What does it mean to not be able to chat, and how to chat with girls

Many boys who have just entered adulthood have a common characteristic, that is, they will be too shy when they meet a girl they like, and even a little overwhelmed, and they don't know how to communicate with girls. Do you know? The first feeling of really liking one is actually inferiority, how about it, surprised?

But the truth is that the limbs are really like this, when they meet someone they like, most people will feel shy and dare not speak, because they are afraid that they will make a fool of themselves and leave a bad impression on the other party. So many people blame this problem on their inability to speak, but is that really the case?

Of course not, if you look at the so-called boys who can't speak, they behave between the same sex, or between the opposite sex in a friend relationship, they don't look like people who are too shy to speak. Therefore, it's not that you don't know how to talk to girls, but facing the girls you like makes you have an inferiority complex, causing you to dare not show your truest self. So the next problem we have to solve is not how to speak, but how to overcome this kind of inferiority complex.

First of all, you can increase the opportunity to communicate with the female child and gradually become familiar with her. Just like when we first meet strangers, most of us don't show our most natural state because we don't know each other well. And after getting along for a long time, some of the original concerns will disappear, so that when you talk to the girl, it will seem more natural, and the original dialogue that was too straight will also have a little humor.

At this time, you will find that it is not that you can't speak at all, but that you don't show the most natural state.

Another point is not to have too much psychological baggage, many people will have this thought: if I say this sentence, will it be too direct, will it be ridiculed by others? But what I want to say is, what if you are ridiculed?

It won't shed a layer of skin, we can often see Sun Dishi to the point that some people can talk to the opposite sex at will, won't these people be ridiculed? Definitely, it's just that people have a stronger psychological quality, and to put it bluntly, they are thick-skinned. So, it's enough to be confident and show yourself as usual!

Then learn some quotations from the masters of flirting on the Internet, filter out those greasy and rotten teeth, and give it a try when the leftovers are erected.

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1. Calm down, most brothers don't actually can't chat, they are very talkative when they are with buddies and friends, and there are many topics with their parents, but when they talk to girls, they get stuck, and they don't know how to chat. In fact, the main reason is your mentality, you are always afraid of saying the wrong thing, making girls annoy you, having too many scruples, and being cautious when chatting, but the more you are like this, the lower the girl's interest in you is, and you can't mobilize the girl's emotions at all.

2. Find a point of interest and chat with a girl, you must find a point of interest, otherwise if you reply, the girl doesn't know how to reply to you, then this chat can't go on. Before chatting with a girl, be sure to think about it in your shoes, if someone else sent you this sentence, would you be interested in chatting?

3. Some of the replies you see on the Internet can be studied silently, and you can use them when chatting with girls. When chatting with girls, the most afraid thing is that we haven't said the next sentence yet, the girl has already guessed your thoughts, if so, the girl feels that there is no need to talk to you, just like watching a TV series, watching the beginning and knowing the end.

You don't need to deliberately call it to chat, just casually talk about what happened to you.

Find a topic that interests you and her.