The more excellent the girl, the more difficult it is to get off the single, so how should the excel

Many excellent girls are often busy with their careers and studies, so their social circle will be much smaller than that of ordinary girls. In this way, I can meet more boys and make more excellent friends. After meeting a boy you are interested in, you can also try to take the initiative to open your heart and boldly pursue it once, after all, no matter what you know, you will only know if you have tried it.

Sometimes this is indeed the case, the better the girl, the more right, the more difficult it is to get off the single, because when the girl is excellent, the more I feel that the boy's words are not very important, in the future life, many times, they can support themselves, they can make themselves live better, and after the object, it makes them feel very irritable, very comfortable, so sometimes, because of excellent girls, and their vision is very high, So the easier it will be for them to be single.

Of course it's like this, inIn today's society, it is particularly difficult for women to get rid of singleness if they are particularly good. This has a lot to do with the current boys' mate selection standards, they always want to protect each other or always want to take care of each other, always want to show their superiority, they generally do not choose to find the kind of girl who is better than themselves as the other half.

A friend of mine has been very good since high school, with very good grades, until he was admitted to college later, successfully admitted to graduate school, and was admitted to a doctorate, all the way was relatively smooth, but his love life was not particularly smooth, in the eyes of others, such an excellent girl was not just a random choice if she was looking for a partner, but the reality gave her a heavy blow.

The only relationship she has ever had was her first love in high school, and the relationship at that time was relatively simple, after all, there was no superiority between the two people, that is, whose grades were slightly better and whose grades were slightly worse. There is no way to affect the relationship between two people, but later due to the fact that after being admitted to college, the two people are not together, and with the passage of time, the two people finally lose to the distance.

After studying for a Ph.D., her friends and classmates began to fall in love, and she more or less had this idea, of course, her parents at home occasionally urged her to talk about a boyfriend, but the reality gave her a heavy blow, and such a superior condition for postdoctoral research has actually become a reason for others to reject her.

When others introduce the object, when others hear about such a high degree of education, some of them will not meet directly. One of the most impressive is that they didn't get along for long after meeting, and finally chose to separate, the boy always felt that he was not particularly confident when he contacted or interacted with him, and he always couldn't feel that he and the other party could see the problem at a starting point, and the two people couldn't have more common language, and the final result can be imagined.

She also often wonders why she is in this situation? What exactly did you lose? In fact, in my own opinion, this situation is also very normalToday's boys are different from the past, they pay more attention to their position in family life or pay more attention to how their other half feels about themselves, in their opinion, when the other party can't find security in their own or can live a very good life without relying on themselves, they don't have the kind of face or inner self-esteem that others seem.

It is this kind of thinking that makes them choose to leave those relatively excellent girls, and choose a girl who is a little worse than their own conditions, but can use their thoughts and energy more carefully, and can find the dignity of a man from the other party.

Yes, as the widow king of ten thousand years, I shed sad tears.

I look back on my experiences over the years, and sometimes I even wonder, what has the matter of reading given me? I used to think,When you become good, you may be able to see the same scenery as the people you like. But reality seems to have dealt me a heavy blow.

I always liked my table mate when I was in high school, and at that time he was a light in my eyes, an unattainable dream. Because of his good grades, he also got a good 985 in the college entrance examination

I belong to the kind that has always been tepid, and I didn't do much well in the college entrance examination, so I went to an ordinary undergraduate far away from him. At that time, I was bent on working hard to go to his school.

So I basically didn't think about falling in love during college. But it's also strange to sayWhen I was in college, I probably met a lot of suitors because of the relatively large population base.

Although I actually gave up on pursuing the same table at that time, I don't know why I just wanted to find it after graduate school. Now when I think back to the mentality at that time, I think that when I am excellent, I will meet more and better people.

Good guy, then went to graduate school. Do you know? The real situation is that those excellent people basically have objects, and their objects are brought from universities.

A very small number of high-quality boys who have no object will basically be quickly anchored by the seniors not long after the start of school, and then quickly get off the single

The last boy left, if he is excellent, is either because there are still people who have not forgotten, so he has always been obsessed and is unwilling to talk about new objects. Either you just don't want to talk about it, and you want to talk about it after work or stability.

The rest of the boys don't look for a partner very much, and they basically focus on their careers or studies. So? I used to think that after becoming excellent, there would be an object, but in fact, there is no such thing.

After you become excellent, those excellent boys have long been selected by the powerful girls before. The ones left behind are either of little interest to you or you don't like them.

So in the long run, it becomes more difficult to get off the list. So I advise girls not to think that they are good, and they can find better partners. If you encounter something about the same, you can start.

The most basic thing is that if you think that there is nothing wrong with this person's three views and that they are compatible with you, you can contact and try it. What material conditions, I don't mean not to consider, but to say that there are some things, in fact, will be there in the future, there is no need to be so restricted. So, stop listening to poisonous chicken soup and recognize the reality.

I don't think so. It's hard to get off the list of girls who think they are excellent, but in fact they are not compatible with the top and bottom.

I don't know what your definition of good is?

Financially independent? Job stability? Good character? Good looks? Or even all of the above?

Let me tell youBut if two of the above four points are met, it is estimated that there are definitely many suitors for such girls。If it is difficult for them to get off the list, there must be only one reason, they don't want to get off the list, or they don't have much interest in the current suitors.

