How to deal with people, how to deal with people?

My college roommate was the one who spent the most time with me at university, and for the first time I experienced what it's like to have a truly good friend. I'm a very slow burner, I'm so scared of strangers that I can't speak when they talk to me. And before I went to college, I suspected that I had depression.

When I first entered the university dormitory, she happened to open the door for me, smiled very sweetly at me, offered to help me with my luggage, told me which spots I could use, offered to tell me her own name, and then asked me what my name was. Seeing her say her name so confidently, I plucked up the courage to say my name. (Actually, I used to have low self-esteem about my name, so low that I was asked my name by my roommate for the first time in junior high school, and I only knew what my last name was, but I couldn't say my full name, because I felt that my name was not good.)

She treats people very warmly and sincerely, and she really treats you as a friend, and I am also such a person, so the four years of college are basically the closest to the two of us, and she has a higher emotional intelligence than me, and she is very good at talking, and I have learned a lot of speaking skills with her, such as sincerely praising others, listening to others very carefully, occasionally laughing at myself, making an atmosphere, and so on.

She also knows a lot about history and loves to read, and I went to the library a few times under her influence.

I love to eat, but I used to be not picky eaters, I think everything is delicious, so I eat a lot, she loves to search for food, and will recommend it to me after searching, and then we go to eat together, she said that I don't eat much if I raise my mouth.

At any time in the dormitory, if someone is sleeping, she will always be gentle and not disturb others.

Everyone takes turns to clean the dormitory every day, but after a long time, other roommates don't clean at all, just the two of us clean, I started to get angry and didn't want to clean, but she said that cleaning is for the comfort of her own life, for her own or still to clean, I think about it, I don't care if others clean or not, the two of us feel that the dormitory is dirty and take the initiative to clean.

Friends who are really worth dating are those who pick each other's faults, and where you are lacking, he will give you advice and give you. What's the difference between a friend who talks to you everywhere and a friend who drinks and meat? Of course, you have to use different methods to treat friends with different personalities.

Some friends are more sensitive, and some are easier to talk to. For the former, you need to discuss and communicate with them slowly and calmly, and be tactful when encountering different things and opinions, etc. The latter is more convenient, you have something to say, of course, if friends should be red because of disagreement, afterwards you should treat it as if it didn't happen, and still say other things to him, be generous, so as to give the other party a step down.

Of course, making friends is a science, and sometimes you don't need to deliberately find friends, and things are like them, although the words don't sound good, but they do make sense. It is not difficult to make friends, but the difficult thing is how to maintain it, and this knowledge needs to be experienced, understood, summarized and applied.

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