A summary of the content of 18 ways to communicate that make others like you

Summary. Hello dear, glad to answer for you. Pros make you love your eight communication skills.

Hello dear, glad to answer for you. Pros make you love your eight communication skills.

1. Try to avoid rhetorical questions and slag sentences, and use more objective declarative sentences. This is the most typical sentence, "I didn't tell you", and the posture "You haven't .......""Too many young people use it, and it sounds like it's a question. If you want not to annoy people, use less rhetorical questions and use declarative sentences quietly.

2. Use less closed questions, and use more open questions. Closed refers to, is it not, whether, or multiple choice. Open means, what, why, how.

Of course, we need to look at the context here. As long as you pay attention, you will understand how to use open or closed.

3. Someone else gives you a thing, or someone else takes the initiative to help you do something, avoid saying "this stool is a very simple thing", and don't say "okay". Or the rude person politely declined, or thanked, or should say that you will do this well, or when this thing needs to be done and how important it is.

4. Try to avoid using "negative" or "negative" or pretending to guess "derogatory" words. In particular in writing principles should be avoided. Because people don't like to be rejected or denied outright.

Of course, the exception is when the judgment is based on objective facts rather than subjective judgments, and when it is particularly necessary to clarify the negative attitude.

6. Remember, many people are not to blame. Politeness should be maintained at all times.

7. The tone of voice is very important, and young people must reflect enthusiasm and positivity'State.

8. Don't fight with words. Many people think that sharp teeth are a sign of eloquence, but if you put too much emphasis on self and are competitive everywhere, fewer people will like to be happy and get along with people who are too frivolous and neat. Communicators are all about soft language to win hearts and solve problems.

1. Agree with others.

Learn to endorse and recognize. (Develop someone who naturally agrees with and approves of others.) ）

When you approve of someone, be sure to say it. (Nod forcefully and say "yes", "yes" or look the other person in the eye and say, "I agree with you", "your point is good.") ）

When you disagree with someone, never tell them unless you have to. When you make mistakes, be afraid to admit them. Avoid arguing with people.

Jesus also had little argument with people. No one wins an argument, and no one gets friends from an argument. Correct handling of conflicts.

2. Talk to others skillfully.

When talking to others, the topics they are most interested in – are themselves. Try to use these words – "you" or "your" instead of "I", "myself", "mine".

Remember: learn to lead others to talk about themselves.

3. Speak rationally.

Be sure to understand and be clear about what you are saying. (If you don't know what you're going to say, you don't have to stand up at all, let alone open your mouth.) ）

As soon as you have said what you have to say, sit down. (No one will criticize you for talking too little, everyone hates him if he talks a lot, remember it, and take it when you see it.) ）

4. Make others feel important.

Praise and compliment them, care for their families. Before their words, pause for a moment. (Appears to be listening intently and thinking carefully about what he is saying.) ）

Affirm those who are waiting to meet you. ("Sorry to keep you waiting.") ”）

5. Understand people and human nature.

People are first and foremost interested in themselves, not in other things, in other words, a person is more concerned about himself than about other people or other things 10,000 times.

1.Put yourself in a high position.

Men will set the standard for you based on first impressions.

If you put yourself in a high position when you are first together and need to take care of you carefully, then the other party will not snub you, and will be careful with you, take good care of you, and pamper you.

For example, at the beginning, a man asked you to eat and chose a roadside fast food restaurant, and later if you asked to go to a high-end Western restaurant, it would be considered material. But if you choose a high-end restaurant at the beginning, and then you are willing to eat a roadside stall later, it will be considered sincere and unpretentious.

In the relationship, you should constantly show the man that he is always loved, you can tell him: how others love you, how your family spoils you, etc., then the man will love you in the same way.

I also deserve better love, so you have to be nice to me!

If you establish a pattern of high position for him to love you at the beginning, then you will easily get his love.

2.Believe that you are loved.

There are many women who do not believe that they are worthy of love, feel that they do not deserve love, and often ask men: " Why don't you talk to me anymore, do you not love me anymore?" ”

If you talk too much about this kind of thing, it will make men think about whether they really don't love you, and it will lead men to affirm: I don't love you anymore.

