How to be loved and how to love others

In fact, to tell the truth, it is not painful to give up a person who loves you very much, it is painful to give up a person you love very much, it is even more painful to fall in love with someone who does not love you, it is destined to be a tragedy, some losses are doomed, some fate will never have results, you don't have to have someone to love, but you must cherish someone if you have one. Since you don't love, then let go in a word, there is a kind of love called letting go, only letting go is a kind of relief, but also a new beginning and having, let go of the burden of the mood is much easier, in the moment the tears fall turn around and leave, don't let yourself hurt, why hang on a tree without sweetness, no happiness, no happiness, people don't love you, then, how to tie up people, twisted melons are not sweet, why embarrass yourself? Why let yourself lose your self-esteem and self-love, indulge in pain, let yourself walk physically and mentally exhausted, scarred, why bother?

It's not interesting, love is two-sided, it's not wishful thinking that there will be results, meeting is the destined fate of life, you can't force it, you will get it only if you lose, and those who refuse to lose your luggage will never swim to the other side. Make yourself strong, have confidence and courage, live your own life, look back at the end of the sea of suffering, and find someone who truly loves you and what you love, which will comfort the wounds of your soul, make up for the shortcomings of your soul, and let you have and cherish. In fact, life is like this, when you lose a beloved thing, there will inevitably be another item for you to like, and when you break up with your lover, there will be a better relationship waiting for you.

At the very least, you will not live in sorrow, and you will find your own paradise, your own sweet, happy and happy life.

The love given by a person who lacks love is inappropriate, sometimes it may be too cold, sometimes it is too much, because he cannot accept the correct way to love others in the original family, and the long-term influence of the family can not be changed overnight, my advice is to learn to love yourself first. If you don't even love yourself, how can you love others correctly? So, how do you learn to love yourself?

First of all, learn to stop blaming yourself, this is the first step, if the person who lacks love can constantly imply that he is already good, no matter what happens, he can easily change his life. If a person feels bad about themselves, it is very difficult to change anything.

It is very necessary for people to give value to themselves, and if people themselves always look down on themselves, they will always be in misfortune. This is why people who lack love are always insecure, and suffer from gains and losses in the relationship, and will also make some wrong ways to give love, which gives the lover a lot of mental pressure. Actually, everyone is just a human being, please don't pretend to be perfect, that will put a lot of pressure on us and make us not see how to adjust ourselves.

Also, avoid imposing fear on yourself. People often like to scare themselves and make their situation worse and worse, thinking about small things very seriously, and always expecting the worst in life. It's a terrible way to live.

Before going to bed, how many people imagine the worst of things? Just like a child imagining a ghost under the bed, it's no wonder you have insomnia. When you are young, you need the comfort of your parents, but you have grown up, and you can comfort yourself.

People who lack love often like to plan for the worst and think of everything as bad. They discarded their powers, believing that they had only some medical data left for their lives. The same is true for love.

If your lover doesn't take the initiative to contact her and find Jane, she thinks you're rejected and abandoned. You create these paralyzing thoughts yourself, which is actually a negative self-suggestion.

Therefore, if you want to love others correctly, you must first learn to love yourself, pay attention to your true inner needs, correctly understand yourself and tolerate some voices that are different from your previous cognition, so that you will gradually have the opportunity to recognize others. If love is something that needs to be learned, then loving yourself is a preview of loving others, you will learn to respect from loving yourself, you will love yourself and understand not to force, and you will learn not to be humble or arrogant from loving yourself, and calmly face every deeper contact between you and him. So, the ** of love is yourself.

1. Genuinely interested; Start by asking yourself if you're really interested in him.

2. Accept all of the other party; To love someone, you can accept the strengths of the other person, and you can also tolerate all his shortcomings.

3. True love is giving; To love someone is not to always want something from him, but not to ask for anything, but to make him happy.

4. Pay carefully; I really like someone, and when the other party is in a troubled and noisy situation, I will share his worries and sorrows. When he loses self-confidence, it can give him enough understanding, help him regain his confidence, and encourage him to get back on his feet.

5. Manage love with heart; If you want to get true love and find a partner for life, you need to manage it with your heart.

Hello, I think that many children who don't feel the love of their parents when they are young will become very loveless when they grow up, and they are also very suspicious, and they will always feel that the other party doesn't like them very much during the whole relationship. In fact, at this time, when we feel the other party's love for us, we should forget some of the pain when we were young.

1. How to love others? Pang Hong's friends who lacked love when they were children may be reluctant to fall in love when they grow up because they are afraid that they may not be worthy of others. And I am also very afraid that when I fall in love with others, I will cause myself to be hurt, so every time I fall in love, it ends in failure.

I have long hoped that everyone can know that everyone may fail when they fall in love, and failure is not terrible, what is terrible is that we dare not try to love again. We must know that in the whole process of falling in love, the most important thing for ourselves is to calm down our mentality, and not to be affected by the filial piety book when we were children. We can choose to think seriously before falling in love, and if the other person is good to us, we can also choose to treat others in this way.

2. The influence of the family of origin on the child. If the child does not receive love in the family of origin, then when the child grows up and may receive the love given to him by others, he will always feel that he is very unworthy of this love. And when others are loving themselves, do we really feel that we can really afford this love?

Third, but I want to tell you that everyone is very good, and everyone is worthy of others' love, so everyone must not deny themselves in this way, when a person can love us seriously, it proves that we are very worthy. So don't belittle yourself anymore, and don't wonder if you can withstand the love of others. Good luck.

To learn to love others, then you also have a sincere and kind heart, know how to judge Jane, be able to self-esteem, self-love, and self-reliance, otherwise, if you have a bad guess of the Sui Ji idea, then it is difficult to love others.