What should I do if I get tired of it all of a sudden? What to do when you get tired of it

Friends are a lifelong treasure!

Do you know why you're tired of it? Maybe it's a weak inner performance, you're afraid of losing friends, right? In order to make yourself less uncomfortable, make an attitude of not wanting to pay attention to her?

In any case, please cherish your friendship!

I envy you so much, you can have such a perfect relationship, really, to cherish it!

It's hard to get back what you've lost!

Wishing you happiness!

Before you, I want to ask you a question:

a= when you are in two different places; b = when you are in the same place.

What do you think her character looks like?

What do you think her personality is like now?

3.Compare the results of 1 and 2 to see how they differ.

What do you know, what are her habits?

Look at it now, what are her living habits?

6.Compare the results of 4 and 5 to see how they differ.

i.Do you think her character is good or what are her shortcomings?

ii.Do you think her lifestyle habits are good?

From your point of view, what shortcomings do you dislike about her?

From your point of view, what do you dislike about her lifestyle?

First of all, I want to make it clear: I don't mean anything else, I just want to illustrate a problem with this little quiz.

Each of us has shortcomings, and there are things we hate, but the things we hate ourselves do not mean that others will hate them the same, you don't want to talk to your friends, it's a recent thing, it shows what happened in the middle, recognize you and have a new view of your friends, you should think about it, you can talk about it before, why can't you talk about it now?

It's hard to meet a close friend, so cherish it!

Friendship, I'm sure it's going to be fine, maybe you've encountered something these days.

So I'm a little upset that you don't want to see anyone right now, not just your friends.

Hehe, you don't want to kill people if you are disgusted, let alone your most important friend.

So keep communicating and keep being good friends.

It won't be long before that

I envy you for having such a friend! It will be fine in a while. There's nothing you can do about it now.

I started to get tired of it after a year of marriage. I heard them say that the relationship will become dull after marriage, at first I didn't believe that this kind of thing would happen, and if there is a problem, it can only mean that someone has changed their mind. Confident in my relationship, I suddenly found out one day after I got married, that all this would happen.

I just didn't expect this feeling to come not only but so quickly.

She and I met and fell in love when we were in our first year of college, and our relationship was very good, not only did there be no major problems during our relationship, but our relationship was very sweet. Every day, the two of us study together, exercise together, do what we like, and in our spare time, we choose to travel together. Leaving a lot of good memories for each other.

So after graduating from college, we quickly chose to get married.

At the beginning of our marriage, Chachai's life was the same as we imagined, we got along closely, we felt very happy every day, everyone envied our feelings, and we ourselves were very satisfied. But the good times didn't last long, and after about a year or so of marriage, many problems were exposed one after another, and we didn't have a common language for the same thing, and we quarreled as soon as we spoke, and slowly we didn't want to communicate with each other anymore. She has her goals, I have my ideas, and there is a big gap in our values.

Sometimes I would rather talk to my friends than communicate with each other when I have something in my heart, and this feeling comes unconsciously. Seeing each other tired of the feeling of being born from the heart makes our love life more and more dull, in a word, it is that although they are nominally husband and wife, they live a single life with each other.

Love and marriage need to be carefully cared for and managed, once there is a problem, you should be brave to face bold communication, and you can't be blindly willful. Two people have no understanding and communication, and sooner or later they will hate each other. Don't choose marriage if you're not ready, because the feeling of disgust is just too bad.

I think it's generally three or four years after marriage that you start to get bored. Especially after having children, everyone will quickly get tired of married life and get tired of each other.

Not long after getting married, I conceived a baby, due to malnutrition, and because I don't know how to cook, my husband didn't have time to take care of me, so I could only go to my mother-in-law for a while to go to my mother's house, at that time I felt that I was slowly beginning to have a gap with my husband, I told him many times, his mother is not my mother, it is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but I went to my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law plays mahjong every day, The cooking is not on time, and my father-in-law smokes at home every day, and it is useless to say it, and at this time he always says that I am not sensible, etc., and slowly finds that he is unwilling to call him to say these things.

Later, I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also dedicated to taking care of me, because I was pregnant and vomited too much, my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of my parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and he couldn't come to the bureau to smile and forgive.

Later, I couldn't take the baby alone, and it was true that a person would not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, and his parents didn't hit one, at first I and he would be a day, and then slowly I didn't want to pick him up, and I didn't want to talk to him too much, we were separated for about ten months, and I went back again, I felt that the two of them could not be like the feeling when they were in love, at that time we had just been married for three years, and the feeling at that time was that I wanted to return to a person's life.

Because there is no sense of novelty.

