How to let go of what you can t get and are unwilling to do?

None of the problems that can be solved with money are problems, so what you are talking about here is certainly not material. Then I understand that it can only be love. The most difficult thing about love is artificial control, and emotional injury is nothing more than falling out of love, falling in love with someone who will never fall in love with you; Loving someone who no longer loves you; Loving an imaginary love, you have to first distinguish which situation you can't let go.

Falling in love with someone who will never fall in love with yourself, I think this is the saddest situation, this kind of not getting is more unforgettable than having oneself, of course, the length of time will naturally change a lot, and you will continue to change your expectations of love in the process of self-growth, so don't be complacent, make yourself more mature, intellectual, read more books, socialize, the world is so big that you can have a lot of time to see. Don't deliberately let yourself go or forget, in the process of self-growth, you will slowly let go of your original obsession, and then become brave and self-reliant.

You have to learn to forbear, Zhuge Liang is not born, and he is a blockbuster. Sometimes you need to wait quietly for an opportunity, and always be ready for the goal you are pursuing, and you must seize the opportunity when you have it. You can't spend all day frustrating and miserable that you can't get this thing.

People will be unwilling. But there's not much point in just thinking about it. Really improve yourself and narrow the gap with the great god is an explanation for yourself.

If you still don't get the result satisfying you despite your best efforts, then I don't think it's a big deal to let go. Everyone has their own ambitions, so why bother to make yourself unhappy and embarrassed. Accepting one's weaknesses is a manifestation of brains and bravery.

But if I have enough to achieve something, I usually won't give up easily, so please don't give up! Sometimes it may just be that you didn't find the right way and didn't grasp the key point.

The pain is because you are walking uphill, and the uphill road is laborious and full of obstacles, but the road ahead is what your heart desires. So congratulations, your life is on the right track. I can't let go of it because it's what your heart desires, so congratulations to you too, because once a person can really crave something from the bottom of his heart, then he is not far from getting it.

Because all ardent desires will cast a tenacious and undefeated heart, which can overcome everything.

You want to persuade yourself to let go, and you think it's time to adjust your attitude towards life. My experience is that in short, it's about setting yourself in the right position, and that means a lot about correcting your expectations. I always believe in a sentence, time can be everything.

Sincerely, the gold and stone are open. The two most terrible words in the world, one is persistence, and the other is seriousness. Serious people change themselves, and persistent people change their fate. As long as it is what you want, you must actively strive for it, embrace the pain, and what you can't let go of is the most precious thing in life.

Even if what we do is not a lifelong career, it is not a lifelong career, but we still have to be down-to-earth. Because all these bits and pieces are of great value. All these bits and pieces are a tempering of themselves, and all these bits and pieces have enhanced their knowledge and understanding of themselves and society.

Not to mention, the books read, the knowledge learned, and the skills honed during all this time. That's a bit of a sequestration.

A large part of people's suffering is not obtained, because you can't get it and let yourself fall into deep pain, then you are thinking about the problem from your own point of view. If you look at it from a different angle and think from the other party's point of view, there are generally three situations:

First, he doesn't know that you want something. Because there are some things that he has not experienced and has no concept. Therefore, when confronted with a certain situation, he does not know your needs.

For example, when some people feel sad, in their past experience, their family did not comfort him at that time. Therefore, when others are sad, he does not think of comforting them. Sometimes, even if he thought about it, he didn't know how to comfort others.

Second, he doesn't have the ability to give the Ran Pai what you want. For example, you want a Pissenhe car right now, and he knows about it, but in his current state, he doesn't have the ability to solve it. At this point, he may be in pain because he knows what you need, but he can't do it.

Third, he has the ability and knows what you want, and he sees you begging and crying but not giving it to you, which is what we often say about asking but not being able to. Whatever the reason, whether you feel that he is cruel or ruthless, your pain seems to have nothing to do with him.

In the above three situations, except for the first one, you can remind him or communicate with him, there is nothing you can do about the other two situations.

