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Cultivate more of your own interests and hobbies, so that you can find some like-minded friends, friends don't care more, don't go to a car of potatoes and don't blindly please others, because this will make others look down on you, do yourself, make friends you like, people who like you will always help you, be optimistic. I hope it can help you, and I hope to adopt it.

You don't have to deliberately change yourself, and there are very few friends to show that these people who are left are sincere to you.

Participate in more activities, don't stay at home, you can take the initiative to date the person you want to date!

1. Cultivate a few more hobbies. Especially multi-player cooperatives, such as soccer and basketball.

2. Don't be too careful.

3. Participate in other people's chats.

Why can't you make friends, talk to them about the same topics, often play together, anyway, it won't take long to get acquainted, as long as you are familiar, sooner or later you will become your friends, don't be so afraid to communicate with people, be bold, there are always friends who like to play with you.

Be honest with each other and look at people's advantages.

Make friends, make close friends, don't make friends with alcohol and meat, there are not many friends, it is enough to have a few who really help you.

Treat people with sincerity, the heart of harming people is indispensable, and the heart of preventing people is indispensable!

Perfect; Who is born with the ability to do anything; put their mouths on other people's faces and let them speak; If you don't listen, you'll be fine; Always think that you owe nothing to anyone; Even the boss is the same; You do things for him; He pays you; It's just a partnership; Even if you're not doing well; Don't listen to what others say about you yet; Think about yourself first and not doing enough well; to improve it well; impress others; Have faith in yourself; Next time you go to find a job, find what you will do; Others will have the opportunity to learn slowly in the future; Everyone in the world is equal, don't feel that others are your leader; You're so scared that you have to know in your heart that you're taking the boss's money; It's not for whom; So don't be afraid; As long as you do things well; Don't be afraid of colleagues who go ahead of you; You have to take the initiative to get closer to them; Even if you can't, they'll be willing to teach you; to integrate into this society; Don't stay away from this society; It's up to people to be bold enough to find a job; Come on, you can definitely do it.

You don't dare to look for a job, maybe it's because you're not confident enough, right? Generally speaking, people with low self-esteem and introverts will withdraw and avoid interpersonal communication, and even stay at home and dare not go to work, which must be adjusted in time, because once a person cannot communicate and work normally, social functioning will be impaired. First of all, you need to know what is the reason why you are afraid to work?

Are there any negative life events or emotional memories that are holding you back? Systematic psychological counseling in a timely manner.

I hope you will overcome yourself and succeed soon!

Work phobia, as the name suggests, is the fear of work. Because of various internal factors such as lack of self-confidence, lack of social adaptation experience and ability, unclear goals for the next stage, and pressure on employment prospects, people feel that they are not interested in any work, they are afraid of work, and the various things brought about by work also make people feel psychologically uncomfortable.

People with workphobia will always imagine going to an unfamiliar environment all of a sudden, and will not adapt to this comprehensive and inexplicable fear** is more complicated, most of the similar fears are not clearly directed, and many of them are vague, vague but make people restless, which is also more common in the group of fresh graduates.

So, how should you correct your mentality? You can take the following methods to make a list of the following things, complete them purposefully, and then slowly get rid of the fear in your heart.

1. Calm down with a blank piece of paper, list your fears one by one, and when you look carefully, maybe they are not as fearful as you think.

2. Determine the phased goals.

3. Consciously train self-confidence, learn self-regulation, and improve the ability to resist setbacks.

4. Self-enrichment.

I hope my advice will be helpful to you and have a great day!

Let go of the burden and only then can you travel far.

The first job is full of negative energy through your description, if you want to listen to the truth, and make dignified achievements in the future to be recognized by colleagues and society, then I tell you, the reason is in you, if a unit team is wrong in your eyes and in your confiding, the problem must be in ourselves, really, not that you are wrong, but choose the wrong career direction and position, for example, you are an honest and low-key technician, but you go to the non-mainstream showbiz to find a job, you and they are not all the way, what to do, Change your work ideas and work direction, the first job in front of you really has no chance with you, you don't want to go to your heart.

When looking for a new job, it is easy to go into battle, introduce yourself truthfully, do not brag or feel inferior, only show your most prominent characteristics, and do not talk about irrelevant materials: first of all, you must understand the basic situation of your employer in advance, second, be familiar with the requirements and treatment of the position you are applying for, and thirdly, talk about your own situation. Why did you choose?

If you get the final interview or the opportunity to enter the position, you must obey the arrangement of the superior The vision of the superior sees farther than us, more than us, can not take it for granted with his own henchmen, it is important for the team to be in step with each other, the boss is looking for someone to create profits, not a charity, and at the same time to communicate and cooperate with colleagues, and actively communicate with colleagues Do their own things conscientiously at work, taking into account the working relationship before and after, these working environments are good, and everyone is happy.

Only you can rest assured that you can definitely get the job you want You will definitely find a platform to show an excellent you, not to comfort you is true, I am a person from the past, I hope that young people can be positive, you can bravely analyze your past, very good and brave, brave people will definitely go further and live better, good luck awaits you.

First, people always have to keep progressing, improving, and growing. Interpersonal relationships, dealing with people, you may not be very good at now, but with the increase of your experience and practice, I believe you will become more and more skilled and accessible.

Second, if one unit is not suitable, it may not be that other units are also suitable. You should not look at the problem in a partial way, and you should not overturn a boatload of people with a single stroke. There are so many units out there, there's always something for you - you can try a few more, and one is more suitable, isn't it?

And in a unit, there are so many leaders and employees, there are always people who have a temper with you - if you encounter any troubles or disputes, you can ask the leaders and seniors who have your temper to help you talk, reconcile and judge. In the face of the same colleague, you also have to look at the problem in two, and be good at discovering their strengths, as well as their simple, honest and kind side.

