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When the child is young, we may also make the child conform by beating and scolding, but when the child reaches puberty, the more we beat and scold the child, the stronger the child's resistance will be.
The psychologist Spencer argued: "And the submission to these barbaric methods is perhaps the best preparation for the savage society in which these children will participate." "When children grow up with beatings and abuses, they will also absorb such violent behaviors and use them to participate in social activities in the future.
1. Analyze the reasons and drawbacks of doing so from the psychological level.
1) Why do adults like to use punishment or force to force children to submit?
Take letting children eat as an example, on the surface, parents think that children must eat well to grow because they are worried about their children's health.
But what is the truth? Although parents are reluctant to admit it, the main reason they prefer to use force to punish them is to show that they can "win" their children, or to force their children to comply.
The subconscious thought behind this thought is "I'm an adult, you're a child." You have to do what I say, or you'll look good. ”
2) Why is the child reluctant to accept it?
On the surface, the child is indeed ignorant and does not understand the painstaking efforts of his parents, and he specializes in working against his parents.
In reality, children feel oppressed and controlled by their parents. They instinctively rebel against parental control.
The child will think, I don't want to eat, but you have to force me to do something I don't want to do.
This is true when it comes to eating, and if parents also show a strong desire to control other things, it will also provoke the child's resistance.
3) What are the consequences of parental punishment for disobedient children?
When children are punished, some children decide that they are bad or useless. In the short term, children may give in, and some children may decide not to do anything that allows them to be punished, but out of fear and fear, not because of a concept of right and wrong.
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In ancient times, the teacher in the private school punished the naughty children by beating the palm board, and there was a "clear mind acupoint" called Lao Gong acupoint in the palm of the hand, and the palm of the hand with a ring ruler could not only warn but also clear the mind. And the ruler is also exquisite, the ruler is eight points wide means that there should be eight points of tolerance and patience for the mistakes of students, and one foot two inches long means that there should be 120 points of prevention and vigilance for angry teachers. There is also confinement, punishment of kneeling, copying of books, and so on.
Extended information: Ruler, a wooden board used by Mr. Private School to inflict corporal punishment on students. Also called a "ruler", it is made of two wooden blocks.
Two woods are one on the back and one on the other. The one who is on the back is below, seven inches and six minutes long, six minutes thick, and one inch more than an inch of moisture, and there are wisps on the four sides below. The one who bows down is on top, seven inches and four minutes long, more than five minutes thick, and one inch moist, and there are wisps on the four sides of it.
In the middle of the wood, a wooden button is erected, the button is two inches and five minutes long, seven points high, and the button is knocked on the wood. This "ruler" is used in rituals such as "taking refuge, shaving, passing on vows, and teachings", as well as "giving food from the mouth of the yoga flame".
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Warning before punishment.
When parents choose to punish, they can calm down first and give their children a "warning in advance".
Clearly tell your child that if you are committing a crime, I will hit you three times on the palm, or confiscate the toys, write a bond, etc., this way can quickly understand the parents' intentions.
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In ancient times, the teacher in the private school punished the naughty child by beating the palm board.
Palm beating is a common method of corporal punishment, usually between the teacher and the student, the student needs to stretch out his hand, palm up, to the teacher, the teacher can according to personal habits, whether to hold the student's fingers to whip the student's palm area.
The most effective age groups for children's education are as follows:
The first 6 months of life is the critical age for babies to learn to chew and feed dry food, and after the first month of dry food, they can reach out and grasp things, after which they may refuse to chew and spit food out of their mouths. 9 months to 1 year old after birth is the beginning of distinguishing how much and how big it is.
2 3 years old is the first critical age for learning spoken language and is also a critical age for counting development.
2 and a half years old 3 and a half years old is the key age to teach children to be well-behaved, and they should form good hygiene habits and the habit of abiding by the work and rest system.
Before the age of 4 is the key age for visual development.
4 to 5 years old is a critical period for the beginning of learning the written language.
Around the age of 5 is the critical age for mastering mathematical concepts, and it is also the second critical period for children's oral language development.
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