If you can understand that there are many things you want that you can't control, then you are lucky to get it; If you can't get it, don't worry too much. It's not your thing, and if you don't demand from others, you let yourself go.

Can you be specific? I don't know about you, I don't know how to help you.

In fact, there are many things that will always be understood after experiencing it, how to protect yourself after the emotional pain, how to persist and give up in a timely manner after being stupid, and we slowly understand ourselves in the gain and loss, and there are many things in the world that can only be seen clearly in the past. In fact, life does not need such indifferent attachments, there is nothing that cannot be abandoned. Learn to give up, and life will be easier; Learn to give up, turn away before crying, leaving a simple figure; Learn to give up and bury yesterday in your heart; Make good memories; Learn to give up, so that each other can have an easier start, the love that is bruised all over the body is not necessarily unforgettable, it is not easy to come over the deep and shallow love, gently pull out your hand to say goodbye, you don't have to let yourself be hurt more deeply, every gratitude is very beautiful, every companionship is very intoxicating.

Is it a pity that you can't have it, whether it is missing makes us feel more nostalgic, feelings are not the answer to the questionnaire, the hard pursuit can not make life more complete, maybe a little confused, a trace of sadness, will make this answer sheet longer, put away the mood and go, miss the flower you will harvest the rain, who said that if you like a thing, you must have, sometimes, some people in order to get what he wants, go to the extreme, maybe he got it, but in the process of chasing, What is lost is also incalculable, and the price paid is irreparable, perhaps those costs are heavy.

I don't think you have to have someone to love, but to have someone you have to love him well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop it, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (her) mind?

Love is not possession!

This happens to most people. It's worth doing your best to get it first, to the best of what you can, and not to work hard. After that, the result is not an achievement or a failure, but there is no need to say it, and if you fail, you can further consider more real reasons, and you will know yourself further, or change or find it again.

Try to forget, time will change everything!

Play games, sing, drink, and play mahjong.

Love is inclusive rather than indulgent, love is caring rather than pampering, love is intermingling rather than unrequited love, love is all kinds of flavors and not all sweetness. True love is not necessarily a perfect match in the eyes of others But the mutual fit of the hearts of people who love each other is to make each other's lives better and silently dedicate This love not only warms themselves, but also warms those worldly hearts True love is when you can love, know how to cherish True love is when you can't love, know how to let go Because, letting go is to have everything....Please love well when you cherish it When you let go, bless it well....True love is a kind of care and care that comes from the heart, there are no flowery words, no grandiose actions, only in every word and deed you can feel it. So plain and so firm.

On the contrary, swearing, promising shows its uncertainty, never believe sweet words. Feel it with your heart!~

If my answer can help you, please give a 5 star, thank you.

Happiness will not wait for you all the time, the people who love you and the people you love are not ready to appear, please learn to cherish them.

When a person who loves you deeply changes for you, it is because he loves you, and when you meet someone, he puts away his stubborn temper for you; And because he loves you, he turns your interest into his interest when ,...Or because he loves you.

There is no reason to like someone, and there is no regret to give.

They all think it's worth it, as long as they can be with the people they love.

In fact, we all have some such people around us, but (you. I. He hasn't discovered that the person who knows you best will always be by your side to protect you and not let you have a trace of grievances; People who truly love you may not say many things that love you, but they will do many things that love you.

If you find.

If there are such people around you, please cherish .......

Please remember! The stars that can't be picked are always the brightest, and the small fish that slip away are always the most beautiful. The missed movie is always the best, and the lost lover always understands you best.

This world, every.

Everyone has one. Those who want to look for it, once they miss it, they will not come back.

If you fall in love, don't let it go easily.

Abandon.. It's awkward, maybe you regret it for a while; But you give up, and it may make you regret it for the rest of your life. Experienced love.

The life of love is beautiful, and the love that cannot stand the test is not profound. Beautiful love enriches life, and love that has passed the test is perfect.