In which areas of China is the patriarchal phenomenon still severe?

It's not that serious, it's basically better in my generation, and now it's more about men and women.

For example, when I was born, my mom kept telling me about it, she said that at the beginning, she really looked at me like my dad, she always thought I was a boy, and then every time I asked my dad if I was a boy or a girl, my dad said you have a good rest, boys and girls are fine, at that time my dad thought my mom was very serious about gender issues and never dared to tell her. After that, my mom told her, and my mom wasn't very disappointed. My grandparents too, and my grandparents didn't care about me because they were girls, and my grandparents loved me very much.

But this should not be generalized. Even if they don't care about the gender of their children anymore, there are still some who care, most of them are rural and the older generation who have not been exposed to the outside world at all will care, but there are not many such families, after all, compulsory education has been universalized.

Now there are many people who have always wanted a girl, and there is a family next to me that has given birth to two sons in a row, and finally gave birth to a daughter, and the whole family loves the girl more than the son.

Although our country has long said that it has abandoned the imagination of patriarchy. The idea of patriarchy has long existed in our traditional thinking. It's not that you can get rid of it.

It can only be said that it has been greatly improved compared to before. However, there are still vast backward areas in our country, and in some places it is still very serious.

In my place, there was no such patriarchal mentality, and everyone thought that as long as it was their own child, both men and women were the same. Some people even think that girls are better than boys because there is much less pressure to start a family later on. But when I arrived at my current university dormitory, I found that there are still serious patriarchal ideologies in some places.

During a chat, I learned that there was a girl in our dormitory who had six children at home. She is the third in the family, and she has two older sisters above her and three younger sisters below. Even her family is about to get married.

But her youngest sister is still in the third grade of primary school. And there are many more examples of this in their hometown.

At the same time, there is a girl in our dormitory, and she has three children, because the youngest child in her family is a boy, so her parents have no children. Of course, my two roommates are very close to each other. So the customs are pretty much the same.

The two of them live in a rural village in the north. So we can also see that their thinking is still very backward. In today's society, the idea of preference for sons still exists.

This is especially true for families with six girls. I don't think it's easy for them to feed up with six children in the current situation. Moreover, it can be seen that the family planning work in these places is not very well done.

Of course, this is only the case in one place, and I think it is conceivable that this is certainly the case in other places. From the perspective of seeing the big imagination from a small scale, there is still a phenomenon of preference for sons over women in many parts of our country. Especially in remote areas that are relatively backward.

People's minds have not been liberated, so the preference for sons over women must not be broken.

Personally, I think it's still very serious, although I live in a third-tier small city, the economic development is okay, and I haven't been able to experience the preference for sons in my own city. But I'll give you an example that happened around me.

Next door to my house, there are two migrant men and women living there. Two rooms, one for each family, I heard that they were relatives from the same village. In the year before last. Both couples were pregnant, one of them gave birth to a boy and the other to a girl.

During the Chinese New Year, the couple brought their children back for the New Year. I heard that the child's grandmother is the same person, but the grandmother's attitude towards the two families is obviously different. At the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, the grandmother only took the initiative to call the family that gave birth to the boy and wrapped a red envelope for the boy.

When they came back to the city to work, their grandmother also brought them a lot of New Year's goods, pig's head meat, sausages, salted chicken, salted duck and so on.

And the treatment of the family that gave birth to the girl was much worse, not only was the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner not called to eat actively, the children did not have red envelopes, and they took the same car back to the city to continue working, and they did not bring any New Year's goods. The couple who gave birth to a girl this year gave birth to another one, still a girl.

It's really worrying for them.

When it comes to patriarchy, it is a traditional and old-fashioned idea in China since ancient times, people think that raising children to prevent old age, but it is useless to give birth to a daughter and marry someone. In the current era, although the concept of preference for sons has improved a lot, many people still have such concepts, especially for the elderly.

Because around me, one of my best friends is a girl, and their family has a patriarchal concept. She herself said that if she was a boy, her parents would not give her brother another brother, this is the idea of patriarchy, thinking that only a boy is enough, and a girl will marry in the future. But for my family, I'm lucky that my parents don't have this patriarchal mentality, they don't have to be boys or girls, especially for my mom, she prefers girls.

Now there are many old people who still have the concept of patriarchy, because after all, they are the older generation, so their thinking is still very old, and they have not changed their minds, but they are somewhat deviated, because raising boys may not be able to support the elderly, but raising girls may not necessarily be more filial than boys, and the reality is true, because girls are more careful and can take good care of their parents.

So, I hope that today's parents don't have this kind of thinking, because it's not right. Patriarchy is inherently representative of the old era, so it should not continue to the present, and it should be abandoned. Boys and girls are the same, and if the family education is good, girls can also be very good.

Patriarchy is a past, not a present. What we should do more is to educate our children well, rather than to distinguish their genders and treat them differently.

All those who say that men and women are equal are young people, and I thought so when I first got married, but I was unlucky and gave birth to two sons, but looking at people who are similar to me, those who have sons bring back a daughter-in-law, even if they spend tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands more than the woman, but they can live together, even if they are noisy, they are still happy. And those who gave birth to daughters, after getting married, the family was deserted all of a sudden, and the habits of more than 20 years led to their hearts being empty, and many people found reasons to take their daughter's children, but living in the house that the in-laws bought for their sons, their hearts were always unsteady, and the neighbor's greetings of when to go back were not a taste in their hearts. We have the daughter of a rich family here in Wuxi, and we pay attention to recruiting a son-in-law to come back, and we call the son-in-law a son to the outside world.