Third, when you are upset and depressed, you can go outdoors, exercise, and relax. Usually pay attention to broaden your mind and vision, and don't worry about the troubles, gains and losses of a moment or a thing.

Specifically, you can refer to 'Rational Emotions**'.

In fact, don't force yourself to do a lot of things, just let go of what you want to do, you hesitate for too long and don't dare to do it, which feels like a waste of time. Maybe during this period of your hesitation, you can already let go of it, the results are good and bad, if it's good, you can share your happiness, if it's bad, just look away, in fact, it's not a big deal, isn't it a failure, just think it's an experience in your life, it's good to have more experience, and then I will recall that I am also a person with a story, so in life, we must be an optimistic and straightforward person, and we must also have a bold heart, even if we fail, But you are very brave to challenge, which is also a point of your success. So be less hesitant and go for it.

According to your narrative, to put it simply: you do need systematic psychological adjustment, even though the root of the problem is not yours.

The first is the change in the social environment: 1. After the Cultural Revolution, Chinese mainland began to move into an inferior society, and it was comprehensive and three-dimensional. And it's getting worse. In view of the fact that the whole social stability is involved, it cannot be taken into account to be completely rectified.

2. The main body of the proletariat in China is the main body of the proletariat in the category of lumpenproletariat. There is a widespread sense of beggars and their habits of scoundrels. However, the Cultural Revolution infinitely promoted the consciousness and behavior of hooligans.

So much so that it is necessary to provide guarantees for social transformation through military management. According to international practice, military control is actually a very serious social incident. And because of your different family backgrounds and different educations, you can no longer bear injustice and injustice.

I had no choice but to hide back home.

Then analyze the problem of "others have done wrong but don't be said, but I am used to say it in public".

As the saying goes: 1, gods and ghosts are afraid of the wicked: if someone makes a mistake and takes it for granted, the leader will definitely turn a blind eye to it, but look for a second employee who made a mistake to criticize. to warn all. What is the reason?

Maybe the first one really didn't know what was wrong, or maybe the leader didn't reflect it for a while. It is more likely that the leader is doing things to be effective, criticizing a thorn that is not easy to provoke, and it may be more laborious to achieve educational results, why doesn't he choose how fast and easy to save the method? In family education, mothers are biased towards each or younger sister, you can't be unheard.

For the person concerned, they will feel the same way as you.

I don't know if it can completely heal your psychological wounds. I hope you will carefully consider yourself and relax and face it bravely.

If you have any doubts in the future, you can continue to ask.

When I graduated, I was deceived by my classmates into going to a pyramid scheme den and was locked up for half a month, and escaped by my own cleverness.

Later, I started a business with a friend, and the business was successful, but I was out.

Later, when I was the most difficult time, I went to take the civil service exam in a different place, and I was excluded from the exclusion without a foundation, and I resigned in depression, and I also experienced some political struggles during the period, which was definitely a very important lesson in my growth.

Later, I went to graduate school, followed a not-so-good tutor, and experienced some setbacks.

After coming out to work again, my mentality is much calmer.

It can be said that the whole journey is full of lessons learned, lessons in exchange for blood and tears.

The most important thing is how to adjust your mentality correctly and quickly, and don't be afraid of losing.

Possibly, you have to learn how to get along with people. Communication was a bit of a problem. It can't be said that honest people will be bullied. First, reflect on yourself and how you handle this when someone else is in your position. I didn't do it right.

Don't blame anyone else for all your problems. First of all, look for problems from yourself.

If you want to look for a job and don't continue to look for it, it will indirectly affect your personality. Some people want to change their attitude towards life all day long, but they don't know that again and again to their own laissez-faire self, do not restrain themselves, let the attitude of getting by, affect your personality, then in the future outside friends, job hunting, work, will make others feel that you as a person, the behavior and attitude of doing things, are not able to figure out all the time, it is easy to do small things, let you stick to things, then there will be no good results to bloom.

Pro: Your previous job was just bad luck and you ran into a colleague like that. In fact, there is no perfect job and no perfect colleague relationship outside, the key is that you don't have confidence in yourself, do a good job, make yourself strong, others will not look down on you.

First of all, you have to realize that the previous job has brought you experience, realize that you need to correct, and whether others say that you are completely wrong, if there is no problem with the three views, you can ignore what others say and do it yourself. Go to the interview with self-confidence, everything is difficult at the beginning, and you will succeed.

Maybe this location isn't for you, but there's always a location that suits you.

In fact, in your case, I personally think that you can find some jobs to do in positions where the labor is not particularly large, of course, being angry at work does not mean that there is no such position. The key is to adjust your mindset, take a step back, and if you feel that people are difficult to get along with, this is a bit of a mindset in itself.

The key point is to change the environment, and before you decide to do a job, you can go to the place where you work a few times and see more, and when you are familiar with the environment, the fear will be reduced.

To sum up, the mental endurance is too poor.

The workplace is inherently a complex place. There are hundreds of different kinds of people, and different ways of getting along with different people are needed. As you can tell from your account, the working environment in your previous unit was not very good in itself.

It's not just a matter of personal willingness. The influence of corporate culture, the influence of supervisors on the team, the proportion of work distribution and other factors are all direct factors that cause employees to have a strong sense of belonging to the company. Of course, your poor communication skills and poor psychological adjustment skills are also one of the factors.

You need to reflect on what you are not doing well, such as whether the work arrangement is scientific, whether you use your working time correctly, and whether you get along with others in a tolerant and empathetic mode. Then it is bold to go out and choose a suitable team (a good team working atmosphere should be harmonious, and team management can resolve conflicts between employees in a timely manner).