After three years of marriage, we start to get tired of it, and I think that generally about three or four years, especially after having children, everyone will quickly get tired of married life and tired of each other.

Not long after we got married, I conceived a baby, due to malnutrition, and because I didn't know how to cook, my husband didn't have time to take care of me, so I could only go to my mother-in-law's house for a while, and then I felt that my husband and my husband slowly began to be estranged, I told him many times, his mother is not my mother, it is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but I went to my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law plays mahjong every day, The cooking is not on time, and my father-in-law smokes at home every day, and it is useless to say it, and at this time he always says that I am not sensible, etc., and slowly finds that he is unwilling to call him to say these things.

Later, I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also taking care of me wholeheartedly, because I was pregnant and vomited too much, my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of my parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and I had to understand.

Then we couldn't take the baby alone, and it was true that a person would not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, his parents ** did not hit one, at first I and he will be a day **, and then slowly I don't want to pick him up **, and I don't want to talk to him too much, we separated for about ten months after I went back, I felt that the two of them could not be like the feeling when they were in love, when we were married for just three years, and the feeling at that time was that I really wanted to return to a person's life.

How to deal with the burnout period of love.

1.Recognizing that imperfection is the norm in love.

The boredom period in a relationship is the most normal stage in the love process, and it can be said that 99% of lovers will go through this stage. Many people will fall into such a misunderstanding, if my lover is the right person I met, we will not have a conflict, otherwise, it will not be the perfect person in my heart, they will think that the other party has changed. But the reality is that there is no perfect fit between the two, imperfection is the normal state of the relationship, and lovers must run in with each other to become more compatible.

And the boredom period of the relationship is a good opportunity for both parties to run in with each other, and many lovers are working hard to get through the boredom period, and there is a high probability that they are going to the final marriage. Therefore, it can be said that the period of emotional boredom is what lovers must go through in the end.

2.Enhance the self-development ability of the relationship between the two.

If you think that you are bored with your lover because you feel that your relationship can no longer help you grow, you can try adding new challenges to your relationship. For example, you can work together to create an English study plan to increase your language skills, or plan a long-term trip to increase your knowledge.

Of course, you can also work harder to improve yourself, so that they can still feel that they can still get the ability to improve from you.

3.Don't always choose to run away from the problems of two people.

In fact, there is another very important reason for the boredom period, that is, when you find that you are tired of each other, there is a conflict or conflict, and the way you choose is to escape, hide or turn a blind eye. However, this is just your own self-deception, and many problems that you do not face directly may temporarily avoid conflict, but in the end, such problems will accumulate and eventually cause irreparable results. Therefore, when a problem arises, it is more advisable for the two to pick a suitable time to sit down and talk, and it is best to tell the other person in advance about the problem you want to talk about, so that the other party has more time to think, and such a conversation will be more effective.

There are always times when people are tired of life, tired of work, tired of eating, tired of walking, tired of love, and even tired of themselves. I can't do anything to lift my spirits, I suffer from Midsummer Syndrome, comfort myself like this, I can't always get along with myself, I can't compete with myself, so I suffer from gains and losses, there is no benefit, the world is big in the palm of my hand, my life is very short, I am depressed and not happy, but I still can't be happy. Maybe after this summer, when autumn comes, the trees will be full of heavy fruits, and the mood will be full.

The green space outside the office window was turned into a paddy field after the rain, and it was said that it was intended to be used as a football field, but it was never built, and it was deserted, overgrown with weeds, and from a distance, it looked like a square rice field. Occasionally, magpies fly by, and on a clear day, dragonflies can be seen dancing in the sunlight above the greenery. So I fantasize, if I have a few acres of land, by my own planting, how good would it be, spring planting and autumn harvest, self-sufficiency, vegetables and grains, are pure green, spring roses, autumn chrysanthemums, sunrise and sunset, what kind of life picture will it be?

…It turns out that I want to escape, I want to escape from this complicated world, but there is nowhere to escape, and I am surrounded by bustling crowds and faces, whether you want to or not, you have to face it intimately. I have always wanted to find a seaside fishing village with few people to take a few days off, adjust my impetuousness, sort out the gains and losses of the past ten years, and set a direction for myself in life, where to go, where to go, where to go, I should give myself an explanation, so it is really boring to do nothing. How happy you are, how to live, life is short, there is no reason not to be happy, persuade yourself like this every day.

When I persuaded myself in this way, I experienced a painful struggle in my heart. Now I understand that the philosophies of my predecessors were originally used to persuade myself, but unfortunately, most of the people who invented these philosophies eventually failed to persuade themselves. Fighting against yourself is the hardest thing.