerational parents", many people have something to say: This is really the situation at home, once parents beat themselves, but they never felt distressed, but now they haven't yelled at their children, and the old man ran out to stop them. The person who dared to beat himself at the beginning is not the same person who is protecting his grandson now?

It seems that the "intergenerational parent" is really unreasonable.

He is very frugal, but he is very generous to his grandson

The older generation has come from a hard life, so they have always developed a relatively frugal habit, and they are reluctant to buy anything, even if they have sufficient pensions, they are never willing to spend money. However, since the old man has grandchildren, it is different, he never stingy with buying things for his grandchildren, he wants to give the best things to his grandchildren, and the old man feels that it is worth it when he sees the children happy.

My cousin's parents-in-law are also thrifty people, and they are very frugal with food and electricity every day. However, after the birth of his cousin's son, it is different for the old man to buy things for his grandson, he always chooses the freshest fruit when he buys it, even if the imported ** is more expensive, he never feels sorry for the money. Every time my cousin comes home and sees a label similar to a cherry box in the trash can, she complains in her heart:

The old man really felt sorry for his grandson, so he bought such expensive fruits for his children.

It's okay to beat your own children, but it's not okay for your children to beat your grandchildren

Of course, the old man's "intergenerational relatives" are also manifested in the "calf protection". For later, there were still a few people who had not been beaten when they were children. I think that when our parents were educating us, they emphasized that "if you don't fight, you can't make a weapon", but after our children were born, those who were upgraded to grandparents evolved into "grandson protectors", and they couldn't bear to let their grandchildren suffer a little grievance.

For example, a classmate had such an experience: when he was a child, because he was beaten by his father, his grandfather chased his father with a stick for most of the village; And now, he beat the baby, and the baby's grandfather didn't talk to him for a month. It seems that the "intergenerational parent" is the same at all times!

The reason why the elderly are "intergenerational" has a lot to do with the fact that they are older and have become softer in the face of children's education; At the same time, his guilt for his children was used on his grandchildren, and he became more and more fond of his grandchildren.

In life, we can always see that many people of the older generation spoil their grandchildren without principles, but they will buy whatever the babies want, for fear that the children will feel unhappy.

For this reason, some people may wonder why we, as sons and daughters, are not treated like this, while our own children can enjoy such happiness. In fact, this is all because of the "intergenerational relatives".

The most exaggerated intergenerational parent.

took the child out and fell down, and when he came back, the father hugged the child and cried. The most terrible thing is that the old man hid on the balcony with his granddaughter and secretly wiped his tears, and he refused to even eat lunch, holding the child just didn't let go. Since that time, Bao Dad knew that his daughter was really the heart and liver of the old man, and he would protect the child well when he went out, but he was afraid that the old man would go on a hunger strike again, and it was terrible to think about it.

Compensatory psychology. The older generation of people because of the previous economic conditions do not allow it, many times it will lead to dereliction of duty to their children, but many times it is a last resort.

Now with the improvement of living conditions, grandparents have also reached the age of retirement, most of the love is poured into the grandchildren, and they want to compensate them for the debts of their children, and the most direct and close is their daughter. So, this is a manifestation of "love for the house and the black"!

I believe that grandparents also hope that their grandchildren will develop in a good direction and become an excellent person who makes them proud! So, be good at listening to the voices of the elderly and children, and be a responsible parent and child!

Intergenerational parenting is the most direct manifestation of the love of the elderly in the family for their grandchildren. The elderly in the family love and care for their grandchildren, which is enviable. ......The reason why there is a situation of intergenerational parents is because the elderly in the family really love their grandchildren, feel happy in their old age, and make up for the regrets in their hearts.

1. The most direct reason for intergenerational parenting is the sincere love of the elderly for their grandchildren.

The fundamental reason for the phenomenon of intergenerational parenting is that the elderly really love their grandchildren. ......When they see the hope of the future of their family thriving, the elderly will be happy from the bottom of their hearts, and they will redouble their care and love for their children. The specific manifestation of this is that the elderly love their grandchildren far more than their own children.

Because of this, there is a phenomenon of intergenerational parenting.

2. The reason why intergenerational relatives will arise is because of the happiness of the elderly in their later years.

For the old man to come to Senshu, happiness in old age is his greatest wish. ......When you are old, you will feel extremely happy to see your grandchildren's lively and lovely state, and then you will have a great sense of happiness and satisfaction. The concrete embodiment of all this is that the old man loves his grandchildren very much and obeys ......This is the fundamental reason for the phenomenon of intergenerational parenting.

3. The reason why the elderly will have intergenerational relatives is to make up for the regrets of their youth.

Many elderly people have a difficult life when they are young, have endured a lot of hardships, and lack care and love for their children. ......For this situation, there will be a lot of regrets left in the hearts of the elderly. ......When he is old, when he sees his grandchildren born, he wants to make up for the regrets of the year, so he gives all his love to his grandchildren, and does his best to make his life happier and let his children grow up healthily.

This is another important reason for the emergence of intergenerational parenting.