How to be a qualified parent and educate your children properly?

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Parents are their children's first and most important teachers, but at present, Chinese parents are seriously lacking in this area.

Method Steps:

1.Before the age of 1, the child's needs are trusted and satisfied

The child will feel that he is growing up in a safe place. When you grow up, you will be a cheerful and trusting person.

2.2-3 years old allows children to be supported and respected

The child will gain a sense of self-confidence and ability to make an impact on the world.

3.4-5 years old let children take the initiative to express emotions:

Children develop a healthy sense of curiosity.

4.Encourage children from 6 to 11 years old to learn:

Encourage your child to learn and show that your child has the same abilities as other children, and your child will be motivated to become energetic.

5.Ages 12-21 encourage children to explore and find their place:

By allowing your child to explore his dreams and feelings, try new ideas, he will develop into an accepting person.

Put down the parents' shelves and learn to be friends with your children. In the rebellious period of children's youth, parents do not pay attention to their own attitudes, words and deeds, and it is easy to stand on the opposite side of each other. Therefore, to educate and guide children, we must first cultivate a sense of closeness, first adjust ourselves, change our thinking, try to be friends first with the mentality of friends, and give children a minimum of respect for their personality.

1. Pay attention to the educational function of the family.

The responsibility of educating children should be shared by both parents, and neither of them should abdicate their own responsibilities; At the same time, fathers and mothers should create conditions for each other to assume responsibility for education, and cooperate in the education of children, and should not unilaterally monopolize "power"; Only when parents share the responsibility for education and have a harmonious and complementary influence on the education of their children can it be possible to give full play to the educational function of the family in an all-round way.

2. Give your child more praise and encouragement.

Giving children more appreciative glances is conducive to cultivating children's good moral behavior habits and qualities, and is conducive to enhancing parents' trust in their children.

3. Pay attention to daily communication with children.

Help your child overcome her shortcomings, find ways to cultivate her habit of doing things quickly, and make it clear that only when you do your own things well as soon as possible can you have time to play or learn other things.

Parents should understand and respect their children, affirm their children's progress, and about their children's learning and living conditions, parents should be aware of them, and they should not blindly let go of their children's elders, and they must take time to accompany their children, even if it is a little time.

Mom and Dad play a particularly important role in the growth of children, Mom and Dad are the first teachers of children, is a mirror of children, Mom and Dad words and deeds are affecting children, qualified parents should be how to educate their children?

Respect your child's growth.

Every child has its own rules on the road to growth, so as a parent must be aware of this. Parents both expect their children to be excellent people, and they all expect their children to grow up healthily, so when educating children, they are always used to educating their children in accordance with their favorite methods, but sometimes they will find that it is not correct. Therefore, when parents educate their children, they should respect the child's growth process and educate their children with scientific standards.

Teach children the qualities of being human.

When parents educate their children, it is more important to teach them to be human beings, as parents, they should cultivate their children's outlook on life, values, and worldview, and cultivate children's good moral qualities. Parents should teach their children to be human beings, and when educating children, they should let themselves be good at listening to their children's voices, properly let go of their hands, give children a certain amount of free space, and let children learn to cultivate their own moral qualities. Mom and Dad should correctly guide the child's worldview, and Grip Town should teach the child the methods and abilities to do things in life, so that they can have the determination to face anything in life.

Mom and Dad should be role models for their children.

Mom and Dad are the first teachers on the road of children's growth, and the family is the most important place for children, and children will be affected all the time in the family. Therefore, parents must take the lead, don't think that your children are still young and don't understand anything, in fact, your words and deeds are affecting your children. Therefore, in daily life, parents must be good role models for their children, let their children learn the good side from themselves, and let the children grow up healthily.

In ordinary life, parents should be very patient with their children, set an example for their children, and must combine some examples with their children when educating them to clear their children's disorders, and they must use encouraging ways to educate. When educating children, you must not yell at your children, and do not criticize them for some small things. To educate children, you must set some examples for your children and follow your own example.

In life, you should lead by example. Practice what you preach. In this way, the child's education will be particularly excellent, and the parent is the child's first teacher, and can also reason with the child more in life, and use some real cases to give examples to the child.

You can also pass on some positive energy knowledge to your children in your life. You can go back to practical things and tell your child about some drawbacks and the right way to do it.

When educating their children, qualified parents must pay attention to teaching their children according to their aptitude, and do not commit violent acts to their children at every turn, which will make the children have a bad tendency to violence, and let the children feel the love and care of their parents, and treat their children with patience and love.

Qualified parents should be patient in educating their children, open-minded, respectful, understanding, I think the best education is the good quality of the child's parents themselves, in the subtle can not affect the child, change the core of the land is the child's growth and development of the enlightenment teacher.

We must respect the child's ideas, never hit the child, when educating the child, we must reflect on ourselves, set a good example for the child, communicate more with the child, and do not act violently.

Don't miss the critical period of your child's development, understand your child's needs and thoughts, and so on.

Respect. Put the child in an equal position, respect the child's ideas and practices, don't think that the child is too young to understand anything, you can think and do it instead of him. A child's ideas and practices may be naïve or even wrong, but we should not arbitrarily reject him, but should guide him.

Walk the talk. Keep your promises to the poor child, because then you can teach him what promises are, what is said and done, and instill the importance of language from an early age.

Care about your child's inner world. Every day, we should not only ask your child what his homework is, whether he has eaten and slept well, etc., but also pay attention to his child's words, deeds, expressions, etc. to judge the child's inner activities.

Control your temper. Naughty is the nature of children, when the child provokes you to thunder, please take a deep breath, control the scolding that comes out of the mouth, intentions, patience, responsibility and perseverance are the tenets that parents must implement.

Keep enriching yourself. The height of the parent station determines how far the child can fly, regardless of their own education level, please maintain the same learning state as the child.

Accompany. This is the most important point, no matter how good the material conditions are, no matter how superior the life, it is not as good as the company of parents, so in leisure time, do not let mobile phones, computers, mahjong, etc. occupy your and your children's precious time. Remember, parents are the best teachers for hungry children.

As the father of the child, I will always accompany him to read and write, take him to the zoo and amusement park, give him the right guidance, and let him have the correct three views.

I think it is best to set a good example for children and let them learn all the time.

Here's how to educate your child:

1. Talk. Conversation is one of the most common forms of education between parents and children. But it's important to remember where and how you're talking.

As far as the occasion is concerned, in the air, and then there are guests, it is better not to talk. In terms of methods, there needs to be a two-way communication, rather than parents chattering and grasping a small problem, and Zheng Xihan should arouse the child's interest and teach him his experience through points of interest.

2. Activities. For a family to develop well, it needs a good atmosphere, and the good atmosphere that Lu Jiao agrees with is also conducive to education. Parents can engage in activities with their children, such as outings, shopping, and hobbies.

In this way, parents can deepen the relationship with their children during the activity process and discover their children's needs.

1. Don't be pampered.

Many parents believe that to love their children is to do everything according to their wishes, let them eat well and dress well, treat them as the emperor of the family, and be windy and rainy. This kind of care may make the child feel comfortable in a short period of time, but in the long run, it is precisely harmful to the child.

Pampered children, when they enter the society and start their own work and life in the future, will show weak self-reliance, weak sense of responsibility, poor spirit of cooperation, etc., all of which will have a great negative impact on the children's career and life. Therefore, as a parent of a child, you must have a calm attitude and sober thinking, and don't take harm as love.

2. Don't teach children crooked ways.

When educating their children, some parents will teach them some philistine philosophies, and teach them some cleverness, tricks, and tricks that appear in society. For example, teach children to know how to open the back door of relationships, teach children to learn to tell lies and deceive others, and teach children to take advantage of the public's advantages and not to take advantage of them.

These methods and contents of teaching children may be of temporary benefit to children, and can even make children feel the real so-called benefits, but this is equivalent to instilling dishonest ways of conduct and dishonest character in children from an early age, which is harmful to a child in the future life.

3. Husband and wife should be unified.

For the care and education of children, it is very important for husband and wife not to "top the cow", the so-called "top cow" means that you say this is right to each other, I prefer to say that it is good; Or compete with each other in front of their children, or even the wife tells the child behind her husband's back that the father is not good, and the husband goes behind his wife's back to tell the child how the mother is not equal.

This way of teaching children and loving children has great harm, not only does not have a healthy educational effect on children, but will make children either confused or not take anyone seriously, or they will be disdainful of their fathers or mothers and even breed resistance.

Fourth, parents must not be high.

It is also inappropriate for parents to put themselves in a high position and point fingers at their children, thinking that what they say is right and that their children must do it to the letter.

In fact, as children get older, they will have their own opinions and thinking, especially after middle and high school, they all have their own ideas, and their parents are not really saints who are right about everything. If parents insist on going their own way, it can only deepen the generation gap between the two generations, which is not conducive to effective communication and exchange with each other. Over time, the so-called love of parents may turn into resentment towards your children.

Fifth, the image of parents must not be bad.

As the saying goes: parents are the best teachers for their children. Because children have more contact with their parents and live together a lot, their parents' words and deeds play a subtle role in their children.

Therefore, if you really care about your children, then parents should set an example and set an example for their children with their own practical actions.