My boyfriend and I are three months away from getting married, but the reality has left me at a loss

Updated on society 2024-02-09
35 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Are you a farmer or a farmer? Besides, what role does he play in this matter, if he doesn't even give you an explanation afterwards, then you will suffer in the future.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    If you decide that you want to marry your boyfriend, you have to learn to adapt to his mother, and you can't help it, but it's sad to live with a mother-in-law like that.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Step by step, it will always get better.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The decoration of our house is all taken by his parents, not to mention the curtains, the reason is very simple, the house was given to us by his parents, I thought about living separately after getting married, and leaving them far away. In the future, when you have a house, you can decorate it as you want, eat whatever you want, and don't live with them

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    His mother is used to calling the shots, and it depends on your endurance. There will be a lot of situations that have not happened before before getting married, so many people will break up at the last minute! Since you have decided to be together, you must cherish each other and strive to go together, there is no hurdle that you can't pass!

    I almost broke up, but then I got married.

    As an elder will love his children, the relationship is made by people, as long as you care more about his mother in daily life, I believe that his mother will love you! As long as his mother doesn't have bad intentions and doesn't want to break you up, it's fine. Maybe she is a knife-mouthed, tofu-hearted person, the more people like this, the better, come on, work hard for your happiness!!

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Since you have chosen him, you should adapt to everything about him, after all, you have lived with him, not with his mother, but you need to consider his feelings, it is not easy for his mother to raise him so big, just like it is not easy for your mother, there is nothing wrong with him wanting to make his mother happy in old age, it means that he is filial, don't you want to find a filial one? Filial piety to your mother is the same as filial piety to your mother, so you should learn to adapt to his mother, of course, it is not a grievance to adapt, after getting married, his mother is your mother, what to say, just like your own mother, what's wrong, only in this way will the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be better, he will not be too tired, don't you think that kind of home is a harmonious home? Don't feel that if you are a little angry, you can't be wronged.

    There's no need, your mother raised you so big, so everything goes with you? Don't worry, her mother won't hurt you, after all, she also hopes that her son and daughter-in-law will have a good life.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It's a bit worrying and a bit overbearing!

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I don't think to accept it. Because the two of you have only been dating for three months, it is very likely that you haven't fully understood each other, so it's best not to get married now, or you'll regret it later.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you want to know whether two people are suitable to be together, at least you have to experience some big things together, and see if he is compatible with your outlook on life, three months seems to be a bit short, of course, you can get married!

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Three months is indeed a bit fast, but it's up to you, there are many people who get married in a flash now, the main thing is to look at yourself, don't do things that you regret, think about the worst results, and see if you can afford it.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Being able to ask this question shows that you can get married before your relationship is reached, marriage is a lifelong event, you can't be sloppy, you can get along for a while and get to know each other better. My friend hated to get married late when they met at the beginning, but the child divorced when he was less than a year old.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    It depends on the situation, if you feel that two people are comfortable together and know each other well, then they are together; If you feel that you still have a lot of concerns, then you should be dating for a while, get to know each other better, and then consider getting married.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    I don't think you can accept it, you can observe him for a while longer, see if his family background is similar to yours, and if he has something to hide from you.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    It depends on how your relationship develops, and time does not determine whether to accept it, but whether you are suitable or not.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Through daily communication and behavior, if you feel that he is a person worthy of trust, then you can agree, if you have not seen his true colors, then refuse to wait for the time being.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    The time is a little too short, it's only three months, it's best to say that the time is longer, it's better to run in the personality.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Summary. Original spouse refers to a couple in which both husband and wife are united for the first time and have been registered for marriage and are protected by national law.

    I've been with my boyfriend for five years. Now the balance is working outside, and the three months are auspicious. He's going to marry me.

    But now he is lukewarm to me. Then I asked her. Will you leave me?

    He and me. The husband and wife are still the original match. No.

    What does he mean by this?

    Original spouse refers to a couple in which both husband and wife are united for the first time and have been registered for marriage and are protected by national law.

    And the original partner in the mouth of your male hail friend naturally refers to you, and the meaning of his words is probably that the husband and wife are still the first good siding, and he will not give up the original match, which means that Bu Lufan is saying that he will not give up you. From his point of view at the moment, your worries may be unfounded.

    As for the lukewarm lately, it could be for a number of reasons. Maybe it's because we've been together for a long time, and the enthusiasm period has passed Zen dust, or maybe He Yuanchan is going to get married soon, and it's not necessarily that he has premarital phobia. But you can take the initiative to ask about this, so that you can get the most correct answer, there is no need to guess, the cavity key is easy to have problems.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Summary. Dear

    This is normal for premarital syndrome.

    I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and I originally said I would get married at the end of this year, but I suddenly hesitated not long ago, and now I don't know whether to get married or not.

    This is normal, premarital syndrome.

    Because you don't know if this man is worth entrusting, and whether he will be happy in the future.