Therefore, in order to achieve equality between men and women in marriage, men and women must first be equal in marriage. It is two families and one family, anyway, it is difficult to achieve, most of the sons have to spend a lot of dowry, and the bride price of the house is less, which also leads to the poor man (fake sperm) who chooses to bear less debt to be the son-in-law, most of the son-in-law is more difficult to enter the woman's family than the daughter-in-law to the man's family, and the son who marries out is much more difficult to take care of the parents than the daughter who marries.

In short, it's annoying to talk too much, and those who say that men and women are equal are either young and ignorant, or they speak with special exceptions.

In terms of self-interest, most sons will accommodate their daughter-in-law's opinions, and during the New Year's holidays, they will bring some gifts to visit their mother-in-law's mother-in-law's family, and the man's parents are generally exempted, so the so-called daughter-in-law is good and intimate. In fact, isn't it just selfish, and you think it's a good idea to have a daughter?

Chaoshan area, Guangdong Province.

It has always been a well-known fact that China prefers sons over women. Never be able to go to the wet market.

From the parents who are willing to leave their possessions to their sons, to the brutal drowning of a newborn baby girl, many people will cry over the disgraceful behavior of their hometown. If you ask why some people prefer sons over daughters? Many people should: because of poverty.

First, the parents of some poor families hope to have something to rely on in their old age. This is also why many people think that patriarchy cannot be completely ** in the United States, and only ** poverty can eliminate the disharmony between men and women, and patriarchy can really get rid of it. Is it really just because of poverty?

Guangdong, where patriarchal ideology is most serious, is the Chaoshan region of Guangdong Province. Most people in such families will have four or five children. Four or five is very common, and there are many families with six or seven children.

They can form mahjong tables and basketball teams at will, and many families don't give up until they have children. When it comes to the Chaoshan area, most people don't know. However, when it comes to trendy merchants, we should all be regulars.

It is one of the three most famous business groups in China.

2. Former richest man in ChinaLi Ka-shingIt's all here. Chaozhou, Guangdong.

There are not only a few thousand, but also hundreds of millions of people who can be counted with "more than a dozen". The oppression of men over women is a social concept of inequality between men and women. It values the rights and interests of men, defines women as subordinates of men, and restricts women's opportunities to develop their personal talents and personal freedom.

This perception is common in male power.

Society, often accompanied by the idea of male superiority and the gender division of labor. Patriarchal attitudes can also influence parents' willingness to have boys and girls. For example, the ancient Chinese oracle bone inscription.

Think that it is good to have a boy and a bad to have a girl. Such a place where rich people walk everywhere has become the deepest patriarchal place in the country.

3. There are people here who look up to children and reject them. They may not pay much attention to the cultivation of their daughters, but they are very strict with the cultivation of boys in the virtual silver world, and they have exercised their business philosophy very early.

I don't know if it's because the people here have great careers. If you want to raise a child well, you have to have more children. Therefore, some people live more and can earn more.

This reason may be that the heavy fight is a man, but the nouveau riche is one of the reasons. If we do further research, we should improve our thinking.

The most patriarchal places in China are in the areas of southern Fujian and Chaoshan, and in the northeast of China, women have no status, especially in the backward rural areas, where the preference for sons over women is even more powerful. The daughter earns money to support the family, and she also marries a daughter-in-law for her son.

I feel that there is more or less patriarchy in every place, but I feel that the northern withered limbs are stricter and heavier, everyone actually wants equality, and does not want to be patriarchal, but many people are still the same, and there is no change in the old boy.

It is generally believed that in some parts of Guangdong, some people will have this kind of thinking. I don't think that's advisable, and that there should be equality between men and women.

No. In the previous era, this kind of thinking was indeed very common, and this phenomenon was everywhere, but with the development of the current society, it will slowly decrease, and this phenomenon will still exist more or less, I think there are two reasons:

1. The traditional concept is deep-rooted, and it is the reason for the emergence of the traditional concept. Tradition tells us that daughters are the water poured out by married daughters, and only by raising sons can we pass on the family, and we have emancipated our minds and made progress in society, but this concept still exists, especially in some backward areas where the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is serious.

2. Many people mainly rely on their sons to support their old age.

In addition, there is a very real reason that many elderly people do not have a pension. In his later years, he basically relied on his son to support his old age. Once a daughter marries far away, she can't count on her daughter. For this reason, many families prefer boys over girls.

As a parent, you should properly handle the relationship between your children:

1. Don't judge two children by genderDon't judge two children by gender, give birth to a boy or girl, the son can support the elderly, and the daughter can also support the elderly. They are all children of their own, and the palms and backs of their hands are meat.

2. Don't distinguish right from wrong by age, and don't distinguish between right and wrong by age. Parents always put "you are the elder sister, let the younger brother" and "you are the elder brother, let the younger sister" as the first sentence, which is not only easy to hurt the child's heart, but also is not conducive to the formation of the child's correct values!!

Patriarchy in China is a cultural and social phenomenon that is prevalent in many parts of China. However, some areas are more severe than others. According to reports, the rural areas of northern China are most likely to have the most severe preference for sons over women, with some counties in Shaanxi, Shanxi, Shandong, Henan and other provinces having an extremely unbalanced gender ratio of men and women, and even some counties and districts have a sex ratio of 130:

100 or more.

In these areas, residents often see boys as being able to inherit family business, assume family responsibilities and provide for old age, while girls are seen as a burden that does not bring wealth and honor to the family. In addition, in rural areas, dowries and bride prices have become a heavy financial burden, so having a boy is considered a better option.

It is worth mentioning that China has taken a large number of measures, such as the implementation of "family planning", the promulgation of relevant laws and regulations, and the strengthening of publicity and education, etc., to change the cultural concept of preference for sons, but the actual effect is not obvious.