What topics will relatives discuss when they visit during the Spring Festival?

Everyone will feel that the Spring Festival Gala is not as good as a year, will feel some interesting things about the neighbors, will discuss the children's academic performance, will discuss what the career is like this year, will discuss the shortcomings of parents, and will talk and laugh together, etc., which is very lively.

The topic of marriage, whether there are children, the question of salary, the problem of housing, and the question of whether to have children will be discussed.

What is the salary? Have you bought a house or talked about a boyfriend? Have you talked about your girlfriend and what do you do at home every day?

Visiting relatives during the Spring Festival holiday, why do relatives like to ask the same topic, how do you deal with it? During the Spring Festival, everyone will visit relatives and friends, give gifts to each other, treat guests to dinner, relatives who have not seen you for a long time will always ask you the same topic, when to get married, what to do, what to study, etc., so how do you deal with it?

First, cleverly divert the subject. The Spring Festival is the grandest festival of the Chinese nation, and in order to celebrate the Spring Festival, many people put down their work and rushed back to their hometowns to celebrate the Spring Festival with their parents. During the Spring Festival, relatives and friends will visit each other, give gifts to each other, whenever relatives from all walks of life gather together, the elders always like to ask a few same topics, such as when to get married, whether there is a partner, what kind of work to do, what major to study, etc., how do you deal with it?

Every time I encounter such a topic, I cleverly change the topic, because these topics are a bit private and are topics that I personally don't want to discuss, so when the elders ask me about these topics, I will change the topic in a timely manner. For example, if a relative brings a child, you can tease the child and play with the child, and transfer the topic to the child, so that the elders will not keep asking you those questions, and you don't have to think about how to explain to the relatives in order for him to understand, changing the topic is the most practical way to talk to relatives, if you go to relatives during the Spring Festival, when you are asked by relatives about topics that you don't want to talk about, you can change the topic.

Second, explain it to your relatives in a language they can understand. Whenever the Spring Festival comes, relatives will walk around each other, send gifts, when the relatives who have not seen you for a long time see you again, they will shush you and ask you warmly, and will also ask what your major is, what do you do, do you have a partner? If you don't want to embarrass both parties, then you can proceed with the questions raised by the relatives, but be careful to explain the questions in words that the relatives can understand as much as possible, so that whether they understand or not, they will not talk about the same topic again.

To sum up, this is my opinion on how to deal with the question of how you are dealing with the question of why you love to ask relatives during the Spring Festival holiday.

Mainly because relatives are more concerned about these issues and want to compare you with their own children. I'm usually perfunctory, not too much.

When I'm asked about the same topic, I'll be brief, then I'll immediately change the subject, and if a relative still asks after the topic, I'll get up and leave.

I think it's because we haven't seen each other for a long time, so I'm asking the same topic. I'm honest about such a situation, but if I really can't help it, I will ask the other party back.

To tell you the truth, even if there is no epidemic, I am against visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year. Now, with the epidemic, it is a good excuse, just to be widely advertised in the WeChat group of relatives, mutual exemption New Year's greetings (since the epidemic in Wuhan three years ago, I have been doing this), each at home to have a comfortable, clean, refreshing Spring Festival, I say this is not because I don't understand the world, but there is the truth, in addition to my family in addition to the octogenarian parents in the rural hometown, the four brothers and sisters go to the east and west (a Shanghai, a Guangzhou, a Xi'an, a Jiangxi), usually gather less and leave more, Finally, a few days after the Chinese New Year, the children have no time to accompany their parents, and the brothers and sisters have no time to talk about their hearts, after the Spring Festival.

For five or six days, they were all busy going to their relatives, and when they had gone all over their relatives, the Spring Festival holiday had passed, and everyone hurriedly embarked on the road back. It is said that relatives do not leave and do not kiss, which is true, but the problem is: now that parents, children, brothers and sisters have become strangers, they all need to be relatives to go, which is more important, it is self-evident!

Visiting relatives during the Spring Festival, everyone is tired: first of all, the transportation is inconvenient, there are many people who go to relatives during the New Year, there are many returnees and vehicles, and the main roads in and out of villages and towns are jammed like the morning rush hour in the city, in order to go to relatives' houses for a meal, you have to drive for half a day or even a whole day; Secondly, the children are busy going to relatives, the old people have to cook at home to cook and make snacks, entertain the guests who come to the door, and there is no one to help during the Spring Festival, and I can't bear to see the hard work of the old people. – The health situation is indeed disturbing.

In the rural areas, there has not been a civilized level of the meal sharing system, and there is no implementation of public chopsticks, shared bowls and chopsticks, and even teacups shared by individual relatives. It's not that I'm hypocritical, this status quo is really not conducive to the prevention of infectious diseases, after our brothers go out to visit relatives every year, there will always be people who have a cold and fever, diarrhea and diarrhea and stomach ache. Therefore, I have always advocated that there should be less contact between relatives during the Spring Festival (except for happy events), and it is enough to send WeChat New Year's greetings and greetings to each other in the group.

As long as we usually strengthen the connection and everyone helps each other in something, the relationship will not be bad. As for the elders and the elderly of relatives, they need to visit and care, and it is better to arrange for them to go home at ordinary times (usually the elderly are more lonely, and occasionally relatives visit, they will be very happy), as for the Spring Festival, it is left to the elderly and their children to reunite, which is more meaningful.

Once a year, the most distinctive Chinese tradition is that the family sits around and eats Chinese New Year's Eve together.

There is also a large number of sparrows that are characteristic of visiting relatives and friends, carrying a variety of health products, gifts, milk, and liquor.

The first day of the new year generally does not go to the relatives' house, the first day of the new year will choose to go to the ancestors' graves to sweep the tomb, incense, burn paper, and now they generally buy pots of chrysanthemums to mourn the feelings of missing their ancestors!

In the second year of junior high school, they will choose to go to their parents' house, and the daughters who marry out will drag their families back to their parents' homes on the second day of the first month, because Niangqiao is the biggest in the gap! Then I went to my grandmother's aunt's house to pay New Year's greetings in turn. Because the parents have a few brothers and sisters, unlike our post-70s generation, the middle-aged people in the seventies and eighties are generally an only child, and then when we are in the seventies and eighties after the 70s, we should be more idle, and there will be no brothers and sisters like the parents to go to relatives, because they can't walk, there is only one child, and now the children are also married, they will go to their mother-in-law's house to pay New Year's greetings, and those who have daughters may be lively, and eighty percent of those who give birth to sons are relatively deserted.

In other words, now we go to the elders' homes to pay New Year's greetings, and it is rare to get them once a year, and they are all the closest relatives, elders! Nowadays, people don't usually have much time, they are busy with work, busy with family, and busy with children! This is how family affection is maintained, if you don't leave once a year, how long can family affection last, will it become very strange?

Today's young people don't like to go to relatives, that is, the children of our generation, they are all only children, lack of family competition, and are spoiled, plus the current Internet, young people are not willing to go with us adults to go to relatives, they would rather stay at home alone, do not like to follow the three aunts and six mothers-in-law to go relatives, then when we are seventy or eighty years old, we should be very idle, because there are no guests to visit the door!

You say that once a year relatives don't leave, and once a year dinner party doesn't participate, so is there still family affection and affection? Will the interpersonal relationship become more and more indifferent in the future! Do you not know each other when you come together?

Is that good? I think I still have to go to relatives once a year, otherwise the family affection will slowly fade, and people will become more and more indifferent, and family members are also a kind of socialization, a kind of etiquette, and family members don't move around, so who do you go to walk around?

Love this kind of lively scene, say hello to each other, and meet each other! It's a good feeling.

Type 1: "Big mouth" type relatives, so that you have nowhere to escape, this kind of person no matter how far he goes, is always the head of the West and the owner, there is nothing he (she) does not know, and does not say. When things that don't matter themselves come out of his (her's) mouth, they always feel like a different taste.

After seeing you, I asked, no matter what 3721 was: Where do you work and how old are you? Ouch, it's not small, have you found a partner?

No matter what, he or she can always find the "resonance point". Type 2: Infinite show-off relatives, you are really awesome Although the damage value of such relatives is not high, but people are "pretentious", no matter how big or small, they can always involve him (her) to show off, children, family, life, etc

Oh, how is our family, how can the children be able to do it" and so on. No matter how well you mix, you can't find a sense of accomplishment before he (her) raises his or her face stockings, and he can always find a place that can frustrate you like a cocoon. Type 3:

"Leader inspection" type, most of the time for visiting relatives during the New Year in Nongmintuan Village is concentrated in the second day of the Lunar New Year - the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, and the relatives like "a swarm of bees" have come, and they just stay in the living room, and they have to go into each room to take a look, "Oh, your house is really good, why is this room like a pig's nest" and so on.