    Mainly because the object does not give you enough sense of security responsibility.

    You can observe it for a while longer.

    I said that I would rent a house and get married, but now I regret it and ask him to buy a house, so his attitude towards me has changed all of a sudden.

    Well, after all, the pressure is too great, and I just got married and took on a mortgage.

    We are both second married and have no children.

    Well, then you can discuss it together and ease each other's feelings.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    You and your boyfriend have been together for two years, and the relationship time is not short, and your request to get married is really reasonable for you, after all, girls can't afford to spend their youth. And your boyfriend is more perfunctory about getting married, which makes you particularly insecure, and you start to suspect that he doesn't love you and doesn't want to marry you. But have you ever thought about why he wants to perfunctory you, maybe with his current state and conditions, he can't give you the promise of marriage prematurely, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to marry you.

    Marriage means forming a happy family for a boy, and it also means that he has to take on the responsibility of providing for his family, and boys mature relatively late, and they do not want to take on such a heavy burden too early. And now the conditions for marriage are becoming more and more harsh, if you want to live a comfortable and stable life after marriage, you must have a car, a house and a deposit, your parents have worked hard to raise you, the man must prepare gift money, and after marriage, the two people will have to take on the responsibility of supporting their parents on both sides, which is not a small expense, so the pressure on your boyfriend must be not small.

    Of course, you can also say that you don't care about these conditions, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't care, he may want to propose to you after giving you a stable life. It's best to have a good talk with your boyfriend, listen to his thoughts, don't let him carry everything alone, your future needs to be faced together!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    You yourself understand whether your boyfriend really loves you, and if he does, it may be that he feels that the time is not yet ripe.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    If you don't want to get married, falling in love is a hooligan. He perfunctory you, proving that he is just playing with you, and has no intention of marrying you back home. Try giving up and see how you react. Then decide whether the relationship should go on or not.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    It's very likely that maybe he is not ready to get married and feels young, or maybe he doesn't like you enough and doesn't want to marry you, and he has an ideal type of marriage in his heart, but it's not you.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Explain that he doesn't want to be responsible for you, and if you don't think it's okay, find someone who can be good to you.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    One possibility is that he is not ready to marry you, and the other possibility is that he does not want to marry you.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    You should think carefully about this question. Unwilling to marry to the end.

    What is the reason, you are a girl, a girl's youth is very precious, and it is also very short-lived, don't delay your youth casually. It is recommended to meet with parents to ask about the situation before making plans.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    This is not necessarily that there is no man who has not considered marriage, maybe he just wants to work first and give you a better living condition, or he may be planning to surprise you. Two people can sit down and have a good talk about getting married.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    He is perfunctory to you, there may be a little such a plan, but don't make a conclusion too early, you go to observe him, in-depth understanding of what he thinks, if you really have no plans to get married, then you can divide it or try to divide it, get out of it as soon as possible and start a new life as soon as possible; If he has any hardships or something so that he has no intention of getting married, then you have to let him feel that you love him, dispel his concerns, and you can settle down as soon as possible.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    1. Let's see how your relationship is usually?

    2. With your understanding of him as a person, how do you feel that he loves you?

    3. Looking at your economic situation, does he feel that marrying you is under great financial pressure? Or is it a family problem?

    4. Since two years have been together, it is not too short, why not make it clear if you have something to say? Just sit down and talk to him, have you ever thought about getting married? Do you want to get married later or is there something you are stacsed with? Or is the relationship not deep enough to get married?

    5. What age is it, no matter who loves who more, between lovers, what can't be brought up and discussed, what can't be discussed, what kind of marriage is there, isn't it better to have an idea and live alone?

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    In the above situation, first see what concerns the other party has, if it is just a simple shirk, it is recommended that it is best to know what you want first, what to plan in the future, if the other party does have difficulties, it is recommended to understand more, two people to discuss together, and deal with it together.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Maybe the other party didn't think about it, didn't think about the source of marriage, dear "a little confused", life needs a plan. Those who have a plan have a purpose, and those who do not have a plan are aimless. When you mention getting married and he says to you, "See how far we can go," it means that he hasn't planned your future, he hasn't planned your future means he's not ready to get married with you, he's not ready to get married with you, he's not ready to get married with you, he's not going to get married with you.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Marriage means responsibility.

    I don't want to get married, or I still don't have the courage.

    Either that, or just don't love you enough.

    Don't want to take responsibility.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Maybe your boyfriend hasn't played enough, and guys are generally not too anxious in marriage, you can talk to your boyfriend about it.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Your worries are not unnecessary, and there is a good chance that they are what you imagined. It is also possible that the current economic situation is not very good, and there are too many things to consider about getting married, so it is better to simply open the skylight and talk brightly, and the lovers will eventually become dependents and end this long-distance love run.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    I think it's best to ask the other person directly.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    In my opinion, it may just be that the other party thinks that two years is still too short, and I hope to get along for a longer time, which is more safe.

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