As long as they are willing to be a little more compatible, it is estimated that they will be out of the list long ago. So if you have such an excellent girl around you who hasn't taken off the single, it's probably because her suitors don't meet her mate selection criteria. But they themselves are often not worthy of the boys who meet their own criteria for choosing a mate.

They are fighting".Unwilling to compromiseThe banner has turned himself into a saint warrior in the single-out team.

Also, in a sense, there are more boys than girls in today's society. But what? However, the number of high-quality boys is limited. The person who sprayed me will take a look at the admission of master's and doctoral degrees every year.

And many of these high-quality boys already have a clear object when they are young, which makes it more difficult for many excellent girls to find a partner, resulting in the involution of outstanding girls now. And this phenomenon is often more pronounced in large cities. In this way, it will give people the illusion that the better they are, the harder it is to find a partner

The other thing is, because in addition to high-quality boys,There are also many ordinary boys, these boys will feel that they can't control excellent girls, so they often make excellent girls look more difficult to get off the list

But if I'm a guy, I'm sure I'll still like good girls, if I'm worthy. It's very simple, a good-looking and financially independent girl, who doesn't like it? But it's unfortunate that many boys can't control such girls.

The most important point,Most of the best girls are reluctant to be backward compatible, and they often like to find someone better than themselves。At least that's how many people around me are. Many of them would rather be single than live with someone who detracts from their quality of life.

As a result, it is even more difficult for them to get out of the single.

So to sum up, it's not that women are better and harder to get off the list, as long as you are willing to be backward compatible, it's not a matter of minutes. But it is estimated that most girls are unable to open this heart knot, so suddenly.

Of course, it is not excluded that some people who look excellent but have extremely flawed personalities have nothing to do with whether she is excellent or not

I believe that many people will have this question, whether it will be more difficult for excellent girls to get off the list. Mine yes, because I summarized the following points.

First, if she is more mature in mind, she is generally looking for men who are better than herself, have a better career than her, have a better job, and have a more stable job, and a family that is matched. And then there's the personality. As a boy, but he wants to find an excellent woman, at least he must have these conditions.

Second, excellent women, if she is an older leftover woman, 30 or 30 years old, if she wants to find a male friend, it may be a little more difficult than a young excellent woman. Because the boys she matched with were old or a few years older, it is estimated that most of them had already started a family at that time, or already had children. If not, the conditions may not be as good as those of excellent women, so it may be more difficult to choose if you choose.

Third, some of the outstanding women are generally devoted to their careers and are very persistent in their work. So if she doesn't have much to pursue her emotions, and if she doesn't meet a good male friend or a male friend who feels a little, it is more difficult for her to get off the list.

Some excellent female friends may sometimes love the pressure of family or the pressure of age, and casually find a male friend. In this way, taking off the single is like finding a random person to live with, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea are plain and bland, these have no vigorous love, no twists and turns, some just respect each other, and only respect.

However, I think that a good woman, she should marry at an age suitable for marriage, and at an age suitable for falling in love. Don't miss it again after you meet a good and feeling mutual understanding. I believe that every outstanding woman can get the happiness she wants.

The better a woman is, the more she lives more transparently than others. They have experienced the baptism of life, have rich life experience, and are full of their own views and insights about the wider world. In fact, excellent women often do not invest much in their feelings, which is one of the reasons why some women have been single, that is, they don't want to help the poor after marriage.

This is actually very normal, originally excellent women have a high quality of life, but because they have found their other half, they have lowered their living standards, which is not particularly bad. For good women, it doesn't matter how many people like you, what matters is whether those who like you are of high quality. Therefore, the more excellent the woman, the more difficult it is to get out of the single.

If an excellent single girl wants to get off the single quickly, she can participate in offline dating activities, on the one hand, yesIncrease opportunities to meet boys；On the other hand, you can expand your life circle by participating in activitiesIncrease your own ** rateto get rid of the order as soon as possible.

1.Attend a gathering of friends

If a good single girl wants to get rid of her singles, she should participate in more parties or dinners organized by her friends, and on such occasions, she can meet new friends. In addition, you can also attend the wedding of your friends, similar to this kind of large-scale social occasion, you may meet unexpected people. Most of the people I met were friends of friends, everyoneGet to know each other and know each otherIf you happen to meet someone you like, you must seize the opportunity as soon as possible.

2.Pay attention to offline events

Large-scale dating events will be held in each city, so you can pay more attention to the information about the holding of offline events. If the in-person event starts, be active in it. Since it is a dating activity, the demand is very directMost people come here to get rid of singles, so it is more possible to recognize the developable male in such activities.

If you don't meet the person you like, don't be discouraged, you can participate a few more times, maybe fate will come soon.

3.Join hobby groups

Generally speaking, the life of a single woman is very exciting. If you have a personal hobby, you can combine your own preferences and join some high-quality hobby groups, preferably offline, because having personal hobbies or skills is a plus point. Whenever there is spare time,If you work hard in your favorite field of interest, you will shine.

If you happen to meet that interesting soul in the group, catch it in time. Because everyone has a common hobby, it will be more topical to understand.

If a single woman wants to get out of the single, she should actively participate in the event. For example:A bureau of a friend group, an offline dating activity in the same city, or an offline high-quality hobby group that interests you.