How to inadvertently praise people to achieve their own communication goals

In communication, inadvertently complimenting people can help build a good relationship and enhance mutual trust and goodwill. Here are some ways to help you achieve your own communication goals while casually complimenting:

1.Show appreciation: Express your appreciation and appreciation for the other person when they perform a certain action or achievement. This can make the other person feel recognized and respected, and it can also increase trust between you and the other person.

2.Compliment: Give them a positive review to let them know that you think they are good. This compliment can make the other person feel confident and valued, while also helping to build a better relationship.

3.Emphasize the common ground: Emphasizing the common points between you and the other person can make the other person feel that you are on the same side as them, increasing mutual trust and communication.

4.Give affirmation and support: Give them affirmation and support when they are struggling or in need of help to make them feel not alone. This can help build a deeper relationship and increase the other person's sense of trust.

5.Give feedback and encouragement: Give feedback and encouragement when the other person is making progress or changing their behavior, letting them know that their efforts are recognized and valued. This can help motivate the other person and promote better communication.

In short, by inadvertently complimenting people, you can build a better relationship and enhance mutual trust and communication. At the same time, it can also help you achieve your own communication goals and better achieve your goals.

Language is an art, not a technology, and it needs to be understood and cannot be spoken. It's the same with complimenting someone, you need to make people realize that you're praising him, but you don't show it obviously, it's hard. But there are many ways.

For example, Zhang Zuolin once praised his father-in-law, saying that there are very few people like you who don't like to listen to flattery. This made the old man inadvertently accept a flattering word. So you have to deliberately cater to the person you want to praise, and you can follow him if he doesn't like anything.

It's a method, and it's a very practical one. Many people like to cater to what others like, and really smart people will cater to what others don't like. But I'm not asking you to flatter, I hope you understand what I mean.

Most people like to listen to good words, and no one likes to be blamed by others. Even if you want a good friend, if you criticize him a few words, there will be times when the other party's face can't hang up. If you criticize him in public, the result will be even worse, and you may not even be able to do it as a friend.

As for compliments, under normal circumstances, people will take them all. Even if the compliment is a little excessive, the other party will often "refuse to come".

There is a joke about the fact that two scholars had just been appointed to be county officials, and before leaving Beijing to take up their posts, they went to visit the chief examiner. The teacher said to the students: "Nowadays, people in the world do not follow the right path, and they wear high hats when they meet people, this kind of atmosphere is not good!"

A scholar said, "The teacher's words are really good. However, how many people like you don't like to wear high hats now, teacher?

The teacher was very happy to hear this. When the scholar came out, he said to the other scholar, "A high hat has been given away."

It can be seen that a person doesn't like others to wear a high hat indiscriminately, but if he puts a high hat on him from another angle, he will still laugh at it.

Since blaming and complaining doesn't get you right, why not praise instead? If you let go of your frustration and send a good message, you may be rewarded with more than you could have imagined.