Women must believe in their hearts that they are worthy of love, and replace "don't you love me anymore" with "You love me so much!" This is repeated to instill in him and guide him to love you more and more.

For example, if a man cooks a meal, you can say to him, "Wow, dear, you actually made dinner, I'm so happy, you love me so much!" ”

Or when a man picks you up from work, you can say to him, "You came to pick me up from work, it's hard work, you love me so much!" ”

In this way, he has been instilled with the idea that he loves you very much for a long time, and at first the man himself may wonder if he loves you so much, but in the long run, he has successfully instilled in the man the idea of loving you very much, and he will love you more and more.

Hello,1 you can first listen to what the other person wants to say, and then understand the conversation. 2. When the other party is in trouble, you take the initiative to help the other party. 3. Be more concerned in your life and let the other person feel that you care. In this way, the other party will gradually like you.

I very much agree with this statement and point of view, because people must learn to respect each other and be able to progress and grow together, so that we can better create a better life in the future, and life will become more meaningful.

Therefore, we must learn the right way to communicate with others, and the following points can help us effectively improve our ability to communicate with others:

1.Learn to understand each other more.

When you communicate with others, it is best to learn to understand others, if the other party's personality is more sunny and cheerful, then we don't have to be too serious, and if the other party is a more serious character, then when we communicate with others, we must fully understand and respect them, to communicate carefully and carefully, if the other party is a friend who doesn't know much, it is best to maintain respect and appropriate communication on daily topics.

2.Be considerate and respectful of others.

When we encounter problems that we don't understand, we should ask others for advice, respect others when communicating, don't talk endlessly, but learn to remain silent, let the other party express their opinions more, and when we encounter things we don't understand, don't rush to express them, we should learn to listen carefully, and give people a humble and serious attitude.

3.Communicate more about topics that the other person is interested in.

When communicating with others, everyone likes to communicate their own topics of interest and like to express their knowledge to others, so we must first learn to understand and listen to others' opinions, so that the other party can feel your sincerity and feel that communicating with you is a very pleasant process, because everyone hopes that they can be understood and respected by others, and more exchanges of each other's expertise and knowledge are precisely to understand each other and have a common language with each other.

4.Learn to listen humbly.

When communicating with others, it is necessary to learn to listen carefully and carefully, do not interrupt others, and listen more patiently, so as to understand and respect others, and only in this way can we reflect our sincerity and modesty and courtesy, so as to gain true friendship.

5.Praise others a lot.

Praise is a kind of respect, but also a kind of recognition of the other party's performance, when communicating with others, if we can properly express praise for the opinions expressed by others, this is undoubtedly to give the other party a feeling of respect and recognition, the other party will also very much agree with our understanding and respect, at the same time the other party will also have a new understanding of us, effectively promote the happiness and smoothness of communication.

The first type: "i" type communication.

This is a self-centered communication style, thinking that I am for your good, I solve your problems, how can there be a wrong point of view to communicate.

Colleague A: How can it work in such a hurry?

Colleague B: You have to think that the overcoat is my plan, it will definitely not work.

In the end, it ended in quarrels, and no one was convinced.

The second type of "U" communication.

U-shaped communication = how you feel.

Is "you" the subject, empathize with "you" feelings, and say it? As long as you follow your inner feelings and help the other person express them realistically, he will feel that he is "seen" and will be more willing to talk to you further.

Colleague A: What do you think are the possible problems with this solution?

Colleague B: Well, it's going to be executed next month, and the time is in a hurry.

Colleague A: So what are you going to do?

Colleague B: I'm going to take another look at the work and reorganize a specific workflow.

Colleague A: Why are you doing this?

Colleague B: Determine the time node of each link and control the progress of the project.

Different expressions in the same case have completely different results. Because if you tell him the answer, and the answer he finds on his own, the result may be the same, but the effect is completely different. One is passively receiving lead imitation, and the other is actively excavating, which makes people feel that this is the answer I have thought out of myself, and it is my own business.

