What are the common problems of Chinese parents in education?

When it comes to Chinese-style education, the first thing that most people think of is the nine-year compulsory education and college entrance examination system, compared with before the reform and opening up, today's Chinese-style education has made great progress, most children are eligible to accept the free nine-year compulsory education provided by the state, and now the number of illiterate people is getting smaller and smaller, and most people have junior high school education and above. Moreover, relevant data show that in recent years, the number of college students in China has also shown a continuous growth trend, and China's education is steadily moving forward. However, compared with the education of Western countries, China's education is still very backward, and there are still very serious problems in Chinese-style education.

1. The most prominent problem of Chinese-style education is that it attaches too much importance to school education, most parents think that education is the task of the school, as long as the child is sent to school, the task is completed, and the importance of family education and social education for the growth of children is completely ignored. The consequence of this is that children only know how to learn, do not know how to get along with others, and when they enter the society, they still don't know anything, and they always have to suffer various setbacks and encounter many walls before they can grow.

2. There is still a problem in Chinese-style education that students only learn knowledge in books, lack of opportunities for practice, teachers only teach students written knowledge rather than methods, and students only test knowledge in examinations. By the time students grow up, they have already formed a mindset and lost their creativity and imagination. This is a loss for the development of all aspects of our country's career, students are just "nerds", and when it comes to work, everything starts again.

3. China's education attaches too much importance to success or failure, that is, too much attention is paid to test scores. A student who performs very well in all aspects is often considered a poor student by parents and teachers because of his poor academic performance, believing that as long as the child has poor grades, he will achieve nothing, and he will have no good future in this life. There are often students who think that they have lost their value and that they can no longer succeed after failing the college entrance examination.

In short, there are still many problems in Chinese-style education, and we still need to learn from Western education, strive to develop quality education reform, and promote the development of students' creativity.

1.Nowadays, some parents like to take care of everything, do not give their children the opportunity to grow independently, parents and children gradually lose trust, can not cultivate a good parent-child relationship, children will show rebellion against their parents, and parents are angry because their children can not do what they think, and eventually lead to the failure of family education.

2.Parents should communicate more with their children, respect their children's choices, and guide their children to make the right choices. Let the child make choices when encountering things, rather than asking him to do them in a commanding tone.

3.There is also the fact that the parents' emotions must be stable, the children are a vulnerable group in front of us, we can't control our emotions because of small things, and we lose our temper with our children, and we can't control our emotions to show that we are not mature.

4.Some parents spoil their children too much and can't say no to their children, and as a result, when they reach a certain age, their children do some outrageous behaviors and can't be disciplined.

5.In the context of domestic exam-oriented education, most parents only pay attention to their children's scores, but do not pay attention to their children's physical exercise and moral education. Some parents promise to buy a certain gift for their children to promote their children's learning, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's interest in learning.

6.Nowadays, there are not many children in every Chinese family, so parents are more fond of their children, and at home, children do not have to do housework, clothes to reach out for food to open their mouths, such children lack gratitude, they do not know how to love others, let alone love the collective and love the motherland.

For the first point, not to treat the child's problem as a problem mainly refers to the child's ability to live. Chinese parents think that their children are a treasure, and the money is very expensive, so almost all of the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation are arranged by the parents for a while, and the children are only responsible for enjoying it. Therefore, once the child is away from the parents, there is nothing to do, but Chinese parents think that this is not a big deal.

Chinese parents always think that these behaviors will naturally understand what to do when their children grow up, and now is not the time to learn these things. As everyone knows, habits are formed from an early age, and it will be too late to wait until the child grows up, and this will only make the child grow up to be a useless person.

The second point is to treat children's problems too seriously, mainly referring to academic performance. Chinese parents value their children's academic performance from an early age, as long as the child studies well, everything is good, and if the child does not study well, the child will not be good at anything. Therefore, Chinese parents have urged their children to study every day since they were young, and they only study whenever they have time, and they have not let their children have a happy childhood at all.

The third point is that the inability to distinguish the line refers to the fact that Chinese parents do not grasp the scale well. Academic performance is important to children, but it is not everything. Children must first have a happy childhood, followed by teaching them the principles of dealing with others, cultivating their sense of independence, and then academic performance.

Learning is not an overnight thing, as long as you lay a good foundation when you are young, middle and high school are the sprint stage. It is precisely because Chinese parents cannot grasp the boundaries that problems arise in raising their children.

Parents must stop in moderation in educating their children, grasp the scale, and never go too far, otherwise they will often hurt their children. For children, grades are not everything, and sometimes placing too much emphasis on grades can be counterproductive.

1. Comparative education, always like to let their children and the best children in the class to make a comparison, even if their children work hard or not recognized, always want to let their children become the first, but there are people outside the world can not become unsurpassable existence!

Second, follow the trend of education, many parents always like to see what others do to let their children do what they do, regardless of whether the child likes it or not, whether it is suitable or not, and always imposes their own wishes on the child.

Third, critical education, because of the fear of children's pride, always take a demeaning way to make children progress, this is not correct, children's thinking is the most imaginative, parents can not hit him so that he does not have an open mind, such children can only be frogs at the bottom of the well.

Fourth, "giving" education, many parents do not do what they themselves do but always hope that their children can do it, thus giving children huge pressure and making children breathless.

Regardless of what should be managed, what should not be managed desperately, some of them are too much, some of them are not in place, some are too lazy, and they are too lazy to be free, especially those who control their children's minds in the name of love are very speechless, in a word, the most common disease of Chinese parents and Chinese families is that the boundaries are not clear and they worry too much.

It is generally critical education, but there are also a small number of encouraging education, which uses guided education methods to stimulate students' positive emotions in their hearts. In the process of education, teachers should pay attention to the arrangement of educational methods, so that the educational effect is better. Common educational methods such as:

Appreciative education, appreciative education, "boasting" education, table-based education, praise education, debate education, inducing education, family education, listening and speaking education, pluralistic education, mutual evaluation education, reward education, textbook-based education, success education, reflective education, growth education, sharing education, motivational education, cooperative education, trust education, student-based education, reading education, success education, class education, collective education, international education, self-education, Experiential education, mutual education, experiential education, interactive education, exploratory education, open education, creative education, game education, challenge education, emotional education, independent education, self-cultivation education, self-education, self-purification education.

1.I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix, and I hope that my children will realize my dreams that I can't complete before, which will eventually lead to excessive pressure on my children;

2.I feel that if I read more books and do more homework, I will have good grades, but I ignore the process of summarizing, and I am often good at summarizing to get twice the result with half the effort and improve my child's learning efficiency.

Taking myself as an example, I think the problem is to compare my own children with other people's children. I want to set an example for my child to chase, but it is often the key to causing children to have low self-esteem.

1. Intergenerational support.

Take the children to the community square to play, and find that many children are the elderly or aunts are leading, parents go out to work, and the work of taking care of the children falls on the elderly and aunts, and there are problems with the educational concepts of the elderly and aunts and the way of taking care of the baby, not to mention others.

2. Over-indulgence and neglect of the cultivation of non-intellectual factors.

3. Parents are not honest.

4. Parents love to compare.

Combined with my current 20 years of experience, I have the following questions:

Interfering too much with your child's normal interests and hobbies.

They often impose their will on their children and ignore their own ideas.

Being too protective of children deprives them of opportunities for development.

Everything is formulated for the child, so that the child's independent ability is not exercised.

The tolerance rate for children is not high, which hits children's self-confidence.

Love to compare, love to hit their own children, and pay too much attention to textbook knowledge.

Most Chinese parents cramming education always feel that they are for the good of their children, but in fact, if you think about it from another perspective, you will understand that it is impossible to educate their children well without understanding their interests and hobbies. Interest is the biggest teacher of children, and at the same time, it needs the correct guidance of parents.

It is generally a critical education, children make mistakes and criticize, and a very small number of families will encourage children when they make mistakes and correctly guide children in the right direction.

It is too harsh and causes a lot of stress for small children from an early age.

The biggest problem is imposing one's will on the child and comparing it to other children.

Educating children in their own way and way of behaving in the world is not completely suitable for the current era.

Comparing the conditions of his own children with his own conditions at the time, the children did not experience the time, resulting in saying it is equivalent to saying it in vain.

What are some of the common problems that parents have with their education? I think there are a couple of questions.

Problem 1: Words and deeds are inconsistent.

Speaking of unattainable. Inconsistencies in words and deeds can turn children into opportunists. Because they knew they would get away with it, and they tried to do it as best they could.

Question 2: Underestimation and blame.

The supervisor denies the child's words and deeds, and likes to compare other children with his own children. In the long run, children's enthusiasm and self-motivation are blindly stifled, and self-esteem and self-confidence are ruthlessly destroyed.

Question 3: Remorse laughs, protection and doting.

Everything for the child is taken care of, and even the range of activities of the child is completely limited to his own line of sight. This kind of excessive protection seriously interferes with the normal development of the child's body and mind, resulting in the child's lack of independent living ability, social difficulties, and lack of self-confidence.

Problem 4: Parents are too democratic.

No matter how big or small, they hope to "know the reason", but the reason is not negotiated, but the child should not be spoiled. Younger children lack sufficient experience and judgment and need to rely on their parents for guidance, and if they are too democratic, they can easily become free to do whatever they want.

Question 5 Abuse of incentives and punishments.

In order to help children distinguish between right and wrong, parents should develop the habit of distinguishing rewards and punishments. If a child makes a mistake, a moderate punishment is due.

Question 6 Parents have different opinions.

Parents lack communication and are obsessed with the issue of educating their children, and even openly quarrel in front of their children. This can make the child feel insecure and overwhelmed. Therefore, in front of their children, parents should pay attention to maintaining the same opinion and never give in to each other.

First, excessive stress.

Chinese parents often see education as a guarantee of their children's future success. He joked that he hoped that his children would achieve excellent results in their studies, careers, and families. As a result, they tend to exert excessive pressure.

For example, they may limit your child's social activities, after-school activities, and recreational time so that the child can focus more on learning. Children often have to do well in exams or they are punished and criticized.

Second, ignore your child's interests.

Chinese parents are often unaware of their children's interests and talents. They may only focus on their children's grades and career prospects, and do not pay much attention to their children's hobbies and strengths. As a result, a lot of children have to chase their parents' expectations instead of finding their true passion and talent.

Third, we should attach importance to utilitarian education.

China's education system tends to emphasize exams and skills, while ignoring the comprehensiveness and values of education. As a result, Chinese parents tend to limit their children's education to exams and skills, with little emphasis on spiritual, cultural and social education. This can lead children to become utilitarian and narrow-minded.

Fourth, there is a lack of communication and understanding on the bench.

Chinese parents are often very direct about their children's expectations and requirements. They rarely communicate with their children to understand their thoughts and feelings. This can cause children to feel helpless and neglected, and it can also lead to children being rebellious and disgusted.

Fifth, being overprotective of your child.

Chinese parents often focus on their children's safety and do not have the ability for their children to learn self-protection and self-development. They may not allow children to learn independence, self-confidence, and the ability to cope with setbacks. This can cause children to have difficulty coping with difficulties in adulthood.