From the perspective of etiquette, this paper discusses the connection and mutual influence between

1. Differences in communicative language:Daily greetings, Chinese mostly use "Have you eaten?" "Where is it?

And so on, which embodies a sense of intimacy between people. But for Westerners, this way of greeting will make the other person feel good.

2. Differences in titles:In the West, the title is more general, and one title can cover many Chinese titles. For example, in the West, men are called Mr. and women are called Lady or Miss.

3. Differences in dining etiquette:Chinese: with chopsticks; When drinking, you will touch the wine glass and make a noise, and generally speaking, the meat dish will be served first, and the soup will be served last, and there is generally no dessert.

In the West, you will use a knife and fork, left fork and right knife, and you can't make a sound when toasting, and there will usually be appetizers.

4. Differences in dress etiquette:Western men usually wear a conservative suit with a white shirt and tie underneath formal social occasions. They like black, so they generally wear black leather shoes.

Western ladies wear dress suits on formal occasions. In addition, it is customary for ladies to wear earrings when they go out. In Western countries, especially in the United States, people usually like to wear casual clothes, such as T-shirts and denim clothes.

5. Differences in banquet etiquette:In China, since ancient times, most people have respected the left, and when entertaining guests, the guests with very distinguished status should be arranged on the left seat, and then arranged in turn. In the West, the right side is respected, men and women sit apart, couples are also seated separately, and the female guests are seated slightly higher than the male guests, and the men have to pull out the chairs for the female guests to their right as a sign of respect for the women.

After the development and progress of traditional culture, there is modern etiquette, and traditional culture influences modern etiquette, and some of the essence must be learned and inherited.

1. Family. Chinese are accustomed to spending generations together and enjoy family together, and even if children live separately from their parents after marriage, they are closely connected to each other. In the West, it is generally a small family, and when the children reach adulthood, they must leave home to support themselves, and after marriage, they generally live separately from their parents.

Even if children live with their parents, they are equal to each other and are not dependent on their parents.

2. Filial piety to parents. Chinese believe that it is necessary to take care of and serve their parents in life. Although Westerners also love, respect, and care about their parents, they do not care about their parents' diet and daily life like we do.

They believe that it is enough for parents to have their own lives, and to respect each other.

3. There are differences in the names of parents. In Western countries such as Germany and Switzerland, children can call their parents by their first names. The Chinese, on the other hand, consider it rude to call parents by their first names. We have always had the saying that "the son does not say the name of the father."

4. There are differences between Chinese and Western treatment of giving up seats. The concrete manifestation of China's respect for the elderly is to be polite and polite in front of the elders and the elderly. Embodied in the bus, it is to give up seats to the elderly.

Nowadays, on buses all over the country, giving up seats for the elderly has become a consensus of the people, which has promoted social harmony and is a concrete embodiment of the spiritual civilization of the people. In the United States and many European countries, passengers consciously queue up to get on the bus, do not crowd, do not grab seats, and do not occupy the seats of the disabled on the bus. Men may be "gentlemen" and give up their seats to younger ladies, but most don't give up their seats to the older people next to them.

At the same time, the elderly in the West are not willing to accept others to give up their seats on the bus, not only that, but there are even elderly people who take the initiative to give up their seats to their children.

5. There are differences in the concept of time. Westerners have a strong sense of time, plan their schedules well in advance in business activities, execute them on time once agreed, and want to take everything into their own hands.

The Chinese have a relatively weak sense of time and action plan, and even if they do, they are flexible and have a more flexible schedule. This cultural difference between China and the West is prominent in cross-border business activities.

In the West, the word etiquette was first used in French to mean "pass through the court".

But as soon as it entered the English language, it took on the meaning of etiquette, which means "passport to interpersonal communication".

The history of Western civilization also shows to a large extent the history of mankind's pursuit of etiquette and its evolution. In order to maintain and develop various interpersonal relationships other than blood kinship and avoid "fighting" or "war", human beings have gradually formed various dynamic etiquette related to "fighting" and "war". For example, in order to show that there is no ** in his hand, so that the other party feels that he has no malicious intent, he created a hand raising ceremony, which later evolved into a handshake.

In order to show their friendship and respect, they are willing to "lose their armor" in front of each other, so they create hat salutes and so on. In the ancient Greek texts, such as Socrates, Plato, Aristotle and other sages, there are many discussions about etiquette. The Middle Ages was the heyday of the development of etiquette.

After the Renaissance, there was a new development of etiquette in Europe and the United States, from the cumbersome requirements of the upper class to follow etiquette, to the appreciation of beautiful manners in the mid-20th century, to the relatively simple rules of etiquette that adapted to the equal relations of society. History has developed to today, the traditional etiquette culture has not only not been abandoned with the development of market economy and the modernization of science and technology, but is more colorful, the country has a national etiquette system, the nation has its own unique etiquette customs, all walks of life have their own etiquette norms, and there are also etiquette practices that all countries abide by in the world. Some countries and nationalities have also stipulated certain punishment rules for those who do not abide by the etiquette norms, and some have taken etiquette as an "introductory course" before citizens are employed, and college graduates who are hired by enterprises must also go through strict etiquette training before they can work.

From the above description of the meaning of etiquette and its origins, we can clearly see that: first, etiquette in China, as a part of the social order, has been widely valued and advocated by the virtuous people of the Chinese nation throughout the ages. Second, etiquette arises to maintain and develop interpersonal relationships, and evolves with the development and change of interpersonal and other social relationships.

It is not only a product of social interaction, but also of international cultural exchange. Third, etiquette is the process of emotional interaction between the giver and the recipient. Just as the Book of Rites · Qu Li Shang Zongyun:

Courtesy is still exchanged, and it is rude to go back and forth without coming; It is also rude to come and not to communicate. "Fourth, etiquette is a procedure, with certain rules, not a combination of unrelated behaviors of all kinds. Fifth, etiquette norms and procedures are agreed upon and agreed upon by people in a certain society.

Sixth, observance of etiquette is an important part of modern human civilization and an important means and way of interpersonal communication.

Etiquette itself is the same, respect for each other, reflecting one's own cultivation and knowledge is the same, all show a high level of cultivation and civilized manners. Common; Respect, compliance, moderation, self-discipline.

Whether it is Chinese or Western, "politeness" is an immutable rule, even if the personality is flamboyant, it should not be arrogant. In the East, hospitality is not lacking in cultivation, and in the West, the noble temperament will surely make people feel comfortable on both occasions and occasions.