My sense of happiness lies in the friendliness and warmth between family members, which can make us feel the beauty of family affection and learn to cherish family affection and a happy life.

Therefore, it is very important to learn to get along with family members and communicate with each other, and we should pay more attention to the appropriate way of communication.

1.Learn to empathize.

When we all know how to empathize, our tolerance will be effectively improved, and the chat will become more pleasant and efficient.

2.Talk about topics that interest everyone.

When you communicate with others, you have to talk about topics that the other person is interested in, which is also the common language we often say, chatting with common topics is usually more pleasant, and the resulting sympathy will make people expect more communication from us.

3.Learn to praise others from the bottom of your heart.

Wise people must learn to praise others from the bottom of their hearts, and it can only be unwise to oppose others, even if you do not agree with other people's views, but it is best not to say it in public immediately, if it is not a very important thing, you can also not say it, learn to praise others from the heart, and the communication will be smoother and happier.

4.Learn to listen carefully.

Everyone has the idea of expression, when you meet others who need to express the content, you can learn to listen, remember that when you learn to listen, you will become more and more wise, and will be liked by more and more people, pay attention to what others say, listen to others' words attentively, communication will become smoother, and we will know how to respect others.

5.In the conversation, approve before making suggestions.

When we have good suggestions, we must first recognize the other party's point of view before putting forward any reasonable suggestions, and use euphemistic suggestions to achieve better communication results, and communication will be smoother and more efficient.

<><1 Praise the other person's behavior more than the individual;

2 Kind words are to show your respect and gratitude, and only in moderation;

5 In the face of praise from others, just say thank you.

6. Appreciate the elegance of your competitors, even if you don't agree, you must learn to respect them;

7 Unless you have a certain foundation of friendship or trust, don't criticize freely;

8 Avoid being superficial.

9 Criticism can also be pleasing to the ear, as in "About you." I have some ideas, maybe you can listen to them";

Avoid saying hurtful things in the name of being good to you;

1 1 The timing of the submission of comments is important;

1 2 Pay attention to the occasion and do not criticize your friends or colleagues in front of outsiders;

1 3 In addition to criticism, it is better to provide positive suggestions for improvement;

1 4 Don't always deny what others say, such as, "No, it should be, 'It's not like that.'"

1 5 Don't echo others when they laugh at themselves, for example, when a girl says she is fat, you say "yes, hahaha";

1 6 Start with "you" and use less sentences that start with "I", and don't talk about your feelings and experiences all the time;

1 7 When chatting, first ask the other person about the situation, and let the other person take the initiative to share it makes people feel much more friendly;

1 8 Use civilized language, less swearing;

1 9 Most of those who dare to laugh at themselves are high-level people, and putting oneself in a low position is something that only those who are truly confident in their hearts can do;

2 0 Don't get too close to people when you talk to them;

2 1 Pay more attention to oral hygiene;

2 2 Avoid small movements when talking to people, posture and temperament are also the focus of communication;

2 3 Put yourself in the shoes of the other person and think about how to make people feel most comfortable.

2 4 When many people talk together, take care of the person with whom they are least acquainted.

2 5 It's always right to say "thank you" to the cleaning aunt, taxi driver, and waiter;

2 6 When you have made sacrifices for others or have been wronged, it is really difficult to resist the urge to tell the other person and the desire to make the other person blame and feel guilty, but it is good to be patient.

2 7 Keep smiling during conversation and nodding your head when you feel approving.

2 8 Refuse personal questions with a smile, which will not embarrass the other person and keep your bottom line;

2 9 "There is a difference between "saying one" and "being self-righteous", so don't be rude.

Lu Cheng is true temperament;

3 0 Do not interrupt other people's conversations, listen and give feedback appropriately;

3 1 Joke and grasp the measure, the time and the place;

3 2 Even if there is a difference of opinion, do not rush to refute it, let the other party express it clearly.

3 3 Don't mention taboo things, and avoid talking about other people's taboo points, so as not to cause misunderstanding and hurt other people's self-esteem.

34. Try not to get involved in gossip.

35 Comb your hair, tidy up your clothes, and your pants, and be plain, and be generous and decent, which is the best respect for each other.