What should I do if I feel inferior to myself in a single parent family?

At this time, it is still necessary to be able to correct your attitude in time, people are equal in this society, don't look too low and look at yourself. Then others will look down on you.

There is no way to change this phenomenon with low self-esteem, and I think you should make yourself stronger now.

I think you should try to change this mentality, and then let yourself have a career and be financial, so that you can avoid low self-esteem.

Everyone has an inferiority complex, but it is not the same degree.

As for the fact that most children from single-parent families have low self-esteem, the reason is that after the children have a comparison with the surrounding environment, there is a gap in their hearts.

First of all, we need to make it clear that neither behavior nor psychology exists alone, but is the result of the interaction of other behaviors, psychology, and the environment.

That is to say, as a living being, from the moment of birth, the child will have an inferiority complex in the face of the external environment, and this inferiority complex is only his own weakness. When the accident happens, the child will unconsciously compare himself with other children around him.

However, it is important to note that the impact of this comparison varies depending on the age of the child. For example, if an infant suddenly loses its mother, the child's inferiority complex is more of a lack of security; Or when a child encounters an accident in his youth, the child's inferiority complex is more manifested in the form of "different" ......Generally speaking, the later the onset of a single parent, the smaller the impact.

Another situation is that single parents are too sensitive - they always feel that the family is incomplete, and they have the responsibility to act as the other half, and they must pass on the "love" of the other half to their children, and even "love" more.

This psychology influences the behavior of single parents, so much so that parents first lose their sense of boundaries in the midst of the change: love becomes doting without boundaries. The special treatment that children enjoy as a result is the root cause of their low self-esteem.

Because leaving home, no one will treat the child specially, and the child will inevitably encounter unprecedented setbacks.

In the face of external setbacks, children usually choose to withdraw or resist.

Withdrawal is the subconscious belief that oneself is inferior to others; Resistance is also a continuation of the search for a sense of particularity with radical behavior.

But whether withdrawing or resisting, the child's behavior deviates from the normal track.

Or a single parent suddenly changes, and he is first depressed and ignores his children, and the children are greatly neglected because of this. The form of inferiority complex for such children is that everything does not matter.

There are unpredictable circumstances. Something has happened, what should single parents do?

Certainly not to make amends. Making amends means taking actions because you feel indebted. This kind of psychology can make single parents have a tendency to spoil their children.

The right thing to do is to ignore and guide. Try to ignore the accident, guide the child's attention, and divert the child's attention.

Regardless of generalization, if some people lose their father since childhood and lack father's love, they will become more withdrawn and have no sense of responsibility, but some people will become very sensible and have a very strong ability to take care of themselves. Therefore, as long as the children are optimistic, the changes in the family will not have a great impact on them. Ask yourself to be more strict and work harder than before.

I think the family after the accident should make them more precocious.

Psychologists have analyzed that children from single-parent families often suffer from psychological imbalance due to the lack of father's or mother's love. They often feel lonely, worried, disappointed, often depressed, impetuous, and withdrawn. If this mentality is not corrected in time, over time, it will distort the child's personality and seriously affect the development of his emotion, will and moral character.

Single parents should not be unprincipled and indulgent in educating their children. As a result, children often become self-centered, selfish, domineering and willful "little bullies", lacking empathy and responsibility, and not knowing how to respect others.

To cultivate children's sense of independence, if the child's life is replaced, so that the child from an early age to develop the habit of stretching out the hand for clothes and opening the mouth for food, such a child lacks a sense of independence, once he leaves his parents, he does not know how to face the difficulties and setbacks in life.

I think you can get out of your inferiority complex by listening to some pleasant **, or you can get out of your inferiority complex by watching some pleasant movies, and you can also get out of your inferiority complex by chatting with friends, and you can also get out of your inferiority complex by singing about travel.

First of all, you must adjust your mentality, give each other enough trust, and explore ways to manage your marriage in life.

In marriage, you should talk to each other about your thoughts, and you also need to give each other some trust in yourself, control your mentality, and don't think cranky.

Change your lifestyle, adjust your mental thoughts, find something to do, keep yourself busy, and don't let yourself get cranky.

With the divorce rate.

Getting taller and higher, many children live in single-parent families.

Children from single-parent families will have a slightly special personality, and they may feel inferior because of their family, so what should we do as fathers at this time? I think the first thing is to help your child build confidence, not to pass on his anxiety to him, and to let him understand that he is exactly the same as everyone else.

1. Give your child some time.

The reason why the child will have low self-esteem is because he always feels that he is out of place with others, so we should give the child more time at this time, in fact, the child is not as fragile as we imagined, sometimes the child will figure it out on his own, and then gradually adapt to this family environment. At this time, parents can take their children to do more things that interest him and try to divert his attention.

2. Communicate more.

The most important thing between parents and children is to communicate more, especially for children who are in the sensitive period of puberty.

3. Don't bring your own anxieties to your children.

Some parents always feel sorry for their children after divorce, and even make crazy compensation for their children, which will make their children very uncomfortable. It's easy to feel anxious because your child can feel a change in the family that can be overwhelming. So the father can take care of the child as usual, and don't let the child feel that there are too many changes in his life.

Fourth, parents should not complain.

Some parents especially like to complain in front of their children, for example, they will keep talking about it, they have paid too much for their children, I think this is equivalent to a kind of moral kidnapping, which will make the child's personality become more inferior, and will always feel sorry for the parents. Therefore, what parents need to do is to help their children build confidence, and after children have confidence, they will naturally be able to fight against inferiority.

Fathers should give their children more love and make them feel double love, so that they do not feel inferior because they do not have a mother, and they should also try their best to meet their children's needs.

Fathers should adopt a method of encouragement for their children, so that they will become very good. You don't have to worry about low self-esteem.

1. Parents should clearly explain the concept of divorce to their children, and many single-parent families are always secretive about it. In fact, blindly concealing them with flickering words is tantamount to implying that they are despicable. On the other hand, if parents can explain them in simple words and popular examples, it is possible for children to look at them with a normal heart and feel less alienated from the family.

2. Accept the reality and exclude external interferenceIn addition to the influence of the family, there are often external opinions about the rights and wrongs of single parent children who are troubled and inferior. When there are unfavorable and sensitive topics in the outside world, it is necessary for parents to comfort and enlighten their children, pay attention to distinguishing right from wrong with kind words, and point out the direction of efforts, so as to eliminate interference and cultivate a healthy and upward character.

3. Actively guide and correct children's shortcomings Compared with two-parent families, single-parent children need more care and love. Excessive blame will only damage their self-esteem, self-confidence, and create a psychological psychology of vigilance, vigilance, and alienation from others and society. On the contrary, pay attention to the child's strengths, and if you praise and encourage more, it is easy to create a pleasant atmosphere and make the child get more love.

4. Respect the wishes of the children, remarriage is not far-fetched For some families, single parenting is just a process. When a father (or mother) intends to remarry, it is often difficult for the child to accept the new mother (or father). If parents ignore their children's opinions, family crises are inevitable. On the contrary, if you can guide patiently, you can get empathy and trust between generations, and the problem of rebuilding a new home will be easily solved.