Chinese parents generally have different knowledge and action in parenting, how to raise children

The problem of inconsistency between knowledge and action is not only a problem of parenting, it is a problem that exists in each of us. That's why "I know so many truths, but I still can't live this life." "We just know a lot of truths, but we can't do it.

So how can this huge gap between knowing and doing be bridged?

1.Children are our biggest driving force.

For me, I'm a serious procrastinator, but as long as it's about children, I can always study and look up information as soon as possible. I never care about the price of parenting books, as long as they are valuable, I buy them back and read them. I may not read everything through, but I will read carefully in the chapters that I pay attention to and that are appropriate for the child's age, as long as I see the child, I have this absolute drive, and learning for the sake of the child is something that every parent can do.

2.Children are the best thing to do.

We have learned good educational concepts and methods that can be quickly applied to the children around us. Don't subjectively abandon all concepts, it's useless to just say a word, my children don't use these methods, and they don't listen to anything. In this way, the responsibility of educating children is shifted to external causes.

It is true that every child is special, but you must know that there is nothing new under the sun, and the parenting problems you are encountering now must have been encountered by someone for so long before, and there will definitely be people on the book network who know the answer. Therefore, we must open the obstacles in our hearts, learn and practice.

3.Hang on. Perhaps, many parents will feel that this method has been used once and has no effect, so all the books and all the methods will be denied.

For children, we insist that scientific parenting is to continue to learn and practice scientific parenting. Our first instinctual reaction is likely to be inappropriate, and we need to practice constantly and deliberately to be able to have scientific parenting, a kind and firm attitude towards the psychological representation of children.

Parenting is a long way to go.

Education is the foundation of a family and a country, and the success of education often determines a person's future, the future of a family, and the future of a country. <>

The concept of the unity of knowledge and action was first put forward by Mr. Wang Yangming, a great Confucian in the Ming Dynasty, who was also known as Wang Shouren, but was not the brother of Wang Shouyi, but a generation of spiritual masters.

So how can we practice "the unity of knowledge and action" in parenting?

First of all, it should be made clear that there should be no rush in this area of education. The so-called is ten years of trees, a hundred years of people. Education must not be rushed, it must be done slowly.

Furthermore, what is the unity of knowledge and action? The statement of the unity of knowledge and action may be too official, let's put it another way - words are better than deeds. Isn't that a one-size-fits-all approach?

In the process of growing up, children have been imitating the behavior of the people around them, from talking, to eating, to various behaviors, they are imitating the people around them. Therefore, as a parent, you must set an excellent example when raising children. This is the most critical part of scientific parenting.

Recently, the China Children's Center released the "Investigation and Research Report on the Role of Parents in the Family Parenting of Children Aged 0-6 in China" in Beijing. Based on more than 30,000 questionnaires distributed in eight provinces and cities, the report examines the various issues that arise in parenting and education for families during the period of accelerated social transformation.

Survey data shows that nearly 80% of parents have cognitive and behavioral deviations to varying degrees, and the life care and education guidance for their children is not scientific enough. Zheng Dao, Deputy Representative of the UN Children** Office in China, said: "In the context of globalization, families are facing many pressures, and many countries have similar parenting problems.

Some parents take their children to the park, only looking at their phones for themselves, but do not play with their children; Or the husband and wife have a low economic level and often go out to work and cannot accompany their children. This has an impact on the healthy development of children. ”

Education is a slow process of waiting, and it cannot go too slowly, nor too quickly. Compared with excellent test scores, it is also an important life lesson for children to have room to grow and have a happy childhood.

If parents fail to help their children develop good study habits, but instead set an unfavorable example to their children, it will only run counter to the essence of education. Nowadays, according to the learning characteristics and needs of children at different ages, Tiantong Meiyu has tailored a learning plan and growth plan full of fun for students, and also provides parents with scientific and systematic education guidance to help them grasp the critical period of children's learning and growth in a more timely manner.

Today, with such developed educational resources, we look forward to the children being able to learn happily with Tiantong Meiyu